For the definition of happiness, everyone's feelings are different, it may be the satisfaction of material life, or it may be the fulfillment of mental state. If you really want to compare, children are more likely to achieve happiness than adults. Children do not think about gains and losses, and may be able to see it in a meal.
The child's "happiness index" is fully displayed at the dinner table
The details of life can make people see whether the family is happy or not. Seemingly simple eating, in fact, from some "small actions" can judge the child's happiness.
Yesterday was a small new year, and several sisters in our family got together and came to a family dinner.
The children in the two sisters are about the same age, and the eldest sister at the dinner table has been feeding the children with vegetables, and from time to time to take care of us, one will take water and one will serve dishes, and almost no bites of rice will be eaten. And I looked at the eldest brother-in-law on the side, completely eating and drinking by himself, and did not care about the eldest sister at all.
The second sister is also busy, but unlike the eldest sister, the second sister's bowl has the shrimp peeled by the second brother-in-law and the fish meat with shaved fish bones, and the children of the second sister are also held by the father, feeding the meal bite by bite.
The same family, but different scenes, and different family atmosphere, the impact on children is also different, just like the children of the two sisters, one is cheerful and lively, the other is a personality of only promises.
The family mode at the dinner table, the third type has the greatest impact on children
1) Take care of each other and the atmosphere is harmonious
Influenced by traditional beliefs, many people believe that the wife should be busy with housework at home, while the husband is only responsible for earning money to support the family. But it is not enough to have a hard-working mother in the family, and the influence of the father on the child is great.
Husbands know how to take care of their wives and often help with housework, so naturally children can also feel the love of their fathers, which in turn adds a lot of security to them. Moms are not "superhuman", and if dads help take responsibility, then children will hear about it, understand and be grateful.
2) Selfishness, disregard for family
The husband does not know how to understand the difficulties of the wife, has always believed that taking care of the child is the wife's business, although the child will not be wronged, the mother takes good care of it, but the father's performance will also affect the child's words and deeds, learn the father's responsibility, unwilling to pay for the family.
3) The controversy is endless and difficult to settle
Couples will inevitably have disagreements, and some people always like to pick each other's faults. Even if it is a simple meal, the parents will quarrel over small things, so that the child's heart will become anxious. The child itself is more sensitive, and will be very concerned about the things that the parents quarrel with, and it is easy to lack a sense of security.
If you want to cultivate your child's sense of well-being, what should the family pay attention to when eating?
Whether a family is happy or not, many times will be fully reflected in some details, even if it is a small matter of eating, it must be paid attention to.
First of all, when eating, the whole family should participate in it, and then start after everyone has arrived; secondly, when eating, parents do not quarrel and do not criticize the children; then, when eating, you can share more happy things; finally, after eating, the finishing work should be shared by more people, not the mother alone.
Parents should also not ignore the "details" at the dinner table and set a good example for their children
Respect the elders, not arbitrarily
Before eating, parents should tell their children that they should not only take care of themselves, but wait for the whole family to arrive and start. This is the basic etiquette of eating, you must know how to respect the elders, you can't just think about eating alone. Even if you like to eat the dishes, you must stop in moderation, do not be picky eaters, affect the family to eat.
Know how to be humble and be appropriate in words and deeds
When eating, children should not only take care of themselves and ignore others, but also be polite and humble at the right time. Parents should tell their children not to always talk during meals, which will affect others. Just properly enjoy the atmosphere, don't keep talking, don't cause trouble to others.
Learn to help and be organized
Parents should pay attention to the details before and after meals, and parents can let their children help with some help, such as cleaning up dishes, cleaning up garbage, etc., and do what they can. This can not only cultivate children's good habits, but also exercise independent ability.
Kojima would like to say:
The parents' feelings are harmonious and harmonious, which is conducive to the growth of the child. At the dinner table, you can express love and care as much as possible, which can not only enhance the feelings between husband and wife, but also help the child's inner development and enhance the child's happiness.