Hello everyone, I am He Shouwu, I want to share with you a thing around me: my cousin's son, a 17-year-old high school sophomore, jumped off the school yesterday, rescue was ineffective, lost his life. This afternoon, the police went to their school to investigate.
When we heard the news, we were all deeply saddened. This cousin, their family is working and living in the field all year round, and it is difficult to see each other for many years.
He Shouwu wrote the following to them, hoping to have a little comfort for them. If you have other ways, please advise, thank you very much.
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Brothers and sisters, you are a big family, you must take care of your health. Yeah, it's so painful to happen. Hearing such a thing as our little nephew, we were all very sad, and the tears fell when we thought about it.
The child is the hope of the parents, the meaning of the parents' life, and the loss of the child, how painful it is. I wish it was a dream, and when I woke up, everything was fine and the child was still bouncing around him.
If you are sad, cry out, this is better than suppressing it in your heart. But it has happened, and it is important that you take care of your body and continue to live strongly.
Brother's children, I also hope that you can all live healthily. You can think: the child went to heaven and became a star in the sky, where there is no pain, only happiness. When I think of him, I look up twice. There is a chance that I will be your child in the next life.
He certainly did not want to care about his parents and family so sad, he wanted his parents to live healthy and happy . A family, no matter where they are, will care and care for each other. For the sake of children, try to live strongly, come on!
My cousin's second son, tall, was still alive before
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Before seeing the news, some children committed suicide by leaving suicide notes because of too much pressure. Such news is not in the minority.
The child is usually very obedient, whether it is learning, or life, what the parents arrange, just do it, but their inner feelings, but they can't communicate with their parents.
Because the child has tried before, speaking his own mind, but to no avail. In the back, there was only obedience, and the pressure in my heart was getting bigger and bigger, until one day I couldn't bear it, and I left with regrets.
I have seen the knowledge about psychology before, saying that the more obedient the child on the surface, the greater the psychological pressure, and the higher the probability of accidents. The more rebellious children are, the more they express their thoughts in time and live happier, and they are relatively not prone to accidents.
It is also said that some parents, in order to let their children live as they want, impose their own ideals that they cannot achieve, and the children live for their parents, but it is not the path that the children themselves want to take.
Although the child looks excellent on the surface and is a well-behaved child in people's eyes, the child's own heart is full of pain, and no one can understand him. Finally, one day, the quantity becomes a qualitative change, and this string cannot be tightened, and it will lead to tragedy.
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When there is a lot of pressure, if you can find someone to communicate in time, or the people around you, find out and communicate with him in time, you can avoid the tragedy.
In the past, He Shouwu knew a child, compared to other children, his memory was not very good, the acceptance of knowledge was relatively slow, the school teacher forced him, the test was not good, the school teacher would tell the parents.
The child said that he really wanted to jump off the building, not only said the grievances he had suffered at school, but also said the grievances he had suffered at home. (He used to hold it in his heart.) ）
I communicated with his parents, his parents are actually fine, will not force him, go with the flow, happy to learn. The back was fine, not going towards tragedy.
This is a minority, and most of the students who go to tragedy are students who study well.
Before a key university, several doctors have jumped off the building one after another. Doctor, in the eyes of people, is how excellent, but the pressure in his heart is greater than that of other ordinary college students.
So the day he couldn't bear it, it would lead to tragedy. In this way, you will be relieved, and what you will leave your parents will be endless grief.
Therefore, in the courses of the university in the back, many courses that will carry out three-life education will talk about the preciousness of life and let us cherish life. It is not only necessary to grasp cultural achievements, but also to develop comprehensively in all aspects.
Yesterday's news in the group of relatives and friends
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The brother's son left a suicide note, saying that he was too stressed.
He didn't put pressure on him at home, that is, the school put pressure on him. He was a child who studied well, and he did not do well in the exam once, and the school teacher asked him to write a letter of guarantee. Isn't that forcing him?
The next test result, the child can not control, as long as the child tries his best. Schools can't force students to do this for their own promotion rate.
If you encourage him more, the effect is even better. For example, he is very good, this time did not do well is just an accidental mistake, as long as you analyze the reasons for doing the wrong question this time, the next time you try to avoid, it will be even better.
In this way, the child can feel that someone understands himself and encourages himself, and his heart will be much easier and he will work towards the goal.
But the school teacher coldly asked him to write a letter of guarantee, and he mostly obeyed the surface and wrote it down, but the inner pressure was nowhere to be released. It is good to have some pressure appropriately, but it is not good to be too stressful and counterproductive.
The common phenomenon I found is that I usually take the front, major exams (such as the middle school entrance examination and the college entrance examination), but it is easy to fail the test, because the pressure is too great, it can not play normally.
Usually, the grades are medium, major exams, but you can also take a better test, because the pressure is not great, relax your mentality to take the test, but you can play normally or extraordinary.
Hmmm, the little nephew is what happens at school, the school should be fully responsible, the school and the teacher are important and responsible. The school punishes the teacher, and the school and the teacher compensate the child's parents for damages.
If you are not satisfied, you can find a lawyer and go through the legal process. The baby son is gone, so there is no more worry. First look at the school's handling method, and if you are not satisfied, you will take the school to court.
Thank you to your family for their care and support, and work together to help my brother through the most difficult times.
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The famous writer Yang Dai, her daughter Qian Yao died of illness in her fifties, and she experienced the pain of sending black haired people to black haired people.
The following year, her husband Qian Zhongshu also died of illness. A family of three, she was the only one left. After great pain, she still survived strongly.
She wrote down the past of their family of three, and later published a book "The Two of Us", which touched countless readers.
After my brother has survived this difficult time, if he has time, if he wants, he can also write down the past and his feelings, and it is really healing to write it down. If you always hold it in your heart, it will be very bad for your body, and you will be prone to illness if you are unhappy for a long time.
Life is short, cherish everything. I wish you all a healthy life.
If friends have other ways to comfort, please advise, He Shouwu is very grateful!
Today's group of relatives and friends