First of all, what is paternity leave?
To put it bluntly, it is a leave to accompany the wife to have children and confinement.
Life is only the four words of birth, old age, illness, and death, so this fake is very important and important.
Supposedly, it should be adequately guaranteed.
But the reality is not as simple as imagined...
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Xiao Liu, the sister-in-law of the army, has reached the third trimester of pregnancy and is about to give birth in about four weeks.
Now Xiao Liu is most worried about whether the paternity leave of his lover can be approved, and whether it can be linked with this year's family leave.
Xiao Liu is a military sister-in-law who accompanies the army in the garrison, far away from her in-laws' homes and mother's homes.
Moreover, even if it is close, the in-laws and mothers-in-law's family cannot help.
On the side of the in-law's family, the mother-in-law is no longer there, there is only the father-in-law at home, the family has planted a lot of land, the spring is the busy time not to say, the father-in-law and the daughter-in-law, there are always many inconveniences.
On the mother's side, Xiao Liu's mother was taking care of the two children of her brother's family, and she couldn't open her body.
Therefore, the only thing Xiao Liu can count on is his lover.
Some people may say, please sister-in-law is not enough?
Sister-in-law Xiao Liu has been invited, but the sister-in-law takes care of the mother and the baby, Xiao Liu is the second child, and there is a big treasure that has not been in kindergarten.
Moreover, the general sister-in-law also serves 26 days, not even a month.
And now the time to advocate women to confinement is 42 days, Xiao Liu thinks that if the lover can't take paternity leave, he will have to take care of two children before he has a confinement, just one head and two big.
Originally, Xiao Liu also wanted to extend the time of his sister-in-law, but he had to get tens of thousands of dollars a month, which was higher than his lover's salary, and he really did not have this economic strength.
So now Xiao Liu has been hoping that the lover's paternity leave can be taken smoothly, preferably together with family leave, so that he can sit in confinement with peace of mind.
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Yingying is not a military sister-in-law who accompanies the army, and the confinement is sitting in her lover's hometown, that is, her mother-in-law's house.
At that time, the lover's paternity leave was successfully approved, although it was not associated with family leave, Yingying was also very satisfied.
After all, when many sisters-in-law gave birth, the soldier brother did not take a vacation, and his lover had already arrived home when there was still a week before the due date.
Originally Yingying thought that the expected child could be born on time, so that the lover could accompany the baby and himself for more than twenty days, who had thought that the baby was not born until 41 weeks, when the lover's paternity leave had passed for half a month.
Yingying thought, at least she can accompany herself for half a month.
As a result, the child was born a week ago, the unit had a task, and was recalled.
As a military sister-in-law, Yingying can understand this situation, but after the lover left, there was a lot of unhappiness between Yingying and her mother-in-law, resulting in Yingying not yet out of confinement, and she went back to her mother's house.
Because of those things between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Yingying not only got into a stalemate with her mother-in-law, but also had a long period of bad relations with her lover, and even mentioned divorce.
Many times Yingying is thinking that if the lover is accompanied by the whole process during the month, it is estimated that the contradiction between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law will be much less, and between herself and the lover, she will not cause divorce because of the contradiction between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law.
Think about it, this is all because the lover failed to accompany himself through the confinement.
If the lover of the whole confinement can accompany himself, wait until the confinement, the lover returns to the unit, and returns to his mother's house, there will be no follow-up to those things.
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Although, civil servants in some places also have situations where wives cannot take leave and accompany them when they have children.
But for soldiers who lack companionship, maternity leave should be guaranteed as a compulsory leave.
That is to say, in addition to fighting wars and major military tasks, it should be guaranteed that every soldier should be granted maternity leave.
For paternity leave for military personnel, most military sisters-in-law are satisfied.
But there are also some who feel that there are still deficiencies -
Not long enough
Some military sisters-in-law said that they have a second child, and her husband will not even change the diaper, and often wear it backwards.
Brewing milk powder is to put milk powder first and then pour water, and I don't know how to operate it. This is all due to the short time spent caring for the child, and if the paternity leave could be longer, it would not be so.
How long is paternity leave for military personnel?
According to the Provisions on Issues Related to the Implementation of the Comprehensive Two-Child Policy by the Armed Forces, the man is a member of the military and is granted 30 days of nursing leave in the year in which the woman gives birth. Annual leave is not counted.
Some people may feel that 30 days is not short, and now the province with the longest paternity leave, that is, 30 days, there are still many places without paternity leave.
In terms of the number of days, the paternity leave for military personnel is not short, but it is ignored that the military profession is not the same as the ordinary occupation.
Ordinary occupations have commuting time, paternity leave is over, and after work, you can also accompany your lover and children.
And the military? At the end of paternity leave, they will return to the army, except for the family members who are stationed, the rest of the people who want to accompany them can only wait for the next vacation.
Others are going to see you tomorrow, and soldiers are likely to see you next year.
Paternity leave is difficult to take in conjunction with annual leave
30 days of paternity leave, if it can be combined with family leave, the longest can reach sixty or seventy days, two months long, but also can take good care of lovers and children.
But many units will not be allowed to take such a long vacation.
If, like Yingying's lover, she returns from a vacation before the due date and the child is born beyond the expected date, there is not much time to accompany the lover and the child.
In this way, paternity leave only plays a role in paternity, but does not play a role in co-parenting.
Although compared with those soldiers who cannot go home to accompany their lovers to give birth for various reasons, it is good to be able to take paternity leave, but who does not want to accompany their lovers and children after missing their lover's pregnancy?
Paternity leave is not covered
Some military sisters-in-law said that their brother had 30 days of paternity leave, plus family leave for a total of 50 days, twice 40 days off, and 10 days because of busyness, but it had expired. This holiday is expired and not made up, it is really bitter to say.
Soldiers take obedience to orders as their duty, and during vacation, as long as there is a task or a big activity, it needs to be recalled, and it is necessary to return.
As a result, many people's holidays are not guaranteed.
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So, is there any hope of escalating military paternity leave?
During the two sessions last year, Lin Yong, a deputy to the National People's Congress, put forward the "Proposal on Combining Maternity Leave for Couples": Paternity leave and maternity leave will be combined and the husband and wife will be taken together, of which the male maternity leave is recommended for more than 42 days.
The 42-day confinement of women in science comes from one reason: the uterine retraction of the mother takes about six weeks, that is, 42 days.
Since from a scientific point of view, a woman's body can basically recover after sitting for 42 days, paternity leave naturally takes 42 days.
Although there are many difficulties in making this recommendation a reality, it is a trend to appropriately increase the number of paternity leave days for men and to provide compulsory protection.
Originally, the participation of military families was low, and if the paternity leave was extended, it would be more conducive to family harmony and the growth of children.
Taking a step back, even if it is difficult to extend paternity leave as soon as possible, it is a big step forward if it can be realized that paternity leave can be combined with annual leave, or to ensure that paternity leave can be successfully taken and completely.
After all, soldiers owe too much to their families, and if they can spend one more day with them, they will have less regrets.
Source: The Three Musketeers