The so-called self-cultivation of the family to govern the country and the world, only by cultivating the family can we talk about becoming a great cause, and it is reasonable to say that the more knowledgeable people should understand this truth better and be more filial to their parents, but on the mainland, there was a news that shocked the world.
Many years ago, a news about "Peking University doctors are not filial piety" entered people's field of vision.
According to the doctor's mother, it was not easy for her and her husband to raise their son to adulthood. But just after his son became a talent and graduated and got married, he suddenly stopped contacting himself.
Even though the couple searched everywhere they could, they found no trace of their son.
In this way, the son disappeared for 20 years, and now, the mother has reached the point of dying of a serious illness, she told reporters that she is extremely eager to see her son again, hoping that the reporter can help her.
This mother, word by word, like a cuckoo crying bloody plea, soon attracted the attention of reporters, and many netizens also embarked on the road of searching after learning about this matter.
Suddenly, an overwhelming invective also swept in, and everyone was scolding the mother for raising a white-eyed wolf.
But at this time, the doctor's brother stood up and told the world the truth, and the matter also had a dramatic reversal, so what happened in this family at that time?
Takako Hanmen first grew up
At that time, almost all the people in the outside world knew about Wang Yongqiang from the outside world's evaluation of him and his mother's narration of the incident, so when this mother told the story from her perspective, most people, like reporters, mistakenly thought that Wang Yongqiang was an unfilial son. But after understanding the beginning and end of the whole incident, we find that things are completely different from what the mother told.
Wang Yongqiang, a poor child, was born in 1969 to a peasant family in Xinhua Village, Changzhou City, Jiangsu Province.
His parents were just an ordinary peasant couple who could no longer be ordinary, and like most couples in the village, they thought that if they gave birth to a boy, someone would be able to provide for themselves in the future.
But the birth of Wang Yongqiang's brother did not bring joy to this family, but brought endless burdens to this family.
After the mother gave birth to this child, she found that the child had polio, and after learning the bad news, the mother was shocked, and judging by their family's ability, they simply could not afford to pay such a high medical cost, but after all, it was a piece of meat that fell from their own body, and the parents could not bear to abandon their brother.
After a long time, the parents moved the idea of conceiving a second child and letting the younger son give his old age in the future.
But the family itself is not very rich, coupled with the Wang family has so many mouths, but also waiting for dinner every day, so Wang Yongqiang's life since childhood has been very poor, according to his mother's recollection, when he was young, several children in the family often had a situation of not having enough to eat.
Such a difficult and difficult environment did not knock down this poor and weak boy, on the contrary, Wang Yongqiang, who grew up in such a family environment, also exercised the quality of perseverance, and as he grew up day by day, he also showed his extraordinary talent in learning.
Although the local education conditions are not very good, Wang Yongqiang is very hard to learn.
In order to make up for his own lack, he will also take the initiative to find teachers and seek answers if there are any questions that he does not understand in his daily life, and the teachers in the school at that time are very appreciative of this talented boy, and have paid a lot of effort to him, looking forward to his one day being admitted to the university and revitalizing the countryside.
But Wang Yongqiang's parents' ideas are completely different from theirs, in the eyes of their parents, the family environment is so poor, their income is not much, rather than studying, it is better to let the children go out to work early.
At the beginning, parents were reluctant to let their children study, in their opinion, Wang Yongqiang read for one more year, he would have to give him an extra year of tuition, if he went out to work early, but maybe he could make a few more years of money, so his parents have been mentioning Wang Yongqiang in the open and in the dark, asking him to hurry up and make money and not to study again.
Wang Yongqiang is a teenager who has been exposed to new ideas, and he knows very well what knowledge means to him, so he naturally has a lot of disdain for his parents' style.
According to the reporter's understanding, when he was a teenager, Wang Yongqiang and his parents had many contradictions, and the parents and parents worried about the family's chai rice oil and salt every day, and they did not care at all about whether Wang Yongqiang's academic performance was good or not, and how many points he could score.
