In life, deceptive education can be seen everywhere, and children are deceived by their relatives to grow up all the way, which not only affects the child's mental health, but also affects the trust between parents and children.
Children have a natural trust and love for their parents, once or twice... Every deception destroys that trust until it is completely destroyed.
Sociologist Lin Zach said: "Parents are the closest people to their children and the most trustworthy people." Every deception from the parents is enough to crush the child's inner world. ”
For children, the promises made by parents are not just a promise, it represents the parents' love for themselves, the parents who keep their trust in their children, and it is not only a promise that is fulfilled, but more importantly, he gives the child the confidence to trust the world.
Parents often deceive their children will let the child fall into the abyss of "learned helplessness", the child is powerless to deceive the parents, the parents will be labeled by the child as "untrustworthy" and no longer trust the parents.
When a child grows up, he may also be influenced by his parents and become a person full of lies. No parent wants to see their child not say a word to himself.
So, how should parents protect their children's trust? Tell the truth to your child.
Colleagues told stories about him and his parents, who, when he was in high school, promised him a computer if he could get into the top three of his class on the final exam. He worked hard for this reward and finally won the second place in the class.
His parents were happy and took him to buy a computer. At that time, the computer was still very expensive, there were very few people with computers, although the parents had considered and made some budgets, but did not expect that the computer would exceed the budget so much, and finally, the computer was still not bought.
Parents have no remorse, it is the child who takes the initiative to give up, he understands the difficulties of his parents, knows that the economic conditions at home are not good, although he did not get a computer, but it did not affect his mood of getting good results.
As for his parents, he respected them even more, and secretly vowed that he would study hard in the future and earn a lot of money to be filial to his parents. Sometimes what children really want is not those expensive gifts, but the care and attention of their parents.
If parents want to make a commitment to their children, it is best to promise things within their ability, and if they promise their children, they must do it.
If the conditions are not allowed, sincerely tell the child the reason, the child will understand the parents, do not think of using lies to hide the cover, the child realizes that his parents are full of lies, the child will no longer trust the parents.
On the contrary, if you trust your child and tell the truth to your child, your child will return your love and trust.
The American thinker Emerson once said, "What kind of person a child will eventually become depends mainly on the quality of love, companionship, and exemplary example he receives from the first educator." "May all parents keep their promises and guard the precious trust between them and their children."