Having heard the best interpretation of marriage, you chose not a person but a way of life; you did not choose a marriage, but a family.
The so-called married life is a new life that unfolds on a certain basis.
The conditions of each other's original family can be properly considered, such as the marriage partner you choose, the family conditions are good, may as well be regarded as an unexpected gain, if the conditions are not good, do not have to be disappointed, the right should fall on a normal starting point, the future can also be created and changed through the efforts of two people.
However, the system of the original family, this must be taken into account.
Don't wait until the time of divorce to understand that love is a matter for two people, marriage is a matter for two families, it is too late.
Lucky women, good in-laws can heal her life, not lucky women, may have to spend their lives to heal the pain and harm caused to her by in-laws.
Backstage, I heard the advice of a person who came over: when a girl gets married, bypass these seven in-laws!
- 1. The in-laws have no source of income.
For example, the in-laws are still young and have labor, but they have not gone out to make money, and they rely entirely on their sons to give money. Of course, those with special circumstances cannot be counted. Then after marrying, you immediately began to live a life of providing for your in-laws, thinking that your little family has just been established.
The in-laws can't help your life, even if it will only drag down your life, after all, the establishment of a newborn family is also the time when money is the most scarce and the most resource-hungry.
Pension is deserved, but the root of the problem is not the problem of pension, it is very likely that the in-laws are lazy, gambling, alcoholism and so on, which has caused such a situation.
- 2. Families that do not respect women.
Before getting married, visiting your in-laws as much as possible can help you capture a lot of real and important content. It depends on whether men in his family know how to respect women, and can recognize and appreciate women's efforts.
If the dedication to women is all about taking it for granted, then you have to be cautious.
Or maybe the men in their family have the idea in their bones that women are appendages of men. You can't change this family system, let alone their deep-rooted thinking, after marrying, they will definitely be gradually assimilated and become the sequel of the mother-in-law.
On the contrary, the kind of family that is tolerant and loving, knows how to respect women, even if you go to marry, believe in such a family, in the end will not let you down.
- 3, the mother-in-law is too strong family.
This is also the most toxic kind of family system, the mother-in-law is strong, the son is weak. Then after marriage, the mother-in-law will definitely have a strong desire to control and change for you, unless you can do it against the grain and obey the order, otherwise when you are bullied, there will not be a person to help you out, as well as all kinds of interference, interference and cross-border your family life.
- 4. A family full of strife.
There are many parents in life who will persuade their daughters not to marry two brothers. In fact, there are advantages and disadvantages to everything, there must be no idea of changing one's life by marriage, young people should be independent, and should not start worrying about the property of their in-laws before they are married.
It is also normal for concubines to have contradictions between them, and conversely, there are also people who get along like sisters. There is no problem with the relationship, and it is always the person who has the problem.
Therefore, it is not that they cannot marry the families of two brothers, but they cannot marry into the kind of families whose families are poor and the family still fights to the death and lives every day, and the head is broken and bleeding.
- 5. Families with violent tendencies.
If the father-in-law has a history of domestic violence against the mother-in-law, or still has domestic violence so far, it is best not to marry. Just like an example I came into contact with before, she said that the in-laws' mode of getting along, the content of marriage will be inherited, and when the slap falls on you, she suddenly feels that this scene is so familiar, it has been seen in the in-laws.
After all, the person you choose to marry is raised in this family model, and you will hear about your parents' way of getting along and the way you deal with problems.
The marriage of parents is a mirror of the demon, and the true face of a person is invisible. Send you a word, you never know your partner, but you think you know, and even if you do, you only know him when you are in love.
- 6, much better than your family.
In this world, no one can really look up to the poor, this is not chicken soup, but reality. So if your family is very different from his family, then after marrying, you are likely to be slighted and look down on your parents. You think about what kind of life it should be.
The door to the door is never a lie, it seems to be a matter of conditions, but it is actually a matter of human nature. Those girls who think of changing their lives by marriage have to say that they are very childish.
- 7. Families with unhealthy hearts.
Lying in the pit, thinking about other people's things all day long, before you are married, you already want to start squeezing you, using you, and maximizing their family interests. If you marry into such a family, you can be calculated to the bone, and finally end up with two people and money.
Whether looking for a partner or looking at the family, we should put character first, the conditions are not good, it is not terrible, and the poverty of the heart is really hopeless, bringing real disasters in life.
Don't take marriage as a child's play, think you like me, I like you, this is enough to get married. To marry because of love, but also not to be directly blinded by love, lost the minimum judgment.
There are many girls in life, such as looking for someone, always thinking about what kind of one I want to find, but I don't think about what kind of one I want to avoid.
I think that what kind of person you have to avoid, this is the most important and key, to judge the worst of married life can be bad.
The same is true when you look at the family, when you are always thinking about what kind of family you want to find, and you meet the family that meets your assumptions, you will lose judgment because of it, and you don't know, whether that is true or not.
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