5 and a half years old children, writing homework procrastination, lifting up to write homework, it is a headache, and now children can not play, what should I do?
This question was raised by a mom in my 2-8 year old mom's growing up learning group.
5 and a half years old children, currently in the stage of early childhood articulation, although the age is still a little young, but do need to do some writing practice.
Children do not like to write homework, mention the writing of homework began to drag and rub, one will drink water, one will pee, such a situation, how to guide the mother is better?
First of all, understand the fact that children are not capable enough
We should take into account a very real problem, children over 5 years old, do not like to write homework, may be incompetent:
Children's preschool writing skills are not well developed.
It is likely that the child does not want to write homework, or deliberately drags and rubs, but the child's small hand muscle strength is insufficient, for the pen and writing, in fact, can not do.
The ideal is very beautiful, the reality is very bone, and the words written by the child in the ideal are like this:
But in fact, the words written by the child are like this:
Such a large contrast and gap will make the child have a strong sense of frustration, and it will not take twice for the child to play a retreat.
After we understand this situation, regarding the matter of children writing homework, in fact, we can try to think differently.
The purpose of allowing children to write homework in the early childhood articulation stage is mostly to cultivate the habit of children writing homework, and it is not necessary for children to write every word beautifully.
Since the child's hand muscles are insufficient, we must find a way to exercise the child's hand muscles first.
Like what:
Usually, you can let your children practice using chopsticks, let your children knead more, color mud, crystal mud;
You can also let children practice drawing, you can draw on paper, you can paste a magnet blackboard on the wall for children to draw, you can also let children draw on the floor, feel different postures and materials, and hold the pen with different strengths;
You can also let your child practice screwing bottle caps, paper cutting and beading, which are very good games to exercise the strength of children's hand muscles.
First exercise the strength of the child's hand muscles, the child's ability is improved, and the homework is no longer resisted.
Second: Turn homework from a task to a game
Since the stage of early childhood articulation, or the stage before elementary school, is to cultivate children's habit of writing homework, there is no need to put the matter of writing homework on the line.
Our little cream is also in the stage of juvenile articulation at present, and when it first began to write homework, it was also a variety of demons, all kinds of procrastination.
But later, after I constantly adjusted, I summed up the three steps of writing homework happily, which solved this problem perfectly, and I shared the detailed process with you.
Step 1: Give a new name to the homework
Because I have had an unpleasant experience before, many times, for children who have just started writing homework, as long as the three words "writing homework" are mentioned, it will immediately trigger the child's resistance.
After seeing the child's confrontational reaction, naturally, the mother will also have emotions and cannot deal with the homework calmly.
Therefore, if you want your child to adjust your attitude towards writing homework, you can try to say another way of writing homework, which can reduce the resistance between both the child and the mother.
For example, in our family, the little cream writing homework is called: practice.
Of course, you can also change to other more acceptable titles, such as: work.
Step 2: Write with your child
Writing with children here is not to ask parents to sit next to their children to do supervision, but to create an atmosphere for children to write.
The way I used to do it was to find a copy of the poster myself and write it with my children.
This is done for two purposes:
1, hinting that children write something is a fun thing.
2, with actions to tell the child, not only you are writing, this thing mother is also happy to do with you.
With the mother's mobile companionship, the child will be more receptive to writing in his heart.
Step 3: Let the child act as a little teacher
Before writing with the child, first make an agreement with the child, and the two of us will compete to see who can complete today's practice in 10 minutes.
Then, after the end, exchange exercise books with the children and check each other's writing results.
There are challenges, time limits, and follow-up grading tasks, which are interlocked to increase children's interest in writing little by little.
During the practice process, parents should not be too addicted to writing on their own, our focus is on getting the child used to writing and letting the child win the 10-minute game.
Therefore, when the mother writes with her child, she can deliberately write slower, and then deliberately write ugly, or write a few words wrong.
In this way, children will gradually feel the sense of accomplishment brought about by writing, mainly from two aspects:
1, the child beat the mother in the 10-minute challenge game;
2, when the child corrects the mother's practice, finds a problem, can have a legitimate reason to draw a big fork on the mother, enjoy the sense of majesty and control of the teacher.
Children write homework procrastination, most of them are related to lack of ability, first solve the problem of insufficient ability, and then cooperate with a little bit of small methods, I believe that children can soon feel the fun of writing.