In love, women want to be pampered by men and care about themselves. Such love can make women enjoy this happiness and sweetness, and they will also have a sense of security.
It's just that women are often very sensitive in love, and a man's words, a small act, may make women sad. Especially when a man's attitude towards a woman suddenly becomes very cold, it is difficult for a woman's heart to accept such a contrast, and often suspects that the man is not sincere with her.
Just like in "Why Sheng Zhen Mo", He Yichen saw the gap between them because of Zhao Mosheng's father's words, and also began to lose confidence in this relationship. So when he saw Zhao Mosheng, he deliberately pretended to be very indifferent. Zhao Mosheng saw He Yichen's indifference and mistakenly thought why Yichen did not love her at all, so he left disappointed.
For women, when they fall in love with a man, there is nothing more frightening than that men will treat them coldly and care about their feelings. In such a situation, women's hearts are often disappointed. If you love a man very much, women will naturally want to use some ways to win back the man's heart and reverse this situation.
But if a woman is blinded by love, blindly pays, and treats men with her own enthusiasm, she will be felt by men that this love is too cheap. Once men define the feelings in this way, it means that it is difficult for them to change their minds.
Shakespeare said, "Love is the same as charcoal, and when it burns, you have to find a way to cool it." Let it go, then burn a heart. ”
So, women need to know that when a man's attitude becomes cold, don't try to impress men with your efforts, your enthusiasm. Such a way will only make men's attitude towards you more cold.
Smart women tend to choose this approach, making it easier to turn things around. That is: do the opposite.
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Treating him in a way that the man did not expect will disturb his heart.
Valery said, "It is impossible to "love" someone or something you absolutely know." Love is always led to places where secrets are hidden. ”
Love always happens in many unexpected moments. When you are too familiar with a person, it is often difficult to produce a feeling of love, but when you see a very unique person, love quietly occurs.
When the opposite sex gets along, women must understand this truth. If a man's attitude towards you is very cold, it means that he is tired of you, or he has not felt the charm of this love. The more men know about you and the more they know what you will do, the harder it is for women to stir up emotions within men.
To turn things around, women have to lead men to mysterious places. The more men can't guess your mind, the more they will pay attention to you again and re-examine their hearts. When a man's heart is disturbed by you, he will change this cold attitude.
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Keep your sanity, don't be too enthusiastic, and don't think about touching men with dedication and sacrifice.
We must know that love is two-way and cares about each other, not the sacrifice and payment of one person. If you want to touch a person, you may get a temporary response, but in the end, you can't exchange it for love.
When you fall in love with someone, no matter what the other person's attitude is, you can work hard for this love, but you must not lose your mind and lose yourself. Especially for women, the more enthusiastic you are toward a man, the more you lose your mind, and the less likely the result will be as you wish. You are enthusiastic, you are willing to pay, will only make men think that you are a very casual woman, and your love will become cheap because of this initiative.
Marx also said: "It seems to me that true love is manifested in the implicit, modest and even shy attitude of the lover towards his idol, and by no means in the casual expression of enthusiasm and premature intimacy." ”
The more cold a man's attitude towards you, the more women must know how to maintain their posture. If he still loves you, he will naturally not be willing to give up on you. If he doesn't love you, no matter how much you give, it won't change his heart.
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Pursue love it soars, escape love it follows.
Many times, we want to get something, as long as we put in the effort, naturally there will be a corresponding return. But love is the exception, falling in love with a person, our efforts and sacrifices are in turn opposed in many cases.
Especially when we meet someone who doesn't love us, the more we give, the greater the disappointment in the end. On the contrary, if we can see the reality in time and choose the way that is most beneficial to us, we will reduce this disappointment, and even after a short time, we will be able to let go completely.
Women should understand that if a man's attitude towards you becomes cold, do not blindly worry and be afraid, but know how to analyze and understand the man's mind. After knowing the reason why he became cold, he can find a more suitable way to deal with this relationship.
If you blindly pursue this love, it is easy to let love get farther and farther away from you. If you calm down, maybe it will look for you in turn.
Isakovsky said: "Love, it is not one heart to beat another heart, but a spark of two hearts colliding together." ”
As the saying goes, "You can never wake up a person who pretends to be asleep", and the same is true in love, no matter how enthusiastic you are and how hard you work to give, you can't make a person who doesn't love you suddenly fall in love with you.
When a man is cold to you, don't treat him in the way he is most familiar, and choose to do the opposite, it is easier to turn the situation around.