There is a saying that love is precious to the point, many people do not know how to cherish and have, until they lose it, they understand that the person who loves the most in their hearts is the one who has been disappointed the most.
Whether it is love or marriage, many people can't see through their hearts, some people in order to blindly pursue love, embarked on a road of no return; some people in order to get love, do not hesitate to abandon their families and daughters, but in the end they become nothing, in the final analysis, it lies in their greedy heart.
First, 10 years of love between the two broke up, why did he continue to harass and threaten his ex-girlfriend?
Mr. Su from Luoyang and his lover Xiao Ni have known each other for 12 years, because they have had a failed marriage before, after the divorce, he and Xiao Ni met in the chess and card room, and after knowing each other, the two talked very happily, so they came together two years later, and now the lover has left for no reason.
But Mr. Su's girlfriend Xiao Ni said that Mr. Su is not her husband, the two have only lived together for nearly ten years, which is surprising, it turns out that Mr. Su is not her husband at all.
Xiao Ni said that her biggest wish now is that Mr. Su immediately stop the endless threats and harassment of her. Ever since she moved out of Mr. Su, he knew wherever she went, and sometimes when she was eating at a restaurant with friends, he sat directly at their dinner table, which made her very frightened, and threatened her not to get married again, otherwise her red things would turn into white things. In order to confirm that what she said was true, she also provided a text message from Mr. Su.
But Mr. Su said that he just wanted to see the child, because the three of them were his favorite relatives in his heart.
Xiao Ni said that Mr. Su is her ex-boyfriend, 14 years older than her, when the two met in the chess and card room, she was attracted by his calm temperament, which will be with him without hesitation, and this is 10 years, although they are not married, but she gave Mr. Su two daughters, both follow her surname.
Mr. Su explained that the reason why he knew his girlfriend's information was first because he was paying attention, and he would find a friend to help her come out of the community, and the friend would tell him that all this was his concern and protection for Xiao Ni.
It's really ridiculous to hear, whether it's positioning or tracking, these are not the behavior of a big man, after all, he has passed the age of crazy love chasing, and using these extreme means will only make his girlfriend farther away from him.
Second, love a woman, why not take her to register for marriage?
Mr. Su said that all these things were deliberate pressures he put on Xiao Ni, that is, he was afraid that she would get married. Because a year ago he knew that Xiao Ni had a new boyfriend in his 30s, Wang Wei, who had worked as a chef in a restaurant before, and now worked as a safety officer at a construction site, with a salary of about five or six thousand yuan a month, he even found out that the two had plans to get married, in order to prevent Xiao Ni from being deceived, he made the previous stalking and threatening behavior.
Xiao Ni said that she only met her current boyfriend after leaving Mr. Su, and the boyfriend was very good to her, and she really did not want Mr. Su to interfere in her feelings again.
As a woman, she does not want to have a stable relationship, Xiao Ni said that if Mr. Su is a reliable man, how can she be willing to let the two children have no father, and the development to this point is completely Mr. Su who forced her away step by step.
Hearing Xiao Ni's accusations, Mr. Su tearfully expressed his love for Xiao Ni, his love for his children, and his love for this family forever. What makes people wonder is that if Mr. Su cares so much about Xiao Ni, why did he not register their marriage to become a legal couple in these 10 years?
In real life, someone is in love with you, someone is married to you, and these two are completely different. When you fall in love, he stops to accompany you, but he does not change his itinerary, and he may go at any time. And marriage, is that he gave up his own path and is willing to go the same way as you. So falling in love is easy, getting married is hard. The person who falls in love with you is still a passerby. The person who married you is called a family.
Xiao Ni said that in the 10 years that she lived with Mr. Su, Mr. Su refused to marry her countless times, not only that, Mr. Su has always been wary of her, she can't see the money, the business is not good, she loses her temper, and in the end she becomes in debt.
It turned out that the two were doing business in Luoyang, all of them were credit cards in the name of Xiao Ni, and after the first brush face authentication, she knew that without brushing her face later, Mr. Su would lend money out, which made her very angry.
Mr. Su explained that the problem of online loans is because he can't use it when he can't turn around, and now Xiao Ni has a total of more than 230,000 loans under his name, they still have the ability to repay, he is confident that he will buy a suite for her and her children in the next three years, because in the business field he does not tell his daughter-in-law, but is afraid that she is worried, and he is afraid that Xiao Ni will look down on him. He just wants to earn money to give Xiao Ni a beautiful wedding, and in the future he wants to take Xiao Ni to Hainan.
Hearing the other party's promise, Xiao Ni did not have any expression on her face, and she said that she had had enough of Mr. Su's rhetoric. What people don't understand is that since he has such plans and desires for the future, why has he not married Xiao Ni all the time?
Xiao Ni said angrily that because he had an ex-wife in the family, the two could not get a marriage license.
Originally, Mr. Su had promised his ex-wife that he would not remarry, he was very aware of Xiao Ni's desire for marriage, the reason why he did not complete the marriage formalities with Xiao Ni in the past 10 years was because he did not want to get married at first, and later when he wanted to get married, his eldest daughter was already in high school, afraid that if it affected the children, he and Xiao Ni discussed waiting for the children to go to college and then get married.
But Xiao Ni said that his girl was now in her third year in Luoyang and did not mention marriage to her. And Mr. Su explained that before the child went to college, his mother died, and then caught up with the epidemic, this year his mother died three years ago, when he collected the relics, only to find that all his documents were taken away by the big girl is not given to him, if he wants to get married, he has to go home to get things, surely the family will know the news of his marriage.
There is a saying that love that does not have the purpose of marriage is a hooligan. The children have given birth to two, still looking for various reasons to refuse, marriage is a bright and just thing, why are you afraid that others will know?
