"Mature Class, Parents and Children Are Interns"

This year's Oscar-nominated film How to Be Home, a 12-year-old Lebanese boy Zain, has many brothers and sisters, and even the soles of his shoes are not as good at the bottom of society, like a mess of.

Finally, he accused his parents: "I hope that adults will listen to me, and those who cannot afford to raise children will not have children again." "Can't help but think, Zain and his parents, who is more mature? As children learn to grow up, who will teach their parents well?

In this mature class, parents and children are audit students. If it was The Magic Nanny McPhee, maybe these three lessons would be held.

01

Maturity is self-confidence, facing change and saying "I do"

Negroponte said in Digital Survival: "As long as you can be calm, parents will be convinced of their failures, acknowledging that 'the ability of humans to master computers is inversely proportional to age'." ”

My daughter came home for the weekend, and my grandmother couldn't wait to report:

"WeChat is really a good thing, you don't have to bring your wallet anywhere you go."

"Mobile phone scanning code to get express delivery is also Liso."

The 73-year-old grandmother Yang Yang mobile phone, a little proud.

"Hahaha, I'll teach you a little video again, it's more fun!"

The daughter also laughed happily.

When the old and the young chatted, I rubbed up, ready to humbly ask the girl how to use PHOTOSHOP to retouch the picture. Speaking of humility, because the child's fifth grade of elementary school has been playing very slippery.

Professor Zhou Xiaohong called this phenomenon "cultural regurgitation", saying:

"The modernization of 100 million people has taken place in this world — Japan;

The modernization of 200 million people has taken place – the United States;

The modernization of 300 million people has taken place – Europe;

So far, 1.3 billion people have modernized, only China. ”

Times have changed dramatically, young people have easily fiddled with electronic products, primary school students have begun to program, and grandmothers who sell vegetables in mountainous areas have used scanning codes.

Ren Zhengfei said: "There are not many illiterates now, but there are many illiterates in science. ”

Some time ago, Papa Ma was on the hot search again, he said:

"In the future, 1,000 talents who have worked in Alibaba for more than 10 years will be exported to the society every year."

There are other big guys:

Huawei: "Abandon mediocre employees." ”

Tencent: "Structural optimization." ”

Baidu: "Encourage wolf nature and eliminate petty bourgeoisie." ”

NIO: "Local optimization, improve operational efficiency." ”

iFLYTEK: "Employees who eat early need to be optimized. ”

JD.com: "Eliminate employees who can't fight for physical reasons." ”

Sitting at the desk, one by one, I was first pierced, and a senior sister said in a word: "Don't you hear the three words that the boss often says - maturity." ”

Think about it makes sense, Guangdong people say that "it is difficult to eat food", and the big waves of sand and sand can leave behind "acquaintances", mature cooks. Practice makes perfect skills, calm response to rapid change, big things become late, people mature, and things become.

Change and learning will not be too comfortable, but do not be afraid, which good man is not forced to Liangshan, how many big guys did not ask questions about the West and East to stand on their own portals, first come up with a mature attitude, face the reality and say:

"Good! dry! ”

02

Maturity is courage, and after recognizing the truth, you still believe

The classmates in the colleague's son's class wanted to jump off the building, but fortunately stopped it in time, and the child was also taken home by his parents. Parents can't figure it out, fifth grade, my child thinks the same way? What to do? Talk.

Some parents searched the Internet casually and broke out in a cold sweat.

ACCORDING TO UNICEF shows that one in five adolescents worldwide suffers from mental health problems. Among adolescents aged 15 to 19, suicide has become the second leading cause of death.

Maybe they all have their own reasons, but the same tragedies repeat themselves. Can't help but think deeply, the child's immature "between a thought", what happened?

I once heard such a saying that in the face of difficulties, most people will "fight" or "escape", in fact, there is still a way - choice.

Don't drill the tip of the bull's horn, jump out, from the perspective of a bystander, see the facts on a larger scale, and then find that "it is not a big deal."

In the recently released "Ip Man 4", the dialogue between father and child seems to be familiar, as if replaying the daily life of many families:

"Everything is my fault!" Two children shouted the same.

