Lonely Fang should be self-congratulatory
There is an idiom "lonely fang self-appreciation", which is explained by self-appreciation as the only fragrant flower. Use this metaphor for a person's pretentious, self-appreciative mentality or posture.
For many years, I have understood and used this idiom according to the above explanation, and even endorsed another sentence related to this: "Loneliness does not give pleasure to oneself."
Reading it now, I still feel that the original understanding is a bit biased, at least not tolerant enough, not broad-minded enough.
Since it is a lonely fang, why can't it even be self-congratulatory? What kind of person are you, and do you have the advantages of shining incense? I know best. I think that everyone has their own shining point, everyone has a unique aroma, others can't see it, it's already very "unfortunate", if you can't see it yourself, it's really sad.
No matter what kind of person he is in the eyes of others, he must have "self-respect"! Self-esteem will be self-love, self-love can be self-improvement! If a person has no self-respect and no self-love, then this person will lose the dignity of being alive and lose the courage to live!
Besides, the lonely person is already in a very lonely position, without a concerned gaze, without an appreciative public, enough to be lonely. Then self-appreciate, don't waste the blooming "fanghua".
Self-congratulation should be due to the nature of things. Orchids bloom between the deep mountains and valleys, they will still be fragrant, no one appreciates it, it doesn't matter, you must appreciate yourself.
Let people be lonely and not self-congratulatory, is it difficult to let lonely people masochistic and self-deprecating and self-harming?! Lonely and not allowed to be self-congratulatory, it is really a bit overbearing.
You can not appreciate others, but you should not blame or ridicule others' self-appreciation, this is the tolerance and open-mindedness that people should have!
Also, the most narrow-minded thing is to describe the self-congratulatory person as pretentious and high-minded. I thought it was always good to be high. Qinggao is a hundred times higher than that kind of complicity! Those who say that others pretend to be high are often really people who cannot do it. When people who are high and high are ridiculed, more and more people will be complicit. Today, qinggao people are becoming more and more rare, and the reason is probably related to the lack of tolerance of "qinggao" in society.
