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01. Preface
Love, like an ice cream in the summer, is delicious, but it also melts easily.
When in love, love is very sweet, very beautiful, so that people are full of expectations for the future; when not in love, love is very bitter, very hurtful, and makes people's hearts break into slag.
When a woman truly loves someone, she will regard love as a kind of faith, and she will be the most devout believer in love.
However, if in love, the man always does not respond to her love, ignores her efforts, over time, the woman will also be cold, desperate, and even not love.
"Lolita" wrote: "There are three things that cannot be saved, time, life and love, you want to keep but gradually drift away." ”
When love disappears, the woman will become very cold, and her words and deeds will become very "cold".
Women no longer love, no longer regard love as the most important thing in life, so the "impulse" about love has quietly disappeared.
The heart becomes cold, no love, the woman may not say it explicitly, but there will be the most intuitive manifestation: the three senses of impulse disappear.
02, no longer impulsive temper tantrums, means that love is light
In love, when a woman cares about a person, emotions are easily pulled by him.
Deep in love, it will be easy to be jealous, will be disappointed because men have not fulfilled their promises, and will be angry because of gains and losses. Temper tantrums are a manifestation of women's deep love.
Because I love deeply, I care. Because of the fear of losing, it is easy to be impulsively angry.
When women are deep, they like to "manage" men with everything. From food, clothing, housing, to work and entertainment, the figure of women is always pervasive.
I don't want him to work overtime for too long, I don't want him to eat and drink with some wine and meat friends. He will even angrily point out his shortcomings and help him correct his bad habits.
However, when a woman is no longer in love, she will become no longer angry.
Even if you see that men do not care for their bodies, they no longer impulsively quarrel and lose their temper. If you don't love, you won't care about each other as much as you used to.
Because she is no longer in love, the other party can no longer affect her emotions, and can no longer make her impulsively lose her temper. If you don't love, women will become quiet and become indifferent to anything.
03, looking for "trouble" is a manifestation of love
When a woman loves someone affectionately, she always makes the man feel a little "troublesome".
For example: her water pipes are always broken, her computer is always a problem, she always encounters various problems when she goes out, or she is in trouble again...
When a woman is always "bothering" a man, it's probably because she's expressing love.
He Yimei in "Why Sheng Xiaomo", knowing that He Yichen likes Zhao Mosheng, is very angry. Therefore, she found Zhao Mosheng, threatened her, and persuaded her to keep her distance from He Yichen.
For a long time, He Yimei was hostile to Zhao Mosheng.
She would lose her temper with He Yichen and trouble him again and again, hoping that he could understand the woman's sincerity. Later she understood that men didn't love her and that whatever she did was useless.
When she really gave up, her mentality also became very peaceful, no longer looking for trouble for He Yichen and Zhao Mosheng, and sincerely blessed them.
Women don't love anymore, and when they see men with friends of the opposite sex around them, they are no longer impulsively looking for trouble, but will turn a blind eye.
If a woman does not love, she will no longer be jealous, and it will not destroy the relationship between men and other women.
Women no longer trouble men because of jealousy, and will no longer suffer from gains and losses because of the opposite sex around him, because her heart has been withdrawn.
Women don't argue with them easily, in other words, the worlds of two people intersect less and less, and there is nothing worth her wasting any more energy arguing.
04, no longer pay, the door of the heart has been closed
When a woman is truly in love with a man, she is always prone to impulsive giving.
When paying for the man she loves, no matter how much energy a woman spends, no matter how much time it takes, no matter how much it costs, in short, she is willing to give everything for love.
True love for a person, will accompany for a long time, willing to pay.
When a man is in trouble, he no longer impulsively gives everything, only for him to get through the crisis safely.
Women no longer love a man and don't pay attention to his every move. He will not be foolish to give everything, just for him to live better.
If she does not love, women will begin to plan for their future and no longer impulsively give everything for love.
If you don't love, women will leave good resources for themselves and will no longer impulsively invest in men. Even if his situation is difficult, women will not give easily.
Because I don't love anymore, the "impulse" of giving disappears. If you don't love, you will become "miserly" and will use more energy to love yourself.
Whether he needs help or not, whether he is living well or not, women will no longer care. Whether he is good or bad, he is like a passerby, no longer the most important existence in a woman's heart.
05. Summary
When a woman does not love, all the "impulses" in love will disappear, her eyes will only have her own life, and her emotions will no longer rise and fall for this man.
A woman who loves a person deeply will be willing to be "impulsive" for love, and willing to use all her life's strength to manage love.
Yishu said: "People's hearts become cold day by day, leaves turn yellow day by day, stories are written slowly to the end, and love becomes unloved because of too much disappointment." ”
In love, women long for true love, and they long to be treated with sincerity by men. However, if a man does not know how to cherish and accumulates too much disappointment in his heart, she will also leave sadly.
When a woman becomes too sensible in love, becomes too generous, becomes too rational, no longer impulsive, probably because she no longer loves.
Men, when you meet a woman who truly loves you, please cherish it with your heart. Don't hurt her easily, stay until the woman's heart is cold, when she chooses to leave, it is too late to regret it.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the Internet, a happy woman manager, who has focused on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.