What is the best trick to deal with bear children?
When the child is throwing and rolling, the parents on the other side are extremely broken, really eager to explode in place, even if there is nothing to do, but can not do nothing, the child is still waiting for your feedback!
At this time, parents can not blindly complain that the child is disobedient, but should reflect on what they are educating their children in their daily lives, otherwise how can the child want to use this trick against you?
If the child is disobedient and confused, can a beating solve the problem?
Fei Fei grew up under the care of his grandmother, and his personality became very stubborn, and whatever he wanted to do, he had to be satisfied at the first time, even in the middle of the night.
Although these bad habits at home make my mother very helpless, they have not touched the bottom line, and I can still hold back the anger in my heart and tolerate him.
But his habit of buying a new toy every time he goes out to the mall makes his mother intolerable. Mom also doesn't care about money and can't afford toys, but she thinks that such bad habits are fatal.
Just before this visit to the mall, my mother was determined to help Feifei change this problem. When I arrived at the mall, I flew straight to the toy store, picked up a Transformer and went outside.
Mom immediately stopped him and said to him, today we don't buy new toys, Mom will take you to buy cake okay? Although Fei Fei liked cake very much, as soon as he heard that he did not buy toys, he collapsed on the spot and lay on the ground.
Soon attracted a lot of people to watch, and even some bystanders said to their mothers, hurry up and buy it for him, what a shame! Mom's attitude towards this is very resolute, after all, she has already hardened her heart to govern Fei Fei.
Mom just squatted down to reason with Fei Fei, but the effect was not good, and then Mom was quietly on the side with Fei Fei, he still did not have a little tendency to give up, and finally Mom was really intolerable, and hit his ass hard a few times, so that it scared Fei Fei and obediently went home with his mother.
However, after returning home, Feifei did not eat or drink, and he had a fever of 39 degrees that night and was hospitalized.
Parents' response to foul children is nothing more than three:
Blindly compromise in order to save face
When the child makes a request to the parents, if the parents' response is very firm, and there is no room for negotiation if they are not satisfied, the child will start to stir up the thoughts.
The reason why they will make mistakes regardless of the occasion is because they are controlled by their emotions, and they will not think at all about losing face or not, which is caused by their own emotions.
However, face-loving parents face such a situation, once they make a compromise response, the child will be deeply remembered, so that in the same situation, can be tried and tested.
Use violence to solve the problem, coerce and induce the child to stop performing
In fact, parents who often use force are incompetent, perhaps they are too lazy to use their brains to come up with solutions to the problem, and feel that after using violence, it is simple and effective, and the purpose is to scare children.
Or maybe they can't think of an effective way, and the poor donkey skills can only make this decision. Either way, it can cause both physical and psychological harm to the child.
Although they stop their behavior out of fear, they will retaliate in other ways, even becoming their own code of conduct, and slowly the child will grow into a violent maniac.
"You don't go, I'm gone", the "killer skill" in the eyes of parents
There are also parents who use another way to intimidate their children. It is to tell the child that he will leave him alone in this place. As soon as this sentence is said, the effect is very obvious, and the child will obediently follow the parents.
Because the information point received by the child in this sentence is that the parents do not want him, even if it is a joke, they will take it seriously, their way of thinking is immature, it is impossible to analyze what the deep meaning of the parents is, can only be taken out of context.
Moreover, children who often hear this kind of words will become extremely insecure, or become autistic, or become very inferior. Because they don't know which of their behavior will trigger the parents' anger switch, if they really don't want themselves, won't they become orphans?
So, smart parents don't take this sentence as their own killer! If the child really suffers from mental illness, it is not easy to repair it!
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Have you ever said that to your child? If so, what was your child's reaction? Feel free to share your thoughts with us!