If the more filial the child is, the more the parents will prefer the child? Many people's answer is "yes", but in fact, parents prefer a child, not based on whether the child is filial piety or not.
The old Zhang family has two children, and the age difference between the two children is relatively large, a full eight years. When Dabao was born, because it was the first child in the family, so grandpa, grandmother, uncle, aunt, etc. were very caring for Dabao, everyone treated Dabao as his own son, Dabao could be said to have exhausted the care of the elders when he was a child, whether it was material or spiritual, Dabao's resources were extremely rich.
When Erbao was born, it was different, because before Erbao, the uncle also gave birth to a child, the aunt also gave birth to a child, and the care of the elders in the family has almost been divided by these children.
When it comes to the second treasure, the degree of concern of grandparents, uncles and aunts, aunts and uncles for the second treasure is not so strong, and even when the big treasure and the second treasure are together, the elders are still habitually better for the big treasure.
However, the old Zhang couple, but more partial to the second treasure, the reason many people may have thought, is because the old Zhang couple, feel that the second treasure by the elders too little care, and the big treasure grew up in the "stars and moon" environment since childhood, so the old Zhang couple always feel "owe" the second treasure, so they tend to prefer the second treasure.
Parents are partial to a certain child, and it has little to do with whether the child is filial piety or not
Dabao and Erbao both grew up, after starting a family, Dabao and his parents lived very close, all in a village, and there was an alley between the two families.
Usually, if the second elder has something to do, it is Dabao to help the second elder deal with it, it can be said that Dabao has been taking care of the second elder's life.
And Erbao, living in the city, although it is not very far from his parents' home, but compared to the Dabao family, it is much farther away, so he usually does not come to visit the second elder. In the eyes of outsiders, Erbao did not have Dabao filial piety to his parents.
But even so, every time when it comes to the New Year's Festival, the heart always thinks of the second treasure, what is delicious will be kept for the second treasure, usually also like to support the economy of the second treasure, etc., clear-eyed people can see that the second old is more eccentric to the second treasure.
This is actually the first reason why parents are partial to their children, that is, they are more eccentric to the old man, because they feel that the old man lacks love and feels sorry for the old man.
Of course, the old man is partial to a child, not necessarily because the child is old, but also because of some other reason.
The second reason for parental eccentricity is that the child is weak
When I lived in my hometown before, the neighbor's family had three children, the eldest was demobilized as a soldier, because the position was relatively high at that time, so the treatment after demobilization was also better, plus the boss was demobilized and became a lawyer, so the boss's economic income was very considerable.
Although the conditions of the second brother are not as good as the boss, they have an "iron rice bowl" in the eyes of the people, which belongs to public officials, and the lover of the second brother is also very rich, so the economic situation of the second family is also very good.
However, the third is different, the third is also a young man with full ambitions, because he likes to cook, so after getting married, he wants to open a small restaurant, but when the restaurant is renovated, the third has an accident.
It was a foggy day, the third bought the materials needed for decoration from the hardware store to send over, and as a result, he was hit by a van on the road, and because of the foggy day, he did not find the driver who caused the accident.
And the third because of the spinal injury, so the root of the disease, can not do heavy physical work, can not run, walk up to tremble majestically, like an old man, which also led to the business of the third hotel was shelved, the conditions of the three families plummeted.
After the second elder sees the situation of the third elder, he will often help the third elder financially, and the things brought by the second elder will always be taken to the third elderly during the New Year's Festival.
In the eyes of everyone, the second elder's eccentricity towards the third elder has been very obvious, because the second elder has given himself and the help of the second elder to the third elder.
The third reason why parents are eccentric: children are well-behaved
The old woman's family has two children, the eldest child is more "skinny" after birth, usually no illness and no disaster, and also empathetic, very attentive to the words of parents, it can be said that it is very well-behaved.
However, the second is different, the second is more obedient, usually always put forward different opinions on the parents' education, views, etc.
To say that the boss is the "warm baby" of the second old, the second is the "cool heart" of the second old, which always makes the second old embarrassed, or it is angry. Therefore, when they were young, the second elder was more inclined to the eldest.
Later, the two children grew up, the eldest worked in a university, the economic conditions are very good, the second brother opened a travel agency by himself, but because of force majeure, the income is not guaranteed, and for a long time in a closed state, so the second year's economy is relatively poor.
But even so, the second elder still prefers the boss, because the boss is more well-behaved, and when he grows up, he also obeys the second old man's words and is quite understanding.
The second brother still can't change his straight temper, always "meet the top", sometimes regardless of the occasion, so that the second honest can not come to the stage in a little bit. Therefore, if the child is well-behaved, he will receive more love from his parents.
However, in general, in fact, we do not need to worry too much about whether our parents are biased, our parents have raised us, given us life, let us grow up smoothly and healthily, this is enough, rather than caring about the eccentricity of our parents, it is better to develop ourselves, manage ourselves, and let ourselves have enough strength to filial piety to the elderly.
epilogue
There is no completely fair thing in the world, so it is inevitable that parents will be biased, but this does not affect the love that parents give to each child, nor does it affect the filial piety of each child to the parents, you say?
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