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The attitude that our people have always held is: No matter how bitter we are, we cannot suffer our children, and no matter how poor we are, we cannot be poor in education.
Therefore, when it comes to the cost of childcare, eating, drinking and wearing is secondary, and the most important thing is the child's education costs, which account for the majority of the child's daily expenses.
So how can parents spare no effort in education? Many people think that they are willing to spend money to enroll their children in classes. Not only cram schools, but also various talent training classes.
The message of a treasure mother is very representative. It also impressed me and I still remember it to this day.
Backstage, she left a message with me about all the hardships she had experienced. This mother said that her family conditions are average, she is a full-time mother, her father does not pay attention to the child's learning, nor does she allow her to spend money to report to the child for any extracurricular classes, she attaches great importance to the child's education, but she has a weak heart, so she often blames herself, hating herself for not being able to afford the cost of the child's training class. Watching other children report in two classes, and their own children did not have a class, I felt sorry for my children.
The attitude of this mother actually represents the idea of most parents: they think that as long as they spare no effort to spend money on their children to enroll in classes, they are careful in their children's education.
In fact, this is a misunderstanding.
The family's education of children is not only reflected in learning, but also learning cannot be directly equated with the class.
◆ The three dimensions of family education
Chen Xin, a doctor of the Department of Education of Beijing Normal University, a doctor of psychology at the University of Connecticut, and a psychologist, said in her book "Holistic Parenting" that parents raise children in the family, in fact, as long as they promote the development of children in three dimensions, they are fully responsible for parenting.
So, which three of the three dimensions of the child's development are specific?
Physiological development
This includes, but is not limited to, the child's tall and strong. Promote the child's brain development, let the child gain weight and keep fat and thin moderate, promote the development of the child's motor skills, and let the child grow higher.
It can be said that the health of children is the foundation of all development. Even if parents no longer understand education, they must support their children from physiological development, promote their children to grow taller, stronger, and maintain good health.
Intellectual development
In fact, it is cognitive development. This aspect is related to the child's learning. This includes the child's attention, memory, imagination and language skills.
The child's learning performance is actually a comprehensive performance of these cognitive abilities.
It can be seen that it is not a cram school or interest class that will definitely promote the development of children in these aspects.
Usually the family atmosphere is warm and harmonious, children can do things without distraction, concentration, no emotional consumption, naturally can develop attention. Memory, imagination and language skills can be obtained from a lot of reading without having to go to class.
Social and emotional development
In fact, it is the development of "emotional intelligence". This includes children's interpersonal interactions, self-awareness, emotional exchanges and interactions with friends, etc.
By doing all three of these things, we can ensure that children can naturally grow into a healthy, socially adaptable person.
Obviously, these things cannot be achieved simply by enrolling in shifts, nor can they be strengthened by just counting on shifts.
When it comes to education, many parents only stare at the time when their children enter the school to the time they enter the university. In fact, education is "educating people", educating children should not be too short-sighted, but also from the perspective of the development of people's lives, so that children are physically and mentally healthy, understand their own strengths and interests, and practice happiness values that meet the definition of children themselves, so that children can live a life of peace and self-satisfaction, and parents can be regarded as fulfilling their real educational responsibilities.
What do you think?
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