Writer Long Yingtai wrote in "Eye Sending":
"I slowly and slowly learned that the so-called father-daughter mother-son relationship only means that your fate with him is that you are constantly watching his back drift away in this life and this life. You stand at this end of the path, watching him fade away into the bend of the path, and he silently tells you with his back that you don't have to chase. ”
The British psychologist Sylvia once said:
"All love in this world has the ultimate goal of aggregation, and there is only one kind of love that has the purpose of separation, and that is the love of parents for their children."
When a daughter gets married, the feeling of separation between parents and children is strongest. At the wedding, how many brides' parents were full of tears, and it was hard to hide the intolerance in their hearts!
People who have been married know that marriage is "an uphill battle", not only the flowers and sweetness of the wedding scene, but also the fatigue of running the wedding and the bad heart of coordinating the opinions of all parties.
Before the daughter gets married, the smart mother who loves her daughter will never do these 3 things.
01 Picky pro-family
Even today, many parents still have a very heavy concept of marriage in their hearts, and many brides' parents always think that I am married to my daughter, that I am married to your family, and that I will become a member of your family in the future.
There is this kind of sentiment that on the eve of the wedding, the bride's parents are often invisibly, producing an inexplicable "condescending" mentality, thinking that the groom's family must do all the etiquette, otherwise they will not respect them, or they will not pay attention to their daughters.
If a person wants to pick another person, it is really the easiest thing in the world, as someone said - when you start to hate a person, even his breathing is wrong.
From the price of the banquet, to all kinds of change money, get off the car money, etc., can become a place where the groom's family can't do it.
In fact, the family, that is, when the children are engaged and married, there is contact, and then they will live their own lives, and too much contact will easily cause family conflicts.
Now that we are all getting married, what's the point of picking on them?
If you oppose your daughter marrying such a family, you must also express it before the engagement, and dragging it to the wedding to be picky is just to increase the annoyance.
02 Picky son-in-law
The love of her friend Xinlan has been strongly opposed by her mother, but Xinlan is very firm in her feelings, because she and her lover are high school classmates, and along the way, Xinlan will not give up.
In the end, Xinlan's mother saw that she was hopeless to stop it, and she agreed.
Xinlan said: "You don't know, my mother's face is really faster than turning a book, and when she opposed us before, she didn't have a good face." Now that she agreed, she was better to her son-in-law than to my daughter, and the one who entertained her was called a meticulous one. ”
Everyone said that Xinlan's mother is really smart and loves her daughter, knowing that she can't help her daughter, so she blesses her well, and she knows that she is good to her son-in-law, and her son-in-law is smooth, and her daughter will truly be happy.
I have seen a news before that before the wedding, the groom was rejected when he greeted the bride because the underwear he bought for the bride did not fit!
I really don't know if I'm picking on the groom or embarrassing my daughter.
Before the daughter got married, she was still criticizing her son-in-law, and in the end, she hurt her own daughter.
03 Picky daughter
There are even mothers, when their daughters get married, complain that their daughters are not thinking comprehensively here, that they are not doing well enough, and even that they have to blame the things that their daughters buy for marriage.
I think my daughter is still a child, she has to get married, and she can't do these things, which is really painful!
Even some mothers say to their daughters before they get married: "You must always remember that your parents who love you the most are only your parents, and no matter how good your husband and in-laws are to you, they will never be better than your parents." ”
Which daughter would be happy to hear such a thing? Why do you want to "fight for the wind and be jealous" in front of your daughter and make it difficult for your daughter to do it?
After the daughter gets married, she has her own family, and the focus of her life will definitely be on her husband and children, but she will never forget her parents and do not love her parents!
Xiaojiao Heart Language:
A mother who truly loves her daughter will not block her daughter before she gets married, and some mothers think that they are asking for dignity from their in-laws for their daughters, and they also say that they are good for their daughters. But these faces are only to satisfy the vanity, love and respect are never to come, but the other party takes the initiative to give.
Daughter marriage, is a watershed in the relationship between mother and daughter, the smart mother who really loves her daughter, will never pick on the family and son-in-law at this time, provoke contradictions, but will not calculate, do not blindly follow, full of joy to give her daughter a comfortable wedding.