I am 31 years old this year, a small director of assembly line in a factory in Shenzhen. During the Spring Festival holiday, I returned to my hometown, bought a gift of 2,000 yuan, and went to my girlfriend's house as a guest. Before my girlfriend could say a few words, she came to the matchmaker with a well-dressed man.
My hometown is a small county town under Nanyang City, Henan Province. The family conditions are very general, and my parents are authentic farmers. After graduating from high school, I went out to work with my peers in the village. At first, I worked on a construction site in the city, but I was too tired to make much money. Later I went south to Shenzhen. Although working in the factory was hard, I was lucky enough to no longer be exposed to the sun and my salary was relatively stable.
In the blink of an eye, it's been 10 years. Through my own efforts, I also became a supervisor and earned 8,000 yuan. Although I earn more than before and am also a supervisor, buying a house and settling in Shenzhen is still a distant wish for me. I still want to save more money here, and then go back to my hometown to buy a house and get married, and then start my own business.
My girlfriend and I are from the same village, and because she also came to Shenzhen to work, we were together. Later, she felt that the factory work was boring, so she returned to her hometown to work, with a small income, but close to home.
After she returned to her hometown, we gathered less and left more. I can only go home twice a year. When she wasn't busy, she would come back to see me for a few days. The last time I saw her was on October 1st. I came back a few days early during the Spring Festival, thinking of coming back to rest for a few more days, and then going to my girlfriend's house to propose.
When I got home, my parents urged me to say, "Take advantage of the Spring Festival, buy something, first go to Xiaoyu's house to send it to your future in-laws, you can't go to her house several times a year." If you don't go to the Spring Festival, do people still recognize you? ”
Mom made sense, so I bought a 2,000 yuan gift, including tobacco and alcohol and snacks that my girlfriend Xiaoyu liked to eat, and went to her house.
The doors of rural households are usually closed during the day. When I came to Xiaoyu's house, the door to her house was really closed. I made it clear beforehand that I would be back later.
I waited a long time to open the door, and I was angry. I'm not welcome, am I? If you don't want me to come, tell me early.
I couldn't bear to show it. Asked Xiao Yu, "I just came." Why lock the door? It took so long to open the door. ”
Xiao Yu said, "The whole family is talking in the house, and I didn't hear a knock at the door." Please come in. ”
I came to the living room with my gifts. Xiao Yu's mother saw me coming and said very politely, "Liu Peng is here." Look at you. What do you do with things? Xiao Yu poured some water for Liu Peng, and I cooked first. ”
Xiao Yu's mother was very polite, but she said that when she went to the kitchen to cook, she went directly to the kitchen with the gifts I bought.
I sat down and didn't say a few words to Xiao Yu, and another guest came to her house. A woman shouted in the courtyard, "Are you at home?" I am Xiangcui. ”
Xiao Yu hurried out. I wonder who this is and what are you doing here? Then I heard the woman outside the door say, "Xiao Yu, I brought you someone." Look, it's a handsome man. Go inside and say it. ”
yes? Is it a matchmaker who says media? I hurried out to have a look. When I walked into the yard, the woman in her 40s hadn't spoken before I could speak. She said, "Who is this young man?" Is it Xiao Yu's relative? I came to find Xiao Yu to talk about the media, and you also helped Xiao Yu to check the pass. This young man is not only handsome, but also runs his own electric car shop, which is very profitable. ”
After hearing all this, I was particularly embarrassed. Don't know how to answer? I don't speak, but the matchmaker is getting worse. She said, "I'm sorry, boy, you tell me about you, and I'll introduce you to an object."
I couldn't stand it anymore. He said to Xiao Yu's mother, "Today is my fault, it is a good thing that I should not come here to disturb your family." I'll go now, but I have one more thing to say, marriage is not a business, and money can't buy happiness. ”
Xiao Yu heard what I said to her mother and hurried to stop me. I broke free and ran out the door.
When I got home, my parents saw that I came back so early, and my face was not good. I asked, "Why don't you eat at her house?" Have you quarreled with Xiao Huan? ”
I didn't tell Mom and Dad the truth, just a little tired and wanted to be alone for a while.
After closing the door, I wondered, is society too realistic or am I too conservative? Does marriage have to be tied to money? Don't you deserve love without money? If so, it is better to live alone.
Should I humbly fight for it instead of letting it go?
@Xia Mohan
I think you're only half right. Love is what you want, but in addition to the emotional basis, marriage must also have a certain material basis. After all, in the future, grain, rice, oil, and salt are all money, and it will cost money to raise children and parents.
It's not easy for two people to talk together. You should cherish it and not let it go easily. Calm down and ask Xiaoyu what happened. Maybe not what you think. Your girlfriend and family may have a polite blind date out of frustration, and maybe she still wants to be with you.
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