"Too purposeful" love, often do not have good results.
Why?
Because a person from the beginning, with the mentality of "I want to get some benefits and values in you" to fall in love with the other party, then he will not give real feelings.
His giving, his love, is based on his own needs, a "pretend" feeling.
As soon as the other person has no place in him that can attract him, or the other person cannot meet his value needs, he will turn around and leave.
This is also why many people choose to be single at the moment, because they are not willing to maintain such a relationship.
In addition to the reasons for the gender difference of "more men than women", the better the girl, the more likely she is to be single.
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Their own value is high, so they will not easily "compromise"
We often say that a girl wants to be "financially independent and independent in personality", what does it mean?
For example:
After a girl graduates, she finds a good job, and then her career is smooth sailing and rising.
She has enough financial conditions, has her own personality and ideas, and knows how to go about the next life.
Her temperament is accumulated little by little through reading; her self-confidence emanates from her bones.
The skin care products she uses, the clothes she wears, the places she has been, the food she eats, and the circles around her are all obtained through her own efforts little by little.
For a girl with good financial conditions and high self-worth, will she easily start a relationship?
The answer, of course: no.
She knows that she has the current achievements and how much sweat and effort she has put in, so she will not give the rest of her life to a boy.
For such girls, they are like this mentality:
"I have the financial means to buy what I want and live the life I want; so why should I marry a boy who is inferior to me?"
Therefore, in her view of marriage and love, she must find a boy who is "right at home".
Only boys who are better than her or who are equal to her can make her attractive to her.
You will find that why some girls can't control their marriage and life?
In essence, because of her lack of self-ability and low self-worth, she does not have enough conditions to control her life.
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Girls with good conditions, let boys "hopeless"
There is a saying that "only look from a distance can not be desecrated".
In the process of male and female interaction, liking a person is prone to "inferiority psychology".
Like what:
Walking on the road, i was greeted by a girl who was particularly good-looking, in good shape, and dressed in a very expensive way.
At this time, there are only a few boys who have the courage to take the initiative to talk to each other.
Because the boy's subconscious thinks: "Such an excellent girl, I don't deserve it, I can't control it, or forget it." ”
In the relationship, men have a "desire to control" in their bones.
He thinks that he can control the feelings in his hands, so that he can take the initiative and be brave; what he is not sure of, will not be easy to do.
This reminds me of a girl friend next to me, 30 years old, still single.
The girl's conditions are particularly good, she has opened several chain clothing stores, and she is also a small Internet celebrity.
Her such conditions make the boys around her "unattainable".
Because her income is very high, the circle is very wide, and the network is also very large, it creates an illusion for the boys: "She is very expensive, I can't afford it." ”
Therefore, although this girl has some male friends around her, none of them dare to pursue her.
And those who pursue her can't make her feel good.
What does this mean?
Some girls are single because she is too good and too dazzling.
But the logic needs to be made clear:
Girls are too good to be single, does not mean that single girls are excellent.
How should girls with excellent conditions grasp their feelings?
From the perspective of "door to door":
The girl's circle is already middle and upper class, so she must try to contact more people in this circle.
Only boys with the same conditions as her can have the courage to pursue her.
From an emotional point of view:
Appropriate "showing weakness and being ugly" will make girls more cute.
There is an "ugly effect" in psychology, which refers to:
People who are too perfect may not be liked, and people who are excellent but have shortcomings are more likely to make others feel good.
A person's conditions are too good, very perfect, every move, every word and deed reveals "nobility", which is equivalent to putting a label on themselves: "Do not go near the living people.".
Try to be cute, learn to show weakness, and show your own girl's playful side.
After all, there is a saying called "the best life for a spoiled woman".
Excellence is the strength of girls; learning to be spoiled and weak is the means of girls.
Today's Topic:
Do you think that girls with excellent conditions are easy to be single?
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