Parents are the mirrors of their children, and children are the shadows of their parents. Morality, cultivation, habits, quality, principles, three views, a person's growth is inseparable from the education of parents.
The best family education is to give children enough companionship, set a good example and be responsible for children, these three points are the three points that parents need to pay the most attention to.
Be with your heart
Now many parents are aware of the importance of companionship, but the vast majority of parents are either busy at work and have no time, or have time is actually "accompaniment", rather than effective companionship.
In fact, we parents should understand one point: it is not to stay with the child even if it is companionship, while accompanying the child while playing mobile phones, taking care of each other, this is not effective companionship.
"Effective companionship" must be interaction with children, there is communication, including eye contact, verbal communication, emotional communication, and spiritual communication.
When parents become sluggish about accompanying this matter, in fact, children are growing up at a speed that their parents can't catch up with, and unconsciously miss the golden period of companionship.
Parental companionship, like food, is also valid, when you waste these precious time, look back and try to make up, the child is no longer needed at that time, regret is too late.
Yale University has conducted research on the golden age of children's growth. Discover that each stage of your child's development has unique characteristics, such as:
3 years old is a year to cultivate creativity, you can encourage children to draw, make up stories, play with color clay, and do handicrafts;
5 years old is the most intimate and harmonious year of parent-child relationship, and children especially like the companionship and praise of their parents;
6 years old is a year when children begin to have contradictions in their hearts and begin to rebel, and parents need to give their children more patience...
If parents can seize every important period and give their children enough companionship, their children will be very good in the future.
The famous host Yang Lan, once for two weeks for work reasons, after returning home from work, his son first carried her back and did not speak, and finally cried loudly.
Looking at his crying son, Yang Lan decided to put down his work and concentrate on staying at home with his children for a year.
Under the careful company and education of Yang Lan, in 2014, his son was admitted to Columbia University in the United States with excellent results, and his mother became an alumnus.
Later, Yang Lan said with emotion: "If I did not give up my work to accompany my son at that time, the lack of family affection caused by it would be irreparable the day after tomorrow." ”
For Yang Lan, giving up work may just be a missed opportunity, but not accompanying his son may miss his son's entire life. It is said that it is the teacher who teaches, it must be the parents who educate people, and family education is very important for children!
For most parents, it is necessary to juggle family and work, busy, is the norm of life.
However, forward-thinking parents will understand how to make good use of every detail and fragment of time in life, pay more attention to the bits and pieces of their children's lives, and communicate in a warmer and more effective way.
Parents and things, have a "validity period", the child is the most precious gift given by God to the parents, once you do not cherish, miss this expiration date, God will take back this sweet gift.
Therefore, in the time when the role of "parent" is still effective, we must give them the most attentive companionship, let them develop good learning and living habits, and let them cultivate a correct attitude and conduct.
Only by doing a good job of accompanying education can we guide children to a bright growth path! With the company of parents, children can learn to love, have a sense of security, and can go far.
The careful companionship of parents is the best gift for children on the road to growth!
Be a good example
There is a sentence in the CCTV family education documentary "Mirror": "Every child is born with a blank piece of paper, and the parents are the people who paint." What kind of white paper becomes, the key lies in the parents. ”
Therefore, what kind of person you want your child to become, you must first become what kind of person.
I remember when I was a child, there was a public service advertisement, which is still fresh in my memory, the advertisement shows the mother who was tired for a day to wash the feet of the mother-in-law, and the son quietly watched behind the door.
When the mother washed her mother-in-law's feet and dragged her tired body back to the room, she found that her son was not in the house, and just when she was looking for it, she saw the child's small body walking unsteadily holding a basin of water to her mother, saying: "Mother, wash your feet." "I'll tell you the story of the little duck too"...
Children are born imitators, when you are a filial piety to the elderly parents, children will also become sensible and well-behaved, learning your filial piety to the old man to filial piety to you.
Because the child's body can be seen everywhere in the shadow of the parents and the status of family education:
A child who does not respect the teacher, often lives in a family that does not understand gratitude, and has a pair of parents who do not respect the teacher;
A child who is addicted to mobile phones, parents often condone spoiling their children, and even hold their mobile phones every day to brush the screen;
Children will unconsciously imitate the words and deeds of their parents, and even the small actions and mantras of their parents are imitated very similarly, and this subtle influence may not be perceived by us, but it will change the appearance of the child's life.
Tolstoy once said that the essence of educating children lies in educating themselves, and self-education is the most powerful way for parents to influence their children!
There have never been bear children who are inherently disobedient, some are just the wrong way of education, and parents who rarely lead by example.
Good family education comes from bits and pieces of life, and the influence of parental behavior on children is far more profound than language.
Therefore, parents set a good example for their children and take the lead in setting an example, which is the best habit education for him.
Responsible in place
An education expert once said a very harsh sentence: "We give birth to children ourselves, but we never raise children as biological children." ”
We may have handed over our children to the older generation and watched our children being spoiled by the elderly; we may have handed over our children to the school, and if the children have problems, they will say, This is the responsibility of your school and teachers.
There are some parents who really don't fulfill their parenting responsibilities.
Countless parents hope to send their children to the best school, receive the best education, and do their best to create the best educational environment for their children, but they often ignore that parents are the best teachers for their children.
Education is a long practice, and every parent must take responsibility for their children.
A responsible parent must not only do a good job of the child's "first teacher", but also be prepared to do a good job of the child's "lifelong teacher".
Because no one can fully shoulder the responsibility of ensuring that children grow into talents, if teachers are responsible for teaching and educating people, then parents are responsible for their children's lives.
We always say how to educate a child, its practical use of an ordinary heart, a moderate love, a busy effort to accompany him, is the best education. At the same time, giving encouragement to children, educating children to cherish, and practicing as an example are also the best family education.
The German philosopher Karl Jasper said: "The essence of education is that one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul awakens another soul." ”
For the sake of our children, please all parents grow up and become stronger.
For the sake of our children's happy and happy growth, let's be a qualified and responsible parent together!