Poor to support themselves, take what rich to raise children

Xiao Zhang Xiaojie and his wife recently had a disagreement over the concept of raising their daughter. Xiao Jie advocated wealth and nourishment: "No matter how poor you are, you can't be poor in education, and you can't be bitter about your children." Now that the conditions are good, we must do our best to give her the best material conditions. In his opinion, rich material conditions are not necessary conditions for children to become talents, and long-term immersion in a honeypot does more harm than good. In the end, a sentence from the education expert made them stop noisy and fell into reflection: it is not wrong to raise children richly, but before that, it is you who should be rich.

In my opinion, a parent who is not enthusiastic about life and is extremely poor for himself, even if he does everything he can to raise his children, it is difficult to bring them inner confidence and fullness.

The story of Meng Mu's three migrations is familiar to everyone. Meng Mu, Ofe, a warring states person, was a very good woman, known for her godson. When Mencius was 3 years old, his father died. With strong perseverance and industrious hands, the Tong clan earned food and clothing. Not only did Mencius never feel what hunger and cold were, but he also got the "school district room" for him and created a first-class learning environment. Not only that, Meng Mu can even be called the inventor of prenatal education. The "Han Shi Wai Biography" contains a passage of her: "I am pregnant with a child, the seat is not right, the seat is not right, the cut is not right, the food is not eaten, and the prenatal education is also." In fact, as a mother, what is her credit? Without her, there would be no wisdom that "the sky is not as good as the location, the location is not as good as the people"; Without her, there would be no virtue of "old and old, and old, young, and young"; Without her, there would be no foresight to "be born in sorrow and die in comfort." Dive into the night with the wind, and the moisturizer is silent. It is no exaggeration to say that without the diligence and thriftiness of the Tong clan, the hardships of hard work, the adherence to the spirit of the festival, and the enrichment of oneself, there would be no future sanctification of Mencius.

Maizi's article "I struggled for 18 years to sit with you and drink coffee" became popular on the Internet and resonated. A peasant boy, after 18 years of struggle, has obtained the right to sit on an equal footing with his peers in the metropolis, which can be described as a true portrayal of a generation. In view of the limited conditions in the countryside, the learning conditions that fathers can provide for their children are still limited, even if they do their best. Material barrenness is harmless, and the lack of vision pattern is really fatal. He did not touch the computer, spent half a year soaking in the school computer room, only to complete the basic knowledge and operational skills that his classmates learned as early as middle school; His English is dumb English, the pronunciation Chinese and foreigners can not understand, it took 1 year to correct it; He can't paint, he can't play musical instruments, he doesn't know Hong Kong and Taiwan stars, he hasn't read martial arts novels, he doesn't know what walkman is, and he doesn't understand the concept of investment marketing. In order to solve these problems that are not a problem at all in the eyes of the students in the metropolis, in order to wash away the "soil and soil" accumulated over the years, the children of the peasant family have struggled for 18 years.

Mai Zi wrote that article, not to complain about the world, let alone to blame his parents. Because, in the eyes of the fathers who face the loess and turn their backs to the sky, the land is their destiny, they dare not and do not want to flee, they must hold on. Yu Lingxiong famously said: "Don't dare to gamble, can't put down, this is the thinking of the poor." "Honey, whether you are rich or unremarkable, I hope you ask your children to study seriously, take them out for a walk, and let the soul and body always be on the road." Because, once the thinking is poor and the pattern is small, you struggle for 18 more years, and you may not be able to find it back.

In the hit drama "Ode to Joy", Fan Shengmei's mother is a typical "Xianglin sister-in-law", she cries poor every time people, and "can't live" has become her mantra, as if she is the most unfortunate person in the world, eager for everyone to sympathize and comfort. What is even more tragic is that after Fan Shengmei established herself in the big city, her mother actually pointed the spearhead of crying poverty at her, endlessly asking for it, without the slightest regard for her daughter's situation and feelings. Fan Shengmei, who has long been shrouded in her mother's habit of taking advantage of small advantages and complaining, as an adult, although she is beautiful as a flower, has irreparable defects in her personality: inferiority and sensitivity, lack of self-confidence. The German philosopher Jaspers mentioned in "What is Education": "Education is a tree shaking a tree, a cloud pushing a cloud, a soul awakening another soul." Obviously, Fan Shengmei's mother's soul is not so fresh and sacred.

In fact, whether parents can provide their children with rich material conditions is secondary, the key is to broaden their horizons, increase their insights, and cultivate their strong will, character and sense of responsibility. These are also the true connotations of wealth. Parents are the best teachers for children, but if this parent does not know how to teach by example and blindly support himself poorly, what will he do to enrich his children?

(Editor-in-Charge: Li Donghai)