I am 62 years old, and my wife had a heart attack a few years ago, leaving me alone in this big house. After a long time, I am very lonely, and my children are busy, and I plan to find another wife. I have it every month

I am 62 years old, and my wife had a heart attack a few years ago, leaving me alone in this big house. After a long time, I am very lonely, and my children are busy, and I plan to find another wife. I have a pension of 4500 a month, and two houses, and I have recently met several men, but because my conditions are too excessive, I did not agree.

I am 62 years old this year, retired from a state-owned enterprise, have a son and a daughter, they all have their own families, my wife did not rescue a heart attack a few years ago, so I was left alone in the family. I live in a large house of 120 square meters, it is very deserted, and my children rarely have time to come back to see me, so I feel very lonely and feel sick.

I was going to rent out the house and go to my son's house, and by the way, I could bring them children. However, I read a lot of people on the Internet said that people do not live in their children's homes when they are old, otherwise it is easy to have contradictions, and later I asked my son's opinion, he was not very willing, and the grandson had a mother in the belt, they were not far away, so I also dismissed this idea.

Thinking that I am only 62 years old, in good health, and have so much time left to talk to me, I will be very lonely, and I plan to give myself a wife. I told this idea to the sisters around me, they were also idle, and soon introduced me to a 57-year-old man, divorced, heard that his son was richer, and when he looked at the photos, although he was shiny, he was still very energetic.

We agreed to meet in the park, talk while walking, and when we got tired, we went to drink tea. At first, we had a good conversation, and then he asked me, "If we live together in the future, how should we live?" I had already thought about this, and then I told him: "Since we have all talked about this step, I will open the skylight and say something bright, in fact, I have a few small requests." ”

First, the property between us can not be shared, after all, we all have children, and these things are left to their own flesh and bones; second, you have to move to my house to live, you have to give me 3,000 living expenses every month to spend, I manage the big things in the family, the small things are discussed together, the health of the family is yours, I am responsible for cooking; third, if the other party can't take care of themselves in the future, then the other party has to give an extra 3,000 more care costs, after all, this money you have to ask an outsider at that time.

In short, although we live together and become husband and wife, we still have to distinguish between these aspects, otherwise there will be many contradictions. He didn't say much after listening to my requests, so I said let him think about it and reply to me at night. As a result, when I talked to him at night, I found that he had found out that he had deleted me.

Later, I also met 4 men one after another, and when I heard that I had refused these requests, I ignored me at all. I think these few requirements are not excessive, and it is clear that everyone will get along well in the future, so there is no need for you to fight with me.

I wonder why this is so, and which one is excessive?

@Elegant Single Woman : Thank you for sharing, after listening to your story, I would like to say that you are not looking for a wife, you are looking for a babysitter. It's a selfish act because your every request is not considered for the other person, especially the last two, and you arrange yourself clearly.

1. Do you say that he gets him to give you 3,000 a month for living expenses because he moved into your house and you cook for him every day? But if you think from his point of view, I don't have no place to live, and I can't cook, why let me give you 3,000 living expenses every month, and also ask me to be responsible for home hygiene. Surely no one will be willing to change, so this money, you two should bear jointly.

2. Even if you are sick in the future, can you take care of each other? People are getting old together, in case the other person is sick, and as you get older, what ability do you have to take care of each other in the future? And if you have to get money like this, it doesn't make any sense at all. Therefore, these two conditions are unreasonable.

Do you say that she is excessive in these conditions?