The old mother in Hangzhou worries about the lifelong affairs of her returnee son And she has to turn to sleep experts for half a month of insomnia

How many blind dates have your parents arranged for you during this year's Spring Festival?

Recently, zhang Lisan, chief physician of the Department of Neurology and executive director of the Sleep Medicine Center of Shao Run Hospital affiliated to Zhejiang University School of Medicine, received many patients with acute insomnia, including many parents who broke their hearts for their children's lifelong events and had insomnia all night.

"Dr. Zhang, I can't sleep well. The son is more than 30 years old, 1.8 meters, and looks like Jin Chengwu. 3 years ago, I came back from Harvard University in the United States, busy with my career, managing listed companies... He, he's not looking for him now, I can't sleep for half a month. Last week, Zhang Lisan's consultation room came to a parent, Ms. Hu, whose face was full of anxiety.

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What's the use of making more money on money, I hope he solves the big things in life first

Ms. Hu is in her 60s and has been losing sleep for nearly two weeks for her son's lifelong event.

And this insomnia stemmed from a quarrel. "My son soaked in the company every day, returned to China for three years, there was no change at all, in addition to work or work, I told him many times, making money can be put away first, the girlfriend first find a good, set the lifelong event and then continue to busy career, he will not listen." He felt that career should come first. Sometimes I say too much, he feels annoyed, this time directly quarreled with me, said that he did not want to get married and did not want to find a girlfriend. ”

Ms. Hu and Zhang Lisan told the story of insomnia, "We parents always hope that our children will get married and have children as soon as possible. At that time, I heard him say that he didn't want to get married and was angry, and he lost sleep that night after the quarrel. Later, every night when I thought about this, I couldn't sleep over and over again, and then I felt that I was going to get sick and had to see a doctor. ”

After listening to Ms. Hu's "complaint", Zhang Lisan understood that the patient in front of him was an acute insomnia.

Zhang Lisan explained that acute insomnia, if not handled properly, can evolve into chronic insomnia, and the treatment of chronic insomnia can sometimes become very tricky. Chronic insomnia is often based on predisposing factors (such as women, family history of insomnia, irritable personality, etc.), encountering precipitating factors (such as acute stress events, family conflicts, work pressure, etc.), insomnia occurs.

"At the end of each year, there will be some patients who will visit the hospital, and the cause of insomnia is related to the lifelong events of their children, and most of them are mothers." Zhang Lisan said that like Ms. Hu, her personality is more sensitive and belongs to the susceptibility factor of insomnia; when she has a dispute with her son because of her son's personal problems, this has become a trigger for insomnia; as a sleep doctor, it is necessary to start with maintenance factors to help her eliminate maintenance factors as soon as possible and restore good sleep. Don't let acute insomnia evolve into chronic insomnia.

In the face of such patients, zhang lisan will usually prescribe some sleep aids to improve the patient's sleep, and at the same time, the most important thing is to calm the emotions and let the patient reconcile with himself and his children.

Half a month later, Ms. Hu's insomnia improved a lot, "I have figured it out now, give my son a little more time, let him go and let me go." Ms. Hu said.

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Marriage is a temple or a cage

The Hangzhou girl couldn't sleep because of this

"There are more causes of insomnia than you can imagine. How much heat and cold there are in the world, there are many reasons for insomnia. No, today I came to see a depressed girl, who has not been able to decide whether to enter the 'cage' of marriage for nearly three months. Some time ago, Zhang Lisan received a small amount of money from an insomnia patient who impressed him.

Xiao Qian is 27 years old, and the main reason for her insomnia is that the thoughts of "getting married or not getting married" in her heart are fighting each other.

Xiao Qian has a handsome boyfriend who has been talking for several years and has reached the stage of talking about marriage. But every time she mentioned getting married, Xiao Qian withdrew, and she thought of her unhappy original family.

Xiao Qian's parents have been in a bad relationship, and have been in divorce for more than 20 years, and Xiao Qian grew up in a quarrelsome family environment and saw an ugly and cruel scene of marriage. This impression took root in her heart and made her fearful of marriage.

marry? Not married? Whenever late at night, Xiao Qian tossed and turned, how could not sleep, finally could not stay up, came to the hospital to seek the help of sleep experts...

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Insomnia problems can be big or small Don't drag acute insomnia into chronic insomnia

Chief Physician Zhang Lisan said that insomnia is a slowly evolving process. Usually, acute insomnia can generally be relieved within one month, and if it lasts for more than three months, chronic insomnia should be considered. Chronic insomnia, on the other hand, is often transformed from acute insomnia.

"If there is insomnia for one to two weeks, there is no improvement through self-regulation, and you feel that you can't deal with it, you must go to the hospital sleep clinic as soon as possible, especially some women with a family history of insomnia, susceptibility factors such as personality sensitivity, etc., to remove maintenance factors as soon as possible." Don't drag on to chronic insomnia, the treatment is much more complicated. Zhang Li three reminds.

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At the age of 26, it was obvious that his family was in a hurry

The mother "strikes" to urge her daughter to find a partner

Xiaonuo, 28 years old, single. Just after 00:00 on January 1 this year, Xiaonuo's mother said to Xiaonuo solemnly, "Your biggest task this year is to solve personal problems, and everything else is put aside." ”

What surprised her even more was that her mother moved her to find a partner. When he got up the next day on New Year's Day, Xiao Nuo found that the table was empty and there was no breakfast. When I asked my mother, "When do you have an object, I will make you breakfast again, or I will go out to eat by myself." ”

In fact, two years ago, Xiaonuo obviously felt that her mother was in a hurry. Before this, for the problem of finding an object, my mother was still more Buddhist, and even relieved Xiaonuo, who would rather not find a good one than find it. Unexpectedly, after entering the age of 26, my mother's attitude has changed a lot, and all she says is Xiao Nuo's lifelong events.

Xiao Nuo's hometown has a custom that there will be happy events when holding a pot of lard upstairs in the New Year. Xiaonuo's mother hugged a pot of lard when she was young, and soon met Xiaonuo's father, married and started a family with Xiaonuo. Therefore, this custom, Xiaonuo's mother is convinced. On the first day of the Chinese New Year last year, my mother prepared a three- or four-pound lard jar, let Xiaonuo walk a kilometer, hugged him to the 6th floor, and made Xiaonuo tired and panting. But the "joy" still did not fall on Xiaonuo, and after another year of being single, Xiaonuo's mother finally couldn't stand it anymore.

In Xiao Nuo's view, marriage is a lifelong event, and it is necessary to find a person with similar hearts and like-minded people to have the motivation to stay together for a lifetime. Last year, Xiaonuo also met some excellent boys, but in the end there was no fate to come together.

Seeing that many of the classmates around him are married, and even become mothers, Xiao Nuo has also had an anxious period. But she was soon relieved. The days are for oneself, and whether the shoes fit or not, only one knows.

But Xiaonuo also said that she understood her mother's mood and did not reject the blind date. "If the introduction is a reliable boy, I will still actively participate, which is also to give myself a chance." What if you meet the True Destiny? ”

【Source: City Express】

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