The famous Taiwanese writer Long Yingtai has a passage in "Seeing and Sending", which is particularly impressive:
"The so-called parents and children, but it means that your fate with him is that in this life and this life you are constantly watching him fade away, you stand at this end of the road, watch him gradually disappear into the corner of the path, and then, he silently tells you with his back: no need to chase." 」
In this life, we are constantly separated from the child, and the child will "leave" the mother 6 times, and each time it is more difficult to give up, especially the last time, which is unacceptable to anyone, because this time the "departure" is a farewell.
The first time to leave: to be separated from the mother, but it is the beginning of the journey of happiness
The first time a child leaves us is the moment of separation from the mother.
Although we spent 10 months with our children, this separation was the beginning of a journey of happiness, the first time we met, and the beginning of this mother-child relationship.
The second time to leave: leave home to go to kindergarten, step out of the family to integrate into society
After the age of 3, the child reaches the age of kindergarten.
Leaving home for kindergarten for the first time, leaving his mother and family, is the first step for children to integrate into society.
Mothers are always worried about whether their children will not adapt? Can you face the problem independently? Although this parting contains a lot of reluctance, it has to be let go, and only by letting go can the child grow.
The 3rd departure: Youth rebellion, which has the potential to become a rebellion of the heart
As children begin to grow up, they begin to understand the world around them more, and gradually they will put more thoughts outside the family, no longer absolutely believing in their mothers, and not patiently listening to our bitter education.
This sense of reluctance and powerlessness will surround us, coupled with the child's youthful rebellion, it will intensify the contradictions between each other, push us and the child farther and farther away, and may become a defection of the heart.
The 4th time I left: I left home to go to college, which opened up the distance of space
After ten years of hard study, children have finally achieved results, and they can't wait to leave home and go to college in a strange place.
At this time, we have to face a distance from our children. The long distance of space makes our communication become hurried, and after a short reunion, it is a farewell again and again, even if it is not willing, it can only be reduced to one sentence: pay attention to safety on the road.
The 5th departure: Starting a family, we became the estrangement of "guests"
When children start a family, they will be "alienated" from us when they start to have their own small home, and we will become "guests".
Every time the news is edited, it will be carefully considered whether it will disturb his/her work, whether it will make the son-in-law/daughter-in-law feel uncomfortable, and affect the relationship between husband and wife.
The 6th departure: separation of life and death, this time we leave first
The last time you are separated from your child is the separation of life from death. This is something that everyone is unwilling to accept, but no one can stop it.
Although this time we left first, we will still give up, because after we leave, we will be separated from the child forever. The children in our eyes really shoulder the responsibility of adults.
In life, although we are constantly separated from some people, we can seize the middle time of each separation.
Children get along with the elderly and accompany the elderly; parents seriously educate their children and communicate games with children; we must cherish every time we get along, life is very short, and in the blink of an eye, it will be white.
When children become useful people in society, it is also the strongest evidence that we have ever existed in the world.