A few days ago, I saw a news on Xinhua News Agency: a photo of a red-clad teenager playing an umbrella for the traffic police on duty in the rain brushed the circle of friends.
It turned out that a traffic policeman on duty that day did not put on the hat of the raincoat because he was worried that he could not see the traffic situation around him.
A young man dressed in red saw the policeman's uncle on duty in the rain, so he walked over and quietly held up the umbrella to the head of the traffic police.
And just some time ago, a primary school student's essay "Grandpa's Dish" caught fire, touching many netizens.
It turned out that after Grandpa suffered from dementia, Han Hao took the initiative to move a stool and take chopsticks for Grandpa every time he ate; covered Grandpa with a quilt at night; saw that Grandpa's teeth were uncomfortable and used pocket money to buy toothpaste for him; occasionally the family complained that Grandpa had lost everything, and Han Hao always stopped the family from yelling.
The 11-year-old girl loves her grandfather so much and is meticulous and considerate, which makes many adults ashamed.
There are many such children in life, they understand the hardships of their parents, they can also understand the difficulties of those around them, have a strong sense of empathy, care about the emotions of others, and will often help others with kindness.
Such a child is a child with high emotional intelligence. Warm heart is their outstanding advantage, at a young age, they can think of others in their hearts and not be selfish.
Children with high emotional intelligence have these two abilities:
● Inward independence ability
First of all, he must have a certain degree of self-action. Neither rely too much on others, but also do not cause trouble to others. He can take care of himself before he has the extra energy to pay attention to others.
● Outward emotional projection
He can perceive others, think differently, and accurately express concern with words and actions.
If you want a child with high emotional intelligence, you can't ignore this parenting guide.
(1) Sufficient love is the source of high emotional intelligence
Huo Siyan's Hum King is a sweet hand in life.
When Mom was afraid of the slide, Hmmm immediately said, "Mom, I will protect you." ”
He washed his mother's feet at home, helped his mother massage her feet, hurt the wounds on her mother's feet, helped her mother carry vegetables, helped her mother take off her socks, he would clean up his own plates and dining table after eating, and did not let his mother worry...
In addition to spoiling his mother, he also genuinely cares about everyone around him, knows how to express his emotions, and interprets the appearance of a warm baby with strength.
Why?
This is a very loving family, Huo Siyan and Du Jiang two husband and wife love each other, Hmmm has seen their parents love each other in the ear, he knows what love is like.
At the same time, they gave Hum plenty of love, put "I love you" on their lips, let the child feel love at any time, and integrate love into patience and meticulous companionship from the action, as long as there is time, do not miss the growth of Hum.
Child psychology believes that if a child gains enough love from his parents in the stage of early childhood love, he will learn to give love back to his parents, and he will not be stingy in giving love to others.
The child's behavior will converge with the performance of the caregiver to establish a "sense of worth and belonging."
Only when we have seen love can we understand love, accept love, and give love.
Love has become a habit, and it is love that teaches children how to love, which is the core of the heart.
This kind of mutual love between husband and wife, parents and children, conveys beautiful and warm emotions in the flow.
(2) Stable emotions are the foundation of high emotional intelligence
In the movie "Charlie and the Chocolate Factory", the little boy Charlie lives with his parents, grandparents, grandparents and grandparents.
Their family was extremely poor, living in crumbling cabins and feeding on thin cabbage soup.
Little Charlie had no toys and no snacks, but he had a particularly warm home.
Their whole family never complained about grievances, nor were they anxious or grumpy.
When Dad came home from the cold wind in frustration because of unemployment, Mom saw the expression on his face and optimistically comforted her husband: "It's okay, I'll make the soup a little thinner." ”
After drinking soup every day, the old people began to tell Charlie the story of the long-ago chocolate factory, and they spent the night in a warm environment and said goodnight to each other.
In this warm family atmosphere, Charlie's character is warm and powerful.
He is not inferior, not lacking, not greedy, after entering the chocolate factory, in the face of the temptation of abundance that he has never seen before, he is always emotionally stable and calm.
Compared to the other children's various emotional problems, only Charlie is always calm in the face of chaotic scenes, which impresses the owner of the chocolate factory.
There are too many reasons why he won in the end, but I believe that emotional stability is also an important part of his victory.
Because parents have a calm heart, children learn emotional lessons in subtle words and deeds.
Of course, not every child has a peaceful family like Charlie, every child also has their own emotional problems, and if you want to cultivate a warm child, you can't ignore the guidance of your child's emotions.
Let children learn to describe, think, reflect on emotions, learn to recognize their own emotions, and can coexist peacefully with their own emotions, in order to understand the feelings of others, stimulate their own empathy, empathize with others' emotions, and summon warm behaviors.
(3) The ability to be independent is the premise of high emotional intelligence
There was a previous issue of "The Boy Says", and many people were circled by a "national mother-in-law" with three views.
In the show, the boy Fu Xuanang walked up to the rooftop and complained that his mother always let him do various housework at home, including washing dishes, wiping the floor, picking vegetables...
And his mother told him:
Housework is part of learning and part of life!
As a boy, if you can soak in the kitchen and the study in the future, you can take responsibility and have responsibility.
Then your future must be very happy, and the people who are with you will be very happy!
The wisdom of this mother makes netizens praise angrily, cultivate the child's ability to live independently, and cultivate a good trait of responsibility, which is the mother's true affection for the child.
Letting children take on housework within the scope of their ability from an early age is a good way to develop independence.
Friends' children are like this, learning to do housework from an early age, independent and responsible.
After the second child of a friend, he often has no time to deal with the trivial matters of life, and on weekends, Dabao, who is only in the second grade, will take the initiative to ask for cooking and washing dishes. When he saw his mother's happy smile, the little one was even more enthusiastic and said that he was happy to do housework.
The child's grandmother recently fell ill and recuperated at home. Every day when the children come home from school, the first thing they do when they put down their school bags is to immediately run to grandma's room, ask grandma if her state is getting better, and intimately prepare medicine and boiling water for grandma to take.
Of course, there are many ways to teach children to be independent, not just housework, but to try to let go, guide children to really learn to take responsibility for themselves, and start independent from small things.
And in life, some parents take care of their children too thoughtfully, do all kinds of things, chase and feed food, help sort out school bags, help with homework to heart attack and continue to fight hard.....
Of course, what we call the good qualities of children who hurt people is not the fake suppression of the true self to please others, but the result of the child's real love.
This is the child in the warm family relationship, and the parents have a deep emotional connection, get enough love nourishment, there is a lot of empathy experience, can be aware of their emotions, have the ability to take care of themselves, but also have the strength to care for the loved ones.
Some people say that children are angels sent by God to save adults. There are always some moments, the softness and warmth of the child, let us warm to have a child without regrets.
At that moment, forget the pain, forget the predicament, forget the despair, no matter how tired you are, you can regroup and come back to life with blood, and you just want to hug this warm guy.
May we all treat our little angels with love, peace, and independence, and that little people will eventually repay the song of love.