Text/Box, Jiang Zuo Meiniang
Speaking of the TV series "Why Sheng Xiao Mo", everyone is no stranger.
The sadistic love between the male protagonist He Yichen and his first love girlfriend Zhao Mosheng has earned a large number of tears of pure love men and women.
Originally, they could always love each other, stay together, and enter into marriage.
But I didn't know how to create people, Zhao Mosheng suddenly evaporated from the world and went abroad, and it was 7 years when he lost contact.
In the past 7 years, He Yichen has put all his time into work and buried all his thoughts in his heart.
In the silent night, in the lively street, in the gap between the dormitories, he always involuntarily thought of Mo Sheng, remembered their sweetness and beauty.
It can be said that he never forgot Mo Sheng until they met again 7 years later.
Many women were moved by He Yichen's infatuation, even if they were the one who broke off the connection first, they all longed for such a man to wait for them affectionately.
So the question is, is it true that every man is the same as He Yichen? How long does it take for a man to forget a woman?
I think it really varies from person to person.
01 Someone, never forget the unforgettable first love
Speaking of first love, many men are reminiscing about it with their lives.
The age of youth, the age of white clothes, just happened to be the beginning of the relationship.
Either from a romantic encounter or from a heartbeat confession. In short, all the beauty and throbbing happened at that moment, and the world seemed to have a new hue.
However, the first love is beautiful but also fragile, when innocent love meets naked reality, when sharp personality meets another person with different personality, there are often many regrets.
Time passed, and when the women around them were away, many men began to fall into lovesickness and memories.
Japanese writer Haruki Haruki Haruki portrays the image of a man who is obsessed with his first love in his novel "South of the Border, West of the Sun".
The man is middle-aged, runs a bar, has a good business, can be said to have a successful career, the wife of the family is virtuous and gentle, and the two daughters are cute and well-behaved, and they are proper winners in life.
However, his heart is full of loneliness and emptiness, and every night in the dead of night, he remembers his first love, relying on memories and reverie to fall asleep.
He couldn't forget everything about his first love girlfriend, until one rainy night, he really saw his first love again. Since then, he has been out of control, and he even decided to elope with his first love just like that.
It's just that everything didn't go in the direction he wanted, and his first love girlfriend lost contact again.
The sad man began to fall into the thoughts of every night again.
In the novel, the male protagonist has an inner monologue that says:
"For a long time, the warm memory gave me much encouragement and comfort, and I kept a special place for her in my heart, like reserving a window seat in a restaurant, which was reserved for her alone, even though I would never see her again."
This monologue shows the man's attachment to his first love, and in these attachments, there is love, regret, and nostalgia for his youth.
An unforgettable first love, sometimes, is enough for a man to remember for a lifetime.
Zhang Xiaoxian said:
"It is very painful to forget, it was in the past, it is today, but the pain in the past is because I can't remember, but today the pain is because I am afraid that I can't forget."
Yes, there may really be such a man in this world, he will never forget his first love, but you will also find that such a man will always encounter this first love that does not take him seriously, so such a relationship can only be turned into memories in the end.
If you are such a man's white moonlight, you are lucky; And if you are the wife of this man, don't panic, because most men can eventually return to reality.
02 Some people, in a blink of an eye, forget those feelings that are on the scene
The subtlety of feelings is that they can linger or come to an abrupt end.
Infatuated men can't let go of women who have truly loved, and men with affection have a blind eye to women who walk through the scene.
There are some men in this world, who treat feelings like casual objects, and they are not easy to be emotional.
Sometimes it may be because it is too lonely, and it is in a hurry to find a woman to accompany it; Sometimes because of face, you must "hunt" a woman; Sometimes it may be because you are old and want to find someone to walk through the motions.
They may be intimate with women at the beginning, but they are not really in love with each other, and they always play on each other for their own purposes.
This kind of man who is impatient with feelings will naturally not remember those women who have intersected with him, maybe change someone, and forget the previous one in a blink of an eye.
This time may be a day or a week, and it will not last long.
Such men only have themselves in their minds, and they will selectively forget what they should not remember, and obviously this question is meaningless to them.
There is a saying on the Internet that says:
"There is always a clear dividing line in the heart between playing and sincerity."
Yes, there are many dividing lines in this line, maybe time, maybe money, are important standards, if you encounter such a man, you don't have to be too entangled in whether he is sincere, the right to be romantic, enrich the course of life, and then for this kind of dramatic feelings, say lose it, after all, he will not remember you, why should you mind?
03 Mei Niang said
After the disconnection, a man is obsessed with a woman, and it can be said that he is single-minded and long-term. In fact, from another point of view, it is also possible that he is not brave enough to start a new life.
If this man has found a new woman to marry, and still misses the previous one, whether buried in the bottom of his heart or exposed, it is an act that is detrimental to the existing family, so if such a man is in a TV series, we will really be moved, and if he appears in life, you will find that he is very intimidated.
People must know how to live in the present, whether the memory of the past is good or regretful, should become the past, as a man should let go, should know how to cherish the current woman, to embrace the current life.
If the man is still single, and he still clings to his previous memories, it can also be considered that he is really shaft and a person who is too obsessed.
In fact, there are many beautiful things and people in life that are worth pursuing, making ourselves better, is an ability to turn around in time, such a man is not transparent and flexible, and is not a good companion.
Of course, after disconnection, if a man turns his head to a woman and forgets, he may really be labeled as affectionate, but from another point of view, he may also have his own sense of freedom and boundaries.
When most women examine a man, they will care about the man's long-term love, after all, one moment is still me, the next moment to become a stranger is too determined, but as long as the man's attitude towards emotions is correct, and does not frequently change girlfriends, it is not a kind of rationality.
Women, if you have met such a man, you should really grasp it, because it is a sense of freedom and boundaries, and such a man can really be a good husband.
There is always a boundary to mourning the loss, saying goodbye to old love, which is a necessary lesson in a person's life after all.
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