School bullying, also known internationally as "bullying", is a transliteration of the English "bully", referring to bullying and bullying.
The growth of children needs home-school co-education! Schools and parents should join hands to jointly prevent bullying and school violence, and support a blue sky for children.
Today, Xiaobian has compiled the "Parent Manual for Preventing and Controlling Bullying in Schools" for parents of primary and secondary schools for the majority of parents to learn and reference.
1. Whether their children are subject to bullying in school, how should parents distinguish?
Parents do not want their children to be bullied, and most of the children who are bullied will not take the initiative to talk to teachers and parents.
How can parents discern that their children are experiencing bullying and violence in schools? It can be judged by the following circumstances -
1. Children are afraid of going to school, find various reasons to postpone school time, or take some hidden, circular road when going to school.
2. Other manifestations of anxiety, such as bedwetting or nightmares, especially headaches or stomachaches when it comes to school in the morning.
3. Books or clothes are torn and other items are damaged, or there are scars on the body.
4. Loss of personal property.
5. Sometimes asking for or even stealing money from the family, lying that the teacher charges (may be asked for money by classmates).
6. Get a mysterious, disturbing phone call.
7. Never take other children home, and are rarely invited to participate in social activities of classmates.
8. Become grumpy and often lose your temper with your parents or siblings.
9. Look depressed, sad, or even threaten or attempt suicide.
10. Can not concentrate on homework, academic performance declines.
11. Refuse to talk about things at school or relationships with classmates, or to blink their words.
12. Carrying or attempting to carry a defensive tool (stick, knife, etc.) to school and exhibiting the body language of the "victim", such as refusing eye contact, shrugging his shoulders, etc.
13. Truancy.
14. Tell parents that they don't want to go to school anymore, or that parents are afraid that their parents will leave after sending their children to school.
Second, if the child suffers from school bullying, how should parents respond?
1. The first thing to do is to discuss it directly with your child. Usually children will be reluctant to talk to their parents because of shame and embarrassment.
At this time, it is even more timely to encourage them to know that they can trust you and can get your help at any time.
2. Temporarily let go of other things, accompany the child full-time, and give the child enough security. It is necessary to fully show firm support and affectionate love for the child and stabilize the child's emotions.
Pay attention to the child's behavior and psychology, if the child is psychologically afraid of going to school, afraid of going out, making friends anxious, etc., contact a professional to give guidance and help.
If the child is unwilling to tell the specific situation, do not scold him for being cowardly and useless, but patiently accompany him, encourage and wait for the child to tell the truth.
3. Work with the school to confirm your child's safety. Confirm that the school has dealt with the violence and that the school's discipline and attention to the student is appropriate.
If the violence occurs on the way to and from school, the school should arrange for the older student to accompany the older student to and from school, or the parents will personally pick up the child until the problem is resolved.
4. If your child is introverted and shy and lacks socialization, you should help him arrange more club activities that match his interests, cultivate appropriate social skills and build self-confidence.
Regardless of the behavior and state of the child, be patient.
5. Strengthen the connection with school teachers to create a safe and warm environment together.
6. Pick up and drop off your children from school and school when necessary to prevent your children from being bullied. Bullies find that there is no opportunity to take advantage of, and after a long time, they will dispel the idea of bullying or divert the target of bullying.
If your child commits bullying in school, what should parents do?
1. Discuss school violence with your child, teacher or school stakeholder, and let your child know right from wrong during the discussion.
Don't think that the child is not bullied by others, so as not to pay attention, which is also harmful to the child.
2. Tell your child clearly and unambiguously that you cannot tolerate such behavior, and that schools, teachers, society, and the law will not tolerate such behavior.
Talk to your child about the negative impact the victim may be having, have your child imagine how he feels bullied, and never accept reasons like your child is "just having fun."
3. Arrange an effective, non-violent, punishment in a manner related to your child's violent behavior and consistent with his age and physical and mental development.
Such a punishment asserts your authority, shows that doing something wrong will have consequences, and effectively deters violence.
4. Enhance your control over your child's participation in activities and whereabouts, and understand who he interacts with and whether he interacts with socially disadvantaged youth.
Spend time with your child and develop reasonable activity norms for them.
5. Cooperate with the school to correct the child's aggressive behavior, often keep in touch with the school teacher, and timely grasp the child's transformation.
6. Praise children for their non-violent, repentant and responsible performance, and respect for school norms and family style are also worth encouraging. Children who are seen working to improve abusive behavior should be praised.
7. If your child watches violent TV movies, cartoons or violent video games, these will enhance his violent and aggressive behavior, and it is recommended to change the entertainment habits of the whole family.
8. Make sure your child doesn't see violence between family members. Violence in the family can lead to violence in children at school and will also affect their later problem-solving methods.
4. What should parents do with children who watch bullying in school?
If the child is close to the bully, is a friend of the bully, stands on the side of the bully to help, or stands in solidarity with the bully, shoots the bully and the bullied, and is also a participant in the bullying.
Even if there is no actual participation in the scene, it is to cheer for the bully, to condone the bullying behavior, and it is wrong to watch the bullying behavior.
If you don't know each other, you can't watch in order to see the hilarity.
When there are many people, bullies will aggravate bullying and violence in order to show their strength, so pure bystanders cannot be said to have nothing to do with the incident.
Tell your child that you can neither bullying nor help carry out bullying, nor can you be a bystander to bullying in school.
Disciplining children is the legal guardianship duty of parents. Parents should master the scientific concept of family education and try to arrange as much time as possible to get along with their children.
Keep abreast of the child's daily performance and ideological status, actively communicate with the school, and consciously play an exemplary role.
Earnestly strengthen the discipline of children, especially to do a good job in the supervision and care education of children after leaving school, and avoid laissez-faire, lack of education and lack of care, and improper teaching.
We will all be strict with our children, but strict is not harsh, not abusive, not persecution.
Children grow up very quickly, but children's growth is a slow and long process.
What parents should do is to patiently accompany, communicate, care, guide children to judge right and wrong independently, form self-awareness, and believe that children have the awareness and ability to pursue progress.
Source: Jiangxi Education
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