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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.
When interacting with the opposite sex, there must be basic principles and bottom lines, and the boundaries must not be crossed.
If you don't pay attention to each other's boundaries and often do something that crosses the line, the final consequences may not be affordable.
Although the current era is not as conservative as before, the distance and boundaries between men and women should still be there.
If it is easy to produce feelings, it will often lead to the collapse of the relationship, and even affect their respective lives, which is really not worth the loss.
Therefore, friends of the opposite sex are best not to have intimate contact and maintain a normal distance in order to maintain a long-term relationship.
Even if the relationship between the two sides is good, it should not be too casual, and it must have its own principles at all times, and adults must understand this truth.
Don't borrow the name of a friend to do something ambiguous, this kind of behavior is not advisable.
In short, between friends of the opposite sex, please do not easily have feelings, otherwise, both parties can not afford three consequences:
First, after the feelings are generated, the two sides will be very embarrassed
Friends of the opposite sex, often more familiar with each other, are not so disciplined when chatting, and even when they are together, they will not pay attention to anything.
They often have a feeling that they can talk, or feel that the other party knows themselves very well, so that they continue to communicate, so that the relationship deteriorates.
The reason why many friends of the opposite sex have crossed the line is nothing more than not paying attention to the impact at the beginning, and when there is intimate contact, they want to retreat from the whole body but find that it is impossible.
Therefore, between friends of the opposite sex, even if the relationship is very good and the friendship is very deep, they must adhere to the boundaries of communication.
Otherwise, once the relationship deteriorates, it will affect the friendship between the two sides, and it is likely that even friends have no need to do it.
This requires both parties to try to avoid inappropriate behavior, and always regulate their words and deeds, so that uncontrollable feelings will not occur.
Of course, it is not impossible for the opposite sex to occasionally help each other, or occasionally chat with each other, but it must be within the scope of normal communication.
If both parties are friends, they should maintain a good friendship together and do not let the relationship change. If neither of them has this awareness, it is likely that the relationship will cross the line.
There is a pair of male and female colleagues around, they often interact at work, usually chat very well, the relationship is getting closer and closer.
However, they did not regulate their words and deeds, and always took the opportunity to chat, or go out to dinner alone, and do something beyond between friends.
Since then, when two people meet again, it becomes particularly embarrassing, both parties dare not look directly into each other's eyes, and the relationship has been greatly affected.
After a period of time, the two people gradually become familiar strangers, no longer talking, no longer communicating, each deleting the other, and a friendship disappears.
Therefore, when friends communicate, do not do things between lovers, only when both parties adhere to the bottom line, can the relationship be maintained normally.
Second, it becomes a hostile relationship and complains to each other
If friends of the opposite sex have intimate contact, there is another change, which may become a hostile relationship and complain to each other.
At this time, both sides will lose friends, and even if they want to save, they will not go back to the past.
Some relationships, once changed, can no longer be recovered, emotional uneasiness and resentment, may not be forgotten in a lifetime.
In this way, a friend who is supposed to be good may easily become an enemy, so why bother?
Two people not only can't be friends, but they may also hide from each other, and they are particularly complaining in their hearts, and once they have hatred, they will be like strangers in the future.
In this life, it is not easy to make a friend, and if it is easy to lose it, it is really a pity. This requires that men and women must be cautious when interacting, and must not cross the boundary.
My friend Miss Hao has a male girlfriend with a good relationship, the two have known each other for three years, and they are usually together.
Just when others were envious of the pure friendship between them, the two people had an intimate relationship, which changed their original appearance in an instant.
Miss Hao felt that the male girlfriend was very hypocritical, and she had always held a good friend attitude towards him, but she did not expect that he was bent on having feelings for her.
It was a party, and the male girlfriend warmly invited her to his house, and she was completely defenseless, thinking it was just a simple party.
After arriving, the male girlfriend made all kinds of dedication, and finally gave him an opportunity to take advantage of it.
Since then, Miss Hao has severed contact with her male girlfriend, and has a particularly large hatred, and the relationship is broken.
Therefore, between the opposite sex, even if the relationship is good, do not produce feelings, daily interactions must pay attention to the sense of proportion, to avoid the relationship beyond the boundary.
Third, affect their respective feelings, the gains are not worth the losses
Friends of the opposite sex, in life, must pay attention to the boundaries of communication, do not play ambiguous, do not do things that cross the line, so as not to affect feelings.
Otherwise, both parties are very casual, do not shy away from it at all, and will eventually affect their feelings, and the gains will not be worth the losses.
Adults must maintain a decent relationship, if there is no measure of interaction, it will only make others feel very casual, not at all immature and stable.
Men, in particular, should pay more attention in this regard, do not easily go to the beautiful women, if you misbehave, you will eventually pay the price.
Women should also pay attention to the fact that when you meet a man who comes to pry you, you must resolutely refuse and do not have too much interaction with them.
Once men and women have no boundaries, it is likely to cause both parties to get into trouble, if it affects their feelings and lives, regret is too late.
Mr. Zhang has been working in other places since marriage, and he worked very hard at the beginning, basically did not have too many ideas about the opposite sex.
However, after three years of looking for a job in the field, he suddenly felt more and more lonely, feeling that this kind of life was too difficult.
It was at this time that he met a beautiful woman, and the two of them had a very happy conversation at first sight.
As long as they have time, they will be together, talk about life, talk about feelings, talk about their views on happiness, etc., and often meet to go out and have fun, and the relationship has become more and more intimate.
This lasted for almost a year, until Mr. Zhang's wife came to see him from her hometown and found out that he was abnormal.
The consequences are very serious, Mr. Zhang's wife resolutely filed for divorce, did not give him a chance to correct, let him regret the beginning.
Therefore, between the opposite sex, do not easily produce feelings, otherwise, affecting their feelings, will definitely pay a tragic price.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
To sum up, friends of the opposite sex, it is best to be simple, pure, both sides can clear themselves, so as not to let the relationship deteriorate.
If both parties do not pay attention to the boundaries and behave very casually, once the original friendship relationship is destroyed, it will definitely cause a rift in the feelings between each other.
At this time, both sides can not bear the consequences, and some injuries may still accompany the memory of a lifetime, which is quite unworthy.
After the two sides have feelings, they will be very embarrassed; two people will become hostile and complain to each other; and it will also affect their feelings, and the gains will not be worth the losses.
Adults, we must pay attention to their own cultivation, do not have intimate contact with the opposite sex.
Otherwise, you will definitely pay for your original mistakes, and then everything will change and happiness will leave you.
I hope that both men and women can understand this, abide by the bottom line, and truly achieve pure friendship, which is the responsibility and dignity that a person should have.
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Author: Ye Feifei yff, focus on the field of emotion creation and sharing, with emotions to communicate with you and my heart, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.