The most often they say to their children on weekdays is that you must quickly grow up to make money, and when you grow up, you can treat your brother and give us a pension.
How hard it is to cash out machines
Even in school, he still has a lot to do every day, in middle school, Wang Yongqiang has to get up early every day, clean up the room, cook for his family, and when he returns home, he not only has to complete the homework assigned by the school, but also helps his parents do some rough and heavy work.
Living in such an environment every day, Wang Yongqiang is also very unhappy in his heart, in his view, he is just a money-making tool cultivated by his parents, but even if he is not satisfied, he did not directly confront his parents, he transformed this momentum of not accepting defeat into learning, and was admitted to Soochow University with excellent results.
At first, his parents did not agree with him going to college, because the children in the village had gone out to work to earn money to support their families by his age, but fortunately, soochow University had a welfare policy at that time, which showed that Soochow University would subsidize the children of poor families with four yuan per month for living expenses.
After learning of this policy, Wang Yongqiang and his parents began negotiations, saying that after he went to school, he was willing to send all four yuan of living expenses home, as a condition that he got the opportunity to study at university.
Wang Yongqiang knew in his heart that the only thing that could change his fate was to study and study, so in terms of learning, he also poured out 200% of his efforts, and as soon as he was admitted to Soochow University, he resolutely left home and embarked on the road of study.
After entering the university, he still did not slacken off, and his classmates said that he not only had excellent academic performance, was modest, and had a very serious attitude towards doing things.
In order not to let his parents talk about himself again, and in order to help his family reduce a little burden, Wang Yongqiang just entered the university, and Wang Yongqiang used his spare time to find many part-time jobs outside the school.
When there are classes in school, Wang Yongqiang will concentrate on studying in school, and when he has free time, he will go out to work and earn money.
As a high-achieving student, Wang Yongqiang's salary will naturally be much higher than that of his parents, and it will not be long before he can provide himself with better living security.
After entering the university, looking at so many people who are better than himself, Wang Yongqiang's own pressure is also very large, on the one hand, he wants to complete his studies in school, to understand those obscure theoretical knowledge, on the other hand, he also has to go out to work to make money, subsidize himself, subsidize his family during that time, his life is still very hard.
Later, his parents heard from nowhere that Wang Yongqiang had found a good job outside and could now make a lot of money, so they began to demand him unscrupulously.
Slowly, they were not satisfied with the four yuan subsidy fee that Wang Yongqiang gave to his family every month, and when Wang Yongqiang was in college, they found him more than once and said to him bluntly, Now that you have grown up, you should take on the responsibility of raising your brother.
His parents not only asked him to send him a monthly living allowance, but also wanted him to give his brother who suffered from polio to find a good job in the city, and his parents said: "You have also seen your brother's physical condition, he can't find any good job in the village, and now you are so good in the city, you hurry to find a job for your brother with more money, don't let him suffer." ”
Wang Yongqiang himself is very filial piety, at first when he heard these requirements made by his parents to himself, he would still try to meet them, but slowly, he found that his parents' desires were fundamentally a bottomless pit, and as their requirements became more and more excessive, Wang Yongqiang's heart also began to produce a sense of resistance.
After being admitted to Soochow University, Wang Yongqiang's story also spread quickly in the village, for people of that era, admission to college was the same as the ancient people Zhongxiucai, it was a big event of Honoring the Ancestors, when many people around the area ran to the Wang family to flatter his parents, wanting to ask them to find Wang Yongqiang to find a job for his children in the city.
These things seem ridiculous to us now, but the parents really put all these unreasonable demands on their sons and warned them that they must be done and not to embarrass themselves.
How could a college student be capable of doing these things? In this way, he told his parents about his difficulties and rejected them, he originally thought that this matter could be over, but what he did not expect was that his parents actually openly broke into the school and reprimanded him in front of the public.