Third, the man's kneeling marriage proposal was rejected, how much is true behind the confession?
Mr. Su said that whether there is this certificate or not, Xiao Ni will always be the mother of his two children, he will not lie to her, he can guarantee that Xiao Ni knows all men who are not like him, and are sincere to her. Even though he didn't do well, even though he made her sad and let her down, his heart for her was the truest.
Hearing Mr. Su gushing about his love for Xiao Ni really made people feel that the deceptive love words were sweet. In life, some men say that they love this woman, but they always hurt her invisibly, which is actually a manifestation of hypocrisy. You know, if you really love someone, he will not easily say love, but express it with actions. But Mr. Su said it well, but he never fulfilled his promise, so why is true love?
Psychology shows that if a man's behavior and language are always different, then eighty percent of them don't love you. This kind of lie has a certain purpose, from loan concealment to marriage cheating, he has been enjoying Xiao Ni's kindness to him, and really can't stand the scrutiny of reality.
He said that when he left his hometown penniless and came to Luoyang to start a business from scratch, it was Xiao Ni who had been with him and never abandoned, for which he was full of gratitude and full of guilt for his eldest daughter, because for more than ten years, he had never given the eldest daughter a penny of maintenance, and had not fulfilled the responsibilities and obligations of a father.
Later, he learned that the eldest daughter had handed over his relevant documents to his ex-wife, so he went to negotiate with his ex-wife several times, and he was very unhappy about it, so in the matter of remarriage to Xiao Ni, he was too concerned about the feelings of the eldest daughter, afraid that his behavior would bring harm to the eldest daughter again.
Listening to it is really angry, this is not what deception is, while feeling guilty about the eldest daughter, while saying true love to Xiao Ni, which is true and which is false? As a father, he understandably feels this way, but he did not balance this relationship well between his first marriage and Xiao Ni, which was also a kind of harm to Xiao Ni.
Mr. Su said that he did not realize that it was a kind of harm to Xiao Ni, and in his heart he sincerely loved Xiao Ni and loved this family, so he tried hard to earn money to support this family.
It is good to have this kind of thinking as a man, but he does not take into account his limited ability, when he wants to do everything, it is doomed to hurt some people, sometimes it seems that there is no marriage certificate, in fact, for the woman, a marriage certificate is equivalent to a golden bell cover, on the one hand, she feels that she is protected by the law, on the other hand, she also believes that men can give her a stable second half of life.
Mr. Su said that his documents were already coming back, and he also proposed to Xiao Ni that he could get a marriage license, but Xiao Ni said that his heart was dead, and it was impossible to accept him after being injured for more than ten years. But Mr. Su walked to Xiao Ni with flowers in his hand, wanting to realize his dreams for many years, wanting to give Xiao Ni a romantic wedding, this bouquet of flowers is an apology to Xiao Ni, hoping that Xiao Ni will give him a chance to pursue her again, just when the two get to know each other again.
In the face of Mr. Su's on-site courtship, Xiao Ni directly turned to leave, Mr. Su almost fell to the ground, and with the help of the mediator, he stood up. People can't help but shake their heads and sigh, what was once expected has now become the most ridiculous scene. Xiao Ni said that he should think calmly before making a final decision about the relationship.
Sentiment Analysis:
1, people can not make mistakes again and again, to straighten out their emotional belonging
Seeing Xiao Ni think before making a decision, let people breathe a sigh of relief, too credulous to believe that a man's rhetoric will really ruin his life. And Mr. Su made her wait for 10 years, cheated her for 10 years, and let her see a person clearly, which may be the price of her growth!
Now that she has a new boyfriend, others have no right to stop her from running to the next love or the next happiness, but she should ask herself whether she is with her current boyfriend because he is a person worthy of appreciation, whether she will rely on for the rest of her life, or just because she wants to get rid of her ex-boyfriend's entanglement with her, which is very important. If you straighten this out, it will also help her to live happily in the future. Because people can't make mistakes again and again, especially marriage can't be tried and made by themselves, don't choose to break up because of gambling, but recognize your own heart and then make a decision.
2. If you can't do it, please let it go
Don't say love easily, the promise you make is the debt!
Mr. Su's biggest problem is to hurt the people who love him the most, first his ex-wife and daughter, then Xiao Ni and his two children, he said that he was true love for Xiao Ni, even if he promised to wait for his eldest daughter to go to college and did not fulfill his promise, but only found that the documents were taken by the eldest daughter when he sorted out the relics three years after his mother's death, so in his heart there was no intention of marrying Xiao Ni, because he also promised his ex-wife that he would not marry again. If so, why break the agreement to be a father who makes the daughter resentful?
He now wants to save Xiao Ni after he has made a new boyfriend, which is actually just a pretext. Instead of making Xiao Ni wait like this, it is better to let go completely and let her find true love.
3, do not let go is to love deeply, or not willing
Xiao Ni's choice to leave is wise, because people's lives cannot be spent on mutual consumption and aimlessly waiting for a hopeless love, he is so pointlessly entangled, it will only make Xiao Ni more disgusted, and now both are in a state of temporary breakup, both sides have their own thoughts and views, one to find new happiness, one is unwilling to let go, two people are completely different mentality.
In fact, sometimes I think about it, do I really love deeply, or because I am not willing? Everyone has the right to pursue love, the key is that he wants to know what Xiao Ni really needs, if he really wants to be good for her, he wants to protect her, he should consider her feelings from her point of view, first of all, let the other party have a sense of security is the first, and the way of stalking and intimidation is disrespectful to his girlfriend.
I hope that they can see their own shortcomings, try to change their own problems, and sincerely hope that after this incident, they can recognize their hearts and walk well in the future life.