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The three brothers and sisters of the Zhou family in "The World of Man", three personalities and three life experiences, also have their own favorite love, although the methods of winning are different, but they all entered the marriage as they wished. This also dooms them to different marriage patterns, giving us a lot of inspiration.
Growing marriages
Zhou Bingyi is the eldest son of the Zhou family, who has learned and excelled from a young age, and is the child with the highest expectations from his father. In general, the ranking of children in families with many children also affects the child's disposition and marriage patterns. Zhou Bingyi and Hao Hongmei's marriage also illustrates this point.
Zhou Bingyi, as the eldest son of the family, has a sense of responsibility and mission, and Hao Hongmei is the only adopted daughter in the family, although the parents will not spoil and raise this daughter, but the superiority of the living class is still there. And more importantly, Hao Hongmei is a girl with a very strong sense of justice, with a clear distinction between right and wrong, and her world is only black and white, and there is no middle ground of blended gray.
Zhou's father returned home once every three years, and the three children only had one eldest daughter-in-law and one relative, although they were high-ranking cadres, they did not think much about it and brought two cans of local good tea. This led to a series of contradictions, in this process, Hao Hongmei was also out of control in front of her mother, and all the grievances were spoken out of her mind, which also made her mother very sad.
This is Hao Hongmei's way of handling things, and Zhou Bingyi told Hongmei before going home that when she returned to her mother's house, she would not say anything and take cold treatment, but Hongmei could not do it.
As Zhou Rong said, others do not understand her parents, do not understand her father's pain in a high position, and they should know how to deal with it. Zhou Rong said that if it was her, she would accept the tea leaves, but she would not give them directly to her parents.
In reality, the gap between the two parents and the family environment is so large, mixed with so many misunderstandings, and the two families do not quarrel and create a gap, it is simply impossible. However, Zhou Bingyi did not let the contradiction intensify, and even combed and analyzed the essence behind the phenomenon for Hongmei.
Zhou Bingyi told Hongmei that the misunderstanding she thought did not actually exist, but that some deeper things could not be eliminated forever. Even Hongmei praised him for thinking about the comprehensive and profound problem, and Zhou Bingyi unceremoniously pointed out that it was because he could understand the difficulties of Hongmei's parents.
Although Hongmei still failed to control her emotions and quarreled with her mother, Zhou Bingyi told Hongmei that the problems of the parents of the two families are part of their marriage and need to be faced often in the future, and all they can do is to deal with the problems and relationships of their respective parents and not intensify the contradictions.
For Hongmei, Zhou Bingyi not only loves her, but also allows her to grow, and Zhou Bingyi has also learned a lot from Hongmei's father and has grown.
Growing marriages can nourish people and make people in marriages better and better.
Aggressive marriage
Zhou Rong is the second daughter of the Zhou family, and the only daughter, who is beautiful and has special independent ideas. Because she liked poetry, she fell in love with a poet who was many years older than her, and for this poet, she went to the mountains of Guizhou to join the countryside at a young age.
She knows that this love, her parents absolutely can not accept, simply regardless of the first according to their own ideas to say, holding a severance of relations with their families, but also with the poet.
Perhaps the age difference between the two people is too large, or perhaps Zhou Rong has an innate sense of superiority, so she and her husband Feng Huacheng have always had a sense of aggression in their relationship. Zhou Rong loves her husband deeply, but she also likes to blame her husband, and a big problem behind this is that she has a thought in her heart that she cannot lose, including at home.
The first time the father came to Guizhou to visit Zhou Rong, the husband was delayed in carrying water, and even Zhou's father carefully saw that this was to give their father and daughter time and opportunity to speak, but Zhou Rong blamed her husband for not understanding her father's tired car and needing to rest early.
Back in Beijing, several people at home discussed poetry, Zhou Rong said that his brother did not pay attention to literary accomplishment in studying philosophy, Feng Huacheng put forward different views on poetry, Zhou Rong immediately retorted, saying that he was sour grape psychology, which once made the scene very embarrassing.
Zhou Rong seems to be good at everything, but this low emotional intelligence is worrying, her thinking is very independent, but not as profound and comprehensive as her brother, but based on the superiority of the ego. About her marriage will also be written separately later.
Here I just want to talk about a marriage model, in reality, such a couple get along a lot of patterns, to put it bluntly is to break each other's table, love and kill each other's marriage.
The reason why there is aggression in marriage is that one or both parties want to prove their right, and the feelings are exhausted in the entanglement of right and wrong. This was not to excuse Feng Huacheng's later betrayal, but it was true that the rift between them was not brought about by the appearance of an ex-wife, and some discomfort began very early.
Therefore, aggressive marriage is a double-edged sword for women, and they have to try their luck, either hurting themselves or hurting others.
Mutually supportive marriages
The road of Zhou Bingkun and Zheng Juan's love marriage has always been full of fireworks. The little bit of romance in their love is crushed into a dull life by the reality in front of them. Because their feelings have come together through one practical difficulty after another, they can withstand the test of long years.
Zheng Juan seems to be weak and listens to Zhou Bingkun in marriage, but at the critical moment, Zheng Juan will stand up and help Bingkun grow. From the order of their two original families, Bingkun is the youngest child in the family, and the above brother and sister are very good, so he will still have a little child's emotions on his body, and although Zheng Juan is an adopted child, he is also the eldest in the family, and he also shoulders the responsibility of supporting a family, so there is spiritual homogeneity between them, and there is also complementarity in personality.
This complementary model is still different from the brother's growth type marriage, if it is said that growth, Bingkun and Zheng Juan are growing up together in the baptism of life together and becoming stronger together. They become braver because they have each other, they become softer because they have each other, and they are better because they have each other.
Mutually supportive marriages are simple and bland, but they are also the most stable and resilient marriage model.
Maugham says there's only one way to win hearts and minds, and that's to make yourself worthy of love. The real difference between a woman's happiness and misfortune in marriage lies in what kind of marriage mode she wants to have, as well as her own choices.
Three kinds of life, three kinds of marriage, if you don't consider the ending of the characters in the play, which one of your favorite modes of marriage is getting along?
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