#70 # I also have old and young, middle-aged women, but I am basically not anxious, my lifestyle is in the direction of "letting go of myself". There are many ways to be less anxious, and I'll just tell you what I think.
First, move to the nearest place to work, or find a job close to home.
Commuting to work and rushing to the point is absolutely instantaneous to raise the anxiety index, catch up with the traffic flow, and then encounter a little traffic jam or bus stop and delay, can not hit the card, minutes to ruin your good mood today. I went to work just across the road, lifted my feet and went out in two minutes. I don't have to worry about weather changes and traffic jams at all, and I don't waste time and energy on the road, so I don't feel anxious about commuting at all. Early this morning when I went to work, there was a serious traffic accident at the intersection, the whole road was blocked, I crossed the road as usual to work, and when I crossed the road, I also greeted the police beauty.
Second, the house must be smaller.
The house is small, and the windows that go out can be less, and the anxiety index will naturally decrease. The room is enough to live on the line, big, the extra space is also occupied by those objects, no matter how many houses only sleep in one bed, why bother? When cleaning the most experienced, a small room for an hour, more than 20 minutes in a room, it is better to take this time to read a book and relax your mood.
Third, don't save money on household appliances.
I'm so experienced that I'd rather not have a wife and buy good appliances! So practical. The nutritious porridge eaten for breakfast was booked the night before, and the next day I went to bed together to smell the fragrance of the porridge, and the smart rice cooker opened my beautiful day. Before going to work, I made an appointment for dinner, and when I went home, I pushed the door, and the smell of rice was all in the house, and the fatigue of the day disappeared without a trace. Boiled eggs have egg machine, boiled egg yolks are soft and fragrant, stir-fried vegetables have robots, do not smell oil smoke, fast and convenient. After eating, put the bowl and pot in the dishwasher, you can read a book and practice the piano. Watching movies has a home theater, listening to music has a stereo... With these electrical appliances, than having a wife to worry more, fast, efficient, intimate, beautiful, no need to worry about doing housework, not quarrelsome and not angry, silver spent on good electrical appliances, I am willing, they let me live comfortably and moistly.
Fourth, when people reach middle age, do not borrow money and learn to save money.
You think, as soon as you open your eyes every day, there are hundreds of loans waiting for you to pay you back, how not to be anxious? It is better to go to work every day to make money by entering the account positively and increasing your deposit balance. Monthly salary white-collar workers, take to repay the loan, think of hard work to get up early and greedy for the bank, go to work suddenly have the mood of the grave. I now work weekly hours to increase the balance of my own account, no foreign debt and no debt, think of the United States, anxiety value basically dropped to zero.
Fifth, women should not casually talk about feelings with men in middle age, it is not worth it.
Can't cook to buy a robot, smart rice cooker, electric steamer, lonely to cultivate some hobbies, expand their circle, do not stare at men, emotionally entangled. Middle-aged women also fantasize about true love and romance, and emotionally moths to put out fires, and need to think about whether it is worth it. Don't waste the good mood and the good times that should have been enjoying life and improving yourself because of emotional troubles. It is better to invest in men than to invest in yourself.
Sixth, from a young age, do not make a living with the mentality of an Israeli waiter.
If women do not eat by their faces when they are young, women will not be anxious about their aging appearance and gray hair in middle age, and will not spend money to toss themselves in various ways, just to look like their age. Women who have their own careers and economic foundations, are spiritually rich, independent and confident, and eat on their own strengths should be proud of their age. Forty years old, you should have the mind and life experience of more than forty years old, if you are in your forties and still look like a silly and ignorant girl, you have lived for decades in vain. Women are middle-aged, to continue to grow, the charm of middle-aged women lies in maturity and wisdom, as well as a calm and tenacious life. Pretending to be cute and tender, pretending to be young, is lying to yourself, not willing to grow up mentally. If you want to improve your charm, you must first improve your inner cognition and cultivation, learn to be independent in life, and be an independent and confident woman.
Seventh, get close to nature and learn to heal yourself.
The most precious things in the world can be obtained without spending money, such as sunlight, air, and all living beings in nature. Go to nature more, relax your mood, bask in the sun, bags are not curative, the sun cures all diseases.
Eighth, give up the expectation of all other people, without expectation there is no attachment, there is no disappointment.
You are not the center of other people's worlds, you can only be the center of your own world. Don't think about other people living according to your script, do what you want, do it, don't ask others. When you do something, first consider your own feelings, don't hold the mentality of making a deal, and don't deliberately please others. What you want, learn to buy it yourself, where you want to go, learn to go by yourself, your life does not expect others to cooperate to go on, you have to learn that a person can also live well. When you can do everything independently and do well, and others are willing to participate and support, then you should be grateful. No one has the obligation to accompany anyone for a lifetime, and people will eventually have to go through life on their own. Therefore, when you understand that the only person you can rely on in your life is yourself, and the only thing you can control is your own life, you have less ideas to control and transform others, and you have less unnecessary anxiety and disappointment.
Middle-aged women, it is not difficult to think about anxiety. The difficulty is not only not knowing how to let go, but also constantly wanting to have more material things, and it is difficult not to seek inward, but to continue to cling to the outside.
