"Stories From Fan Sharing"
My boyfriend and I have been together for less than two years, and we were very harmonious, but just a few days before we were ready to get married, he knew that after I had lived together, he instantly changed his face, and even threatened to cancel the wedding, he said: "I will not marry a girl who has lived together." ”
This matter made me a little overwhelmed, before the cohabitation is also rushing to get married, but did not expect that the ex is a scumbag split legs, so it ended the relationship. It is clear that I am a victim of this incident, so why do I have to bear all the consequences in the end?
In response to this matter, I have asked three people who have come over about the topic of "cohabitation", so why can't girls who have "lived together" marry? The three people who came over told the big truth.
Mr. Zhang, 25: "You can consider falling in love, but getting married will not"
Marriage is a serious matter, not like a child living in a family, each needs to take responsibility, so it should be carefully considered. Nowadays, marriage is not as simple as imagined, just as the so-called "love can be without money, but marriage can not be." ”
I believe that many men have had this concern, that is, the bride price. For a boy, without the help of his parents, it is difficult for him to bear this alone. However, love is different from marriage, there is no material interference, just pure talk about feelings, so there is no need to think about these.
Mr. Zhang said: The cost and cost of getting married is too big for many men in the city to afford, let alone in the village, so if you want to get married, you will marry a woman worth marrying.
Then Mr. Zhang said: "Once a woman has lived with other men, she will have deep feelings, even if she breaks up, she will often think of each other, so I can't accept women who think of other men, and I believe that no man who really wants to live can accept it!" ”
In Mr. Zhang's view, instead of spending a high cost to marry a woman who is not dedicated to herself, it is better not to marry to be comfortable.
I think everyone thinks differently, but we can't criticize either choice, after all, everyone is equal and has the right to choose.
Mr. Sun is 30 years old: "When I meet my girlfriend with a history of cohabitation, I will break up"
I didn't know my ex had a history of cohabitation when I was with her, and I decided to move in together because of rent issues, thinking that I could save money and take better care of her. However, after being together, we found that we often had conflicts, and she never looked directly at the problem, and always urged marriage.
After I repeatedly asked me, I learned that after she lived with her ex, her ex split her legs, so she was afraid that the same thing would happen when she lived with me, so she would always urge marriage.
I couldn't accept the truth, although she was also a victim in the last relationship, but I felt that she was living together without knowing a person, which was irresponsible to herself, so I broke up decisively, thinking that such a girl who did not love herself could not marry.
Mr. Hu, 35 years old: "If I knew before marriage, I wouldn't be married"
My wife and I were introduced to each other by friends, and I liked her the first time we met, and since we were not young, we got married in less than half a year.
Although we would quarrel after marriage, because I really wanted to live a good life, I would be humble, until the third year of marriage, I did not know that she did not love me at all when she married me, and she still liked the ex who had lived together for 5 years.
She dodged after attending a class reunion that day, and later found out that she was in frequent contact with a man, and she confessed after I repeatedly pressed her, saying that she could not let go of her ex, and she was even more excited after meeting. Now I regret that if I had known before marriage that she had lived with her ex for so long, I would not have gotten married in the first place.
I believe that many girls give everything while hoping for the future, but men are the opposite in this regard, they are more rational. In contrast, girls can easily lose themselves once they are caught up in emotions, thus blindly lowering their bottom line.
Men seem to be full of indifference, but in fact, they are very smart, and if they weigh the pros and cons and find that women are not suitable, he will not hesitate to choose to leave. But it has to be said that everyone has the right to choose, after all, the way of life and the way of thinking are different.
But I think that if men can't keep their promises, then don't "cohabitate" with girls too early, and girls must also know self-respect and self-love so that they don't suffer losses.
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