"It's all for your own good, you don't understand." Father roared back.

Love is true love, but immature and wayward children, immature and prejudiced fathers, shouted out the pain, the problem is still there.

There is also a scene:

Ruo Nan said, "I don't believe that other people's fathers are like this, at least, Uncle Ye, you are not." Ip Man was silent, and saw the shadow of his son in Ruo Nan.

"You can perform cheerleaders at the Mid-Autumn Festival gala." Hearing Uncle Ye's suggestion, Ruo Nan was very happy.

Here we see that we begin to believe, listen, the atmosphere is pleasant, more mature, and communicate more closely.

Remember that there is a passage in "There is a Tree in Brooklyn": "Living, struggling, loving our lives, loving all the joys and sorrows that life gives, is a kind of realization." ”

There are trains on the stage that never go back, cute children, white singers in the center of the stage, "Dear traveler", the song wafts in the familiar melody, clear and ethereal, what is this fairy voice! Only to hear the audience shouting: "Zhou Shen Zhou Shen"...

Zhou Shen sang the Japanese version of this "Spirited Away" at the 2019 New Year's Eve Party at station B.

Baidu down, sure enough, is also a person with a story, this day is a good voice, but when I was a child, I was born special, afraid that others would laugh at my "mother" and did not dare to speak, almost buried. Fortunately, I found my confidence in a school singing competition.

Lucky as Zhou Shen, brave and confident, growing all the way to maturity, he won. And those children who are depressed and even suicidal, but because of immature thoughts, ruined their future and lost their lives!

Life is to learn while walking, no one is born to be good at it, and everyone's answer is different. But as long as you know that the person who loves you is always there, like your mother's open arms in front of you when you were a child, you can go forward and stagger into that warm embrace.

03

Maturity is mutual achievement and growth together

It has been said that the essence of education is: one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul awakens another soul.

When my classmate's daughter was a junior in high school, she chose to major in art, on the grounds that", "What you do can make yourself physically and mentally immersed and forgetful." Now that I've found it, that's the way to go. ”

Parents feel that it is a pity to learn the results of the bully, but this is the child's own life, not to mention doing what he likes to make a living, it is indeed impossible to oppose. So, just do it first, just believe it.

Inspired by this, my mother also made a list, planning to learn a new skill every year and regain the little dream of that year. First of all, wall Street English was applied, challenging the weakest subject of the year. Mixing with young people, there is really a bit of an illusion of "classmate teenager".

Summer vacation children returned to China, the airport exit finally saw the baby with thin arms and legs, pushing three large suitcases, calm and calm, took off the childishness, clearly mature adult look, when the mother's "baby" did not dare to call again, shouted the big name to meet up, while walking and chatting about the independent life of the foreign country, the mother also talked about the middle-aged learning of the 囧 thing ...

The feeling of maturity, a little subtlety, a little bit of loss, more pride.

In the Douban 9.2 high-scoring documentary "Childhood in Other Places", director Zhou Yijun said: "I hope to find a balance between respecting nature and normative nature." ”

During the ten-month educational journey to the six countries, there may be cultural differences and growth is not the same, but the core of respect and equality has always been there. As the 9-year-old said, "Everyone is equally good, equal, and no one is the best." ”

Equality and balance, yesterday's "grow up with you", "grow old with you", today need to "grow together". Children have the ability to learn new things quickly, and parents have the endurance and insight after years of precipitation, from another pair of eyes, to discover a new world.

"Let's cheer together?" The answer is yes, especially when the reason is because of love. I love you, so I want to be as good as you are.

Professor Daniel Bell said: "No child can live in the same world as his or her parents and grandparents. ”

Children or once children, in the face of the unknown world, are not perfect, and will make mistakes, but the process of curiosity and exploration and maturity is exactly where the beauty lies.

We will distinguish our kind by the code word "hat or snake swallowing elephant", understand that flowers and stones are more important than numbers, and hear the laughter of the little prince's bell from the stars...

That world, Xia Yubing and the AI, will never understand.

The journey of maturity, we have been on the road, with the magic spell of "confidence, courage, growth", the door of time will slowly open.

Take a deep breath and wait for the flowers to bloom...