Gu Ailing, this eighteen-year-old girl, likes fashion, becomes a star, likes to learn, becomes a bully, likes to ski, becomes a world champion, it is really envious of everyone! Some people say,

Gu Ailing, this eighteen-year-old girl, likes fashion, becomes a star, likes to learn, becomes a bully, likes to ski, becomes a world champion, it is really envious of everyone!

Some people say that Gu Ailing's success stems from her mother. Indeed, the conditions her mother created for her, as well as her unique way of education, were an important driving force for Gu Ailing's success.

Some people say that Gu Ailing's success stems from the living conditions of his rich family. Indeed, in the growth process of Gu Ailing, her mother spent a lot of money on her, it can be said that without such superior material conditions, Gu Ailing would be difficult to become today's Gu Ailing.

But in my opinion, the biggest factor in her success is still due to her own efforts. Individual differences exist objectively. If Gu Ailing is replaced by another person, her mother will not necessarily be able to cultivate into the current Gu Ailing with the same effort.

Looking at those rich families, the economic conditions are many times better than those of Gu Ailing's family. But those stupid children, all day long thinking about changing girlfriends, what can they achieve?

The most important thing in a person's growth is to know clearly what they want, and then to know clearly how to do it to get what they want, and to know clearly that they must work hard to achieve their goals. This requires a person to gradually establish independent personality and rational values in the process of growing up.

How to establish independent personality and rational values? There is no standard answer to this question, and Gu Ailing's mother answered it with her actual actions. There are also many parents who have given a better answer to this question with their own practical actions.

In my personal opinion, the growth of children should follow the principle of "nature + shaping". Man is the most complex creature in the world, and everyone is born differently. The so-called nature, that is, a person's individual characteristics, this is the biological nature of man, and external forces cannot be changed.

Nature cannot change, only constantly shaping. What is shaping? It is not to make a mold to put the child's nature into it, but to let the child gradually develop good habits and gradually develop a rational thinking mode, which is the key to shaping the child.

Those parents who give their children various training classes, constantly pressurize their children, always try to pull up seedlings and promote growth, and put their children into molds, can never cultivate such an excellent child as Gu Ailing!