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Today's article, to be precise, is a belated response.
At 1:17 a.m. on February 24, 2022, a new message was alerted from a reader named @Freedom.
She wrote down the most troublesome things, was urged to marry, quickly married, and quickly divorced. She called it a "fast-food marriage," and presumably, she experienced some unspeakable pain. That night, she should have lost sleep too.
I had a hard time giving a "firm and correct" answer, but I couldn't put it down and kept it in a memo.
This question always comes to my mind lately:
Am I choosing the right one? Will I look out of place?
Two
I understand this anxiety.
I believe you feel the same way, making decisions, is difficult for most people.
In particular, our lives are filled with a hegemony - "the right choice of hegemony".
Some sounds are very high in decibels, too high to accommodate other sounds;
One option is too popular, clustered by most people as the best option, and labeled with a wrapper. The slogan above is very tempting, "It will definitely take you to happiness".
But, is it true?
My friend shared with me a feeling that in some moments, I often feel helpless and difficult.
A kind of hardship of living as a "minority".
For example, you are not married and have children at the "right" age, for example, you choose a "not very cost-effective" but you like a profession, such as you refuse to be a praised "persona" and decide to be a real and specific but flawed person...
Because the multiple choice problem of life has been set by default, there is only one optimal solution.
Three
Today, I'm trying to give @Freedom a reply.
I approached 4 women who were not married at 40 and talked about their options.
These 4 women are not the optimal solution, not the correct solution, just an ordinary answer, one of the ordinary ways of living an ordinary person.
But it is the most honest answer in their hearts.
That's what I want to say to all those who are facing tough choices:
Life's multiple choice questions can have countless ordinary solutions.
If you're struggling with those high-decibel "right voices," you can go and salvage the most honest voice inside.
You need to be more diligent, more optimistic, braver and more confident.
Don't stop, don't get frustrated, don't fall into a trap.
As said in Jurassic Park, life will find its way out.
This is an interview with 4 women who are not married at the age of 40. It was a very honest conversation and hopefully inspired you. You are also welcome to share.
Written by: Dawn Star Wang Xueqin
Internship: Dealo Gray
Editor-in-Charge: Tintin
Part of the discussion came from the HyperTalk community
Vespers Hour: "I watched, naïve myself, appearing, without me in the story, waiting, my response." ”
——Caodong no party "Shan Hai" Shan Hai Music: Cao Dong no party - ugly slave