How could Wang Yongqiang, who was full of style, endure such humiliation from his parents? Not to mention that it is still in a place like the school, after this incident, some bad gossip also came out immediately after, in the face of the way people around him pointed at himself and the parents' increasingly excessive demands, Wang Yongqiang finally couldn't stand it.
It is difficult for a clean official to break the household chores
The humiliation of his parents this time directly caused the deterioration of their relationship, and soon after, Wang Yongqiang was successfully admitted to graduate school with excellent results, and after being admitted to graduate school, the school would send him a subsidy fee of 72 yuan per month, and Wang Yongqiang no longer had to go out so hard to earn money and pay tuition.
Although at this time, he would still send a little money to his parents every month, but he did not have any reservations every month like before.
Because of an unexpected opportunity, the parents learned the news from other people, and after learning about this, the parents were furious, they thought that their son's behavior was filial piety, and for this money, they found Wang Yongqiang again and had a big fight with him.
In fact, Wang Yongqiang has no other thoughts, he just wants to save some money for himself to do academic use later, and the money he gives to his parents every month is completely enough for these two old people to live, he does not understand why his parents treat himself like this, it is this quarrel that makes his love for his parents exhausted.
A few years later, he was successfully admitted to the Chinese Academy of Sciences for a doctorate and studied at Peking University as a postdoctoral fellow.
As a postdoctoral fellow at Peking University, his future is naturally self-evident, and after graduating from the university, he found a well-paid job in a high-end company in Beijing and married the daughter of a professor.
In these years, although he had little contact with his parents, he did not stop sending money from home in the past, until 1999, because of the needs of work, the unit asked Wang Yongqiang to go to Japan to take charge of a project, and when he heard about it, he informed his parents at home of this matter, but the parents did not agree to this matter.
In order to reassure his mother, Wang Yongqiang promised her that when he returned, he would build a big house for his family.
But what the parents did not expect was that their son never came back after going abroad.
In fact, when Wang Yongqiang and his wife first arrived in Japan, his parents had found him, but as soon as his parents got Wang Yongqiang's contact information, they revealed their true purpose, that is, to ask for money.
Finally, his wife finally couldn't stand the vampire-like face of her father-in-law and mother-in-law, and proposed a divorce with her husband, until this moment, Wang Yongqiang realized that if he did not cut off contact with his parents, he might have to live under their haze for the rest of his life.
After some thought, he chose to go to the United States, where he lived a new life in Silicon Valley and completely broke off contact with his parents at home.
It was not until many years later, when her mother was critically ill, that she finally used the power of the media to find her son, but in the face of the reporter's questioning, Wang Yongqiang did not say much, he only responded with a sentence, it is difficult for the Qing officials to break the family affairs.
At the same time, Wang Yongqiang's brother also quickly stood up and told the reporter about the situation at home, and when it came to the emotional place, the brother even said words such as "I don't blame my brother, if I want to blame it, I blame my parents for sucking blood too much."
At this time, the direction of public opinion changed.
After understanding the causes and consequences of this story, the reporters were also silent, perhaps things are just as Wang Yongqiang said, it is difficult for the qing officials to break the family affairs.
In the past few years, Wang Yongqiang's parents have not cared about their son's mood, and have been reprimanding their son, forcing his son, using him as a cash machine, and letting him make money for himself.
In the face of such behavior of his parents, Wang Yongqiang has also tolerated and softened his heart, but his soft heart has not been forgiven by his parents, but he has also exchanged more excessive conditions for his parents again and again.
Perhaps he finally made such a choice, but also out of a kind of helplessness, now Wang Yongqiang has begun his new life in the United States, for the past, he is not willing to mention it again.
For such a family matter, it is difficult for everyone to judge by absolute right and wrong, and we only hope that everyone can learn from this matter, have more understanding of their families, and let such incidents happen less.