Parents should have a clear understanding of campus bullying, that is, it is definitely not a small thing. Be sure to pay attention! Many children are bullied at school, afraid to open their mouths when they go home, and are reluctant to ask adults for help.
If you pay attention to the child's abnormal behavior, the usually cheerful child suddenly becomes silent, angry, uneasy, and even refuses to go to school, parents must pay attention!
First, take the initiative to understand the reason
Once an abnormality is found, parents should take the initiative to talk to their children: Is there something stressful at school?
If the child does not answer, the question can be more specific: "Who is it related to?" Teacher or classmate? "Try to avoid asking too many questions that are too abstract, otherwise it will cause the child to keep his mouth shut up forever."
If the child is not ready to tell the parents, let him know at the end of the conversation: "Maybe it is difficult for you to tell me now, but as long as you think that your mother is there at any time, your mother can promise you, I will not judge anything you say, I will only listen." 」 "Set aside space for the next conversation.
Second, listen to your child's words and suggestions
When you want to talk to a teacher, first ask the child: "What do you want your mother to do?" ", understand the whole school system, the child feels who can help him.
Parents want their children to know, "It's not your fault!" Children who experience bullying are always faced with a series of betrayals, and formerly trusted classmates, friends, teachers, etc. may ignore the harm to him or become the perpetrators.
Even if you decide to help your child transfer schools, you should deal with them appropriately before transferring. To tell the child, we are not helpless, flee to another school, but to face, deal with and make another choice.
Moreover, the child may encounter a similar situation at the next school, and the process of processing is a kind of learning for him.
Three major landmines to avoid touching
Mine One: Jumping like a thunderbolt to settle accounts with the other party, which may lead to a more difficult situation among his classmates.
Mine Two: Blame the child, such as "You didn't say anything before!" "Didn't you tell me that you can't let others touch your things casually?" ”。
Mine Three: Ignore the child's complaint, do not take the child's complaint seriously, and only respond: "You have to face it yourself!" etc.
In the face of school violence, how to tell your children to deal with it?
1, first of all, first tell the fight is not right, whether it is to hit people or be beaten, repeatedly and the child to emphasize, this is the most basic cognition.
2, when there is a conflict, do not be silly confrontation, do not know how to protect yourself when beaten. Mom and Dad can't be the first to appear next to you, and you may not be able to beat each other, so try to keep a distance from each other, and once you do, run to a safe place.
3, if the conflict can not be avoided, then fight bravely, parents will not blame you, protect yourself first, but pay attention to legitimate defense and excessive defense.
4, learn to ask for help, you can shout loudly to attract the attention and help of others.
5, finally, at any time, any result, remember that your parents will always try their best to protect you and help you, because you are the most loved child of your parents.
Don't believe the "it's okay" and "I'm fine" answer, the child doesn't want to tell the adult what happened, they think that saying it will not change anything.
In fact, parent-child communication is particularly important, do not wait until there is a problem to care for the child, usually use more questions to understand his situation, if the child really encounters difficulties, parents will not be the last to know.