Yesterday my cousin told me about what had happened recently, and I was inspired by the concept of "critical distance." As Confucius said, "If you come to the village, you will respect it." My cousin looked for one at the housekeeping company

Yesterday my cousin told me about what had happened recently, and I was inspired by the concept of "critical distance." As Confucius said, "If you come to the village, you will respect it."

My cousin found a cleaning part-time worker at the housekeeping company and went to her house once a week to clean up.

Because the part-time worker worked very carefully and meticulously, her cousin was quite satisfied with her when she came and went, and she would occasionally stay with her for dinner and bring her some fruit to eat.

But my cousin said she had noticed that the part-time worker had been working less and less carefully lately, and that the cleaning was not as meticulous as before.

My cousin was very puzzled, knowing that he treated her very well, why did she clean up and be lazy? So my cousin went to the housekeeping company to find out the situation.

The person in charge of the housekeeping company said no, that the part-time worker had been careful and conscientious in the previous family, and this had never happened at all. Because as long as the family is not satisfied, they will complain to her at the housekeeping company, and as long as they eat a complaint, they will be fined 100 yuan.

At first glance, the family is indeed not as humane as the cousin, but the part-time worker is indeed lazy in the cousin's house, so the cousin also reflects that she is also responsible for causing this situation.

This is the "critical distance" blurred, because the cousin and the part-time worker are employed and employed relationship, the cousin took the initiative to show her that this relationship is blurred, the hourly union wants you to be so good to me anyway, then I am lazy and you will not be good.

In fact, we need this "critical distance" in our dealings with others, that is, to carry thorns on our bodies like hedgehogs, and we can't get closer at a certain distance.

And in our current mode of getting along with people, many people lack "critical distance". Why are young teachers more popular with students in school than older teachers?

Because the "critical distance" between young teachers and students is more likely to be blurred, because they are similar in age, teachers can easily integrate into students, and once the teacher has no teacher's appearance, then the students will bargain with the teacher's requirements, because the students are thinking that you will not be angry anyway.

In the same way, if we encounter a well-spoken leader at work, will there be a matter that bypasses the strict leader and asks him for leave?

So we often say that leaders must also have the appearance of leaders, if you don't have the appearance of leaders, can you blame your subordinates for bargaining with you?

This is the "critical distance", we must be clear about what role we play, and what we do must have the appearance of what we want to do.

Many times we do not deliberately maintain this "critical distance" in getting along with people, then there will be a lot of troublesome people and troubles, there may be people who think that they have a good relationship with you, but we don't think it ourselves, he will look for you to help this gang, then do you help or not help?

There are many people in life who are so confused, we can't expect them all to know to maintain a "critical distance", but we ourselves want to know who should be what distance, we should adhere to our own principles, we should say no, we can't say no, we can't let them not know and we can't figure it out.

So friends, do you maintain a "critical distance" when you get along with people? Are there any confused people around you?