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When a woman has given birth, she is often faced with two choices, one is to return to the workplace after breastfeeding, and the other is to temporarily give up work for the child and become a full-time mother.
In the eyes of many people, full-time mothers are a very respectable profession, but it is undeniable that in today's environment, full-time mothers are also a high-risk profession, after all, when they lose their financial resources, the happiness of full-time mothers depends entirely on whether the other half has a conscience.
Not long ago, a full-time mother in Xi'an reported domestic violence to her husband in real name on the Internet, as a full-time mother who has been married for 8 years, her experience has made many netizens both sympathetic and emotional.
500 yuan to play IOUs, frequent domestic violence by the husband, full-time mother exposed chat records with her husband, can't bear to look directly
Bao Mom said that her husband had beaten herself three times in front of the child, and the reason for domestic violence was because of some trivial things in life, such as not letting her husband drink water from her son's cup, and the two quarreled and fought.
In addition to domestic violence, what makes Bao Mama disheartened is her husband's control of money.
Because The mother cannot go to work at home with the child temporarily, all the expenses of the family are paid by the husband, and in a screenshot of the chat record, the husband said that the living expenses for the mother were wages.
The salary of 3,000 yuan per month will also be deducted item by item because the wife does not do a good job, and finally only 2,000 yuan will be obtained.
What is even more surprising is that after the two quarreled, the husband lowered the living standard of 2,000 yuan per month to 500 yuan, and said that the money was lent to his wife by himself, and if the money was not enough, the wife needed to earn it herself.
In the video, Bao Mom helplessly posted an IOU, which reads: Borrow 500 yuan from her husband for daily expenses.
It looks very ridiculous, but Bao Mama said that her sentence is true and has asked the relevant agencies for help, hoping that she can get out of the sea of suffering as soon as possible.
During the love period between men and women, a sentence of "I raise you" by the man was the most touching promise made for love, and this sentence also made many women feel very romantic.
However, in the real life of chai rice oil and salt, I raised you before marriage but I borrowed you after marriage, and the attitude of some husbands also underwent a one hundred and eighty degree change.
There was a question on the Internet: How "miserable" are China's stay-at-home mothers?
Netizens summarized it as follows:
First of all, the social recognition is low, although full-time mothers should be a respectable profession, but due to the lack of financial security, many people see full-time mothers as a waste of resources.
Their sacrifices are taken for granted, and their efforts are very cheap, because no matter how hard they are tired, there is no cash return every month.
Second, the happiness of stay-at-home mothers is based on the conscience of her husband.
If you meet a good husband who can be considerate of his wife, then the full-time mother's efforts are valuable, but if the other half's attitude towards his wife has changed greatly compared to before, then the life of a full-time mother is a word of suffering.
Finally, many stay-at-home mothers are gradually losing their family status because they are not financially independent enough, and over time, this inertia has also deprived stay-at-home moms of the ability to work outside the home.
Are you willing to be a stay-at-home mom for your kids?
Below the question, many netizens have expressed their views. Some people think that the risk of stay-at-home mothers is too high, rather than spending time and energy on children, it is better to work well and improve themselves, after all, the economic foundation determines the status of the family.
Some people also think that it is necessary to decide according to the actual situation, if the husband is reliable, and the child does need the mother to take care of it, then it is also feasible to temporarily put down the career and accompany the child for a short period of several years.
"The key is to see if my husband is worth it, I have been a full-time mother for 7 years, my husband's salary card is here with me, we are very harmonious, and I have no regrets about paying for the family."
"Full-time for 3 years, the fourth year to work, if the economic conditions permit, it is recommended that the mother accompany the child to the kindergarten, these years are the most important stage of parent-child relationship establishment."
Mom's message
The topic of stay-at-home mothers has always been hotly debated, whether it is worth it for women to choose to be full-time mothers, because each family is different, so there is no accurate answer.
But it is worth affirming that women's efforts for the family should be seen by the family, especially as the other half, we must affirm and thank the wife's efforts, only by mutual tolerance and mutual understanding between the family can everything be harmonious and prosperous.
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