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Retirement often means that life has entered a new stage.
You no longer have to run for a living, you don't have to deal with complicated interpersonal relationships, you don't have to say insincere things in the workplace, and you don't have to do things that you can't help yourself. Instead, I really have the time and energy to start living for myself, do something I like, get along with the people I like, and make my infinite life full and meaningful.
It can be said that retirement is the dream of many people in the workplace, especially in today's society with such great pressure, there are countless young people who take retirement as a goal and envy those who can live in peace in their old age.
However, Lu Xun once said: The sorrows and joys of human beings are not the same, I only think that they are noisy.
When you really retire, you may find that life after retirement is not as good as you think.
After retirement, there will still be a lot of interpersonal relationships to deal with, and there will still be a close connection with the society as a collective. Regardless of the eyes of the outside world, to be yourself wholeheartedly is extremely luxurious and difficult to achieve.
If you want to live a good life after retirement, you can't do without careful management and high emotional intelligence.
Some things, no matter how well you mix well, whether you have money or not, you can't easily show off in front of people, so as not to lay hidden dangers for the future, or even get into trouble.
One: Don't show off your retirement salary so you don't get jealous
From a certain point of view, after retirement, the elderly with retirement wages and those without retirement wages tend to live two completely different lives. Because matter is an extremely important part, and it is also the key to whether a person lives happily.
Many times without money, it will become passive, or even difficult to move.
However, in real life, not every elderly person will have a retirement salary after retirement. In this case. Blindly showing off one's retirement salary, or one's own savings, is harmful and unprofitable.
Perhaps in the moment of showing off, you can satisfy a momentary vanity, but in the long run, it is easy to be jealous, and it is not conducive to maintaining your relationships.
Truly intelligent and far-sighted old people will not show off how much money they have, but will only keep a low profile and live their lives silently.
Two: Don't show off how filial your children are, there is no need to compare with others
Some people say that after people reach middle age, the real comparison is their children.
But in fact, the world is its own, and life is like people drinking cold and warm self-knowledge. Comparing with others as the ultimate goal is unnecessary because comparison itself has no meaning.
If you always show off in front of people how filial your children are, it will only hurt the hearts of some people. The situation is different for each family, and the definition and perception of happiness are also different. If the two sides are not on the same starting line, there is no comparison.
My neighbor Aunt Wang, this is a person who likes to show off. Aunt Wang's children are very filial and always buy her all kinds of nutritional or daily necessities, and sometimes some expensive jewelry.
Once, Aunt Wang took out the gold bracelet that her children bought for her to show off, and everyone said how well the children were mixed, but the daughter of one of her old sisters was unemployed, and the feelings were not smooth, so this old sister was estranged from Aunt Wang and felt that she was very annoying.
Because her happiness is so harsh that it will invisibly burn some people. And the truly intelligent old man will not show off his children in front of people, after all, filial piety is not used to say, let alone to satisfy vanity.
Three: Don't flaunt your achievements in your youth, it doesn't make any sense
Everyone has a past, and these pasts may cover most of the glory of life, but the past has passed after all, and it is the best ending to treat it as a memory, and if people say it, it seems to be a small pattern.
Because a person who lives in the past is difficult to manage the present, and if he does not manage the present well, he cannot have the future he wants.
A truly intelligent and visionary person does not flaunt his youthful achievements. Because he knows that past achievements can only represent the past, whether he can manage the present well often depends on his current ability and mentality.
Yishu once said: "A real lady does not show off how many jewels she has, how many beautiful clothes she has, or how many beautiful places she has visited, because she has no sense of inferiority in her heart." ”
From this point of view, the more a person shows off, the more it shows that he is not confident enough inside. You also don't pay much attention to other people's opinions, often exposing the inner barrenness.
After retirement, the really smart old man will not show off the things mentioned above. Partly because there is no point in showing off in itself, and partly because they are confident and calm enough at heart.
When you no longer ask for it from the outside world, but focus on yourself and live your own life, this is true maturity, true reason, and real high emotional intelligence.
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