When you are a child, you always look forward to growing up, birthday for children that is a special meaning, not only birthday means that they are one year older, but also can receive birthday gifts from adults, and then eat two mouthfuls of sweet birthday cake, simply not too happy.
But recently with the "unreliable" post-80s, post-90s have gradually become a parent, this birthday gift pattern is also endless, can only say that when the baby sometimes has a birthday is also very "tired", after all, the parents' thinking is not their own can be pinched, sending "surprises" is also a common thing.
The "most aggrieved birthday" accidentally caught fire
There is a "most aggrieved birthday" video on the Internet that accidentally caught fire, and the reason why it was watched by the majority of netizens was because the father "carefully made" the birthday cake for the child.
At the beginning of the video, the child is making a wish against a small candle, and the face that is still smiling at the beginning gradually loses its expression management, and finally directly cries out of the voice.
While crying, he made a wish and said, "I hope to have a real big birthday cake next year!" Netizens are wondering, is there anything catty about the cake in front of the baby?
Sure enough, the camera pulled away, in front of the baby was an iron bucket with a cartoon pattern, with a small candle inserted on it, no wonder this little boy had to cry and make a wish, it turned out to be seeing this special "fake cake" sent by Bao Dad.
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The young parents in the story may just have a whim and engaged in such a "prank" to make the child have a particularly memorable birthday, but it can also be seen from the baby's aggrieved little eyes that he still has some hurt in his heart.
Originally full of expectations in exchange for such treatment, the loss in the heart is unavoidable, it seems to be just a joke but the simple babies may not be able to digest it, and may even leave some shadows.
These 3 kinds of jokes parents try not to open with their children
1. Mock children with "black history"
Adults in interpersonal communication know the truth of "hitting people without punching their faces, scolding people without revealing their shortcomings", but in front of their babies, how come his "black history" has become a joke in the mouths of parents?
When parents do not underestimate the child's self-esteem, no one wants to let themselves be embarrassed to repeat things in front of others over and over again, maybe adults just joke words out, the harm caused to the child may be irreparable.
Therefore, parents must not always use "black history" to ridicule children, and do not use insulting and teasing words to evaluate children, otherwise it is easy to trigger the estrangement and estrangement of feelings between children and parents, and may also make children's personality become lonely and timid, weak and inferior.
2. Jokes that make children feel insecure
The children's sense of security is very important to them, and the baby has enough security for the relationship between the family, just like the drifting boat always has a harbor to dock, and there is enough grain and grass behind the marching team, so that the child can not be afraid to move forward on the road to growth.
And parents in daily life, some jokes can destroy the sense of security established by children, such as "you are picked up by your mother from the garbage heap" "Mother has a little brother will no longer love you", so it is easy to make children lose their sense of security jokes, or do not casually open better.
3. Jokes that are deceptive
For many babies, the status of parents in their minds is very high, and what they say to their parents will be more convincing. However, if the parents often make deceptive jokes with the children, not only will they not play a role in narrowing the distance, but they will make the parents lose their majesty in front of the children.
The image of parents in the child's heart will gradually become untrustworthy, and the strength of the natural speech of a parent who cannot be trusted by the child will be greatly reduced in the child's heart, and it is not easy to re-establish this image once it collapses.