Today I saw a Weibo, and my real name envied it:
Feihe gives employees with 0-3-year-old babies an hour off and lets employees go back to spend time with their children.
This may be the best benefit for working parents with a dilemma at work.
In fact, this is the second year that Feihe has issued this benefit, and this day is called "528 Chinese Baby Day".
Feihe Dairy explained the reasons for the establishment of "China Baby Day":
For the baby, 0-3 years old is the most important stage, the baby's personality, habits, intelligence, etc., are laid at this stage, and these foundations are inseparable from the high-quality companionship of parents.
There is no job that cannot be put down, only a baby who grew up in the blink of an eye.
The lack of companionship is the biggest regret of a child's growth.
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Parents are only valid for 10 years
If you don't accompany it, the child will grow up
One writer shared a story:
In the early years, she went to visit a friend, the friend's daughter is intelligent and lovely, and she is a good painter, she has been advising her friend to cultivate her daughter's strengths, but the friend is indifferent to her daughter's education.
Ten years later, she saw her friend's daughter again, and the clever little girl of that year no longer existed, but became a "little sister".
Many parents are very impressed and confused when looking back at their children's growth process:
Why did the innocent and lovely child grow up to become rebellious and indifferent, unable to listen to his parents, and refuse to communicate with his parents?
Because, the validity period of parents is only ten years.
Only in the first ten years of life will the child run into your arms, talk to you from the heart, and listen to your teachings. If parents neglect the growth and upbringing of their children in this first decade, no amount of effort will be effective.
Psychologist Wu Zhihong also said:
In infancy, love and companionship are far more important than education, and a healthy, harmonious and intimate relationship is the cornerstone of a child's personality and the content of personality.
That is to say, the early companionship and love of parents determine whether the background of a child's life is warm or dark.
Yale University has conducted more than 40 years of research on the golden age of children's growth, and found that each year of children's growth is unique.
Three years old is a year to cultivate creativity, and children need to be encouraged to draw, make up stories, and play with mud.
In a year when the language expression of four years old is growing rapidly, children love to talk, love to sing, love to roar, and especially love to ask why.
Five years old is the most intimate and harmonious year of parent-child relationship, especially like the company of parents, hope to get the praise of parents.
Six years old is the most prominent year of inner contradictions, parents need to give their children more patience...
However, in real life, many parents always say that they are busy, but they do not realize that once their children's education is missed, it is difficult to make up.
Dao Dad also once said:
Whether you love someone or not depends on whether you are willing to spend time for each other. This is true in love and friendship, and it is also true in family affection.
Loving children, not only spending money to let him go to the best school, wear the best clothes, eat nutritious food, the most important thing is whether you can accompany him to paint, chat with him, play with toys with him, and accompany him to grow.
Deeply.
The best gift parents can give their children is high-quality companionship.
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Is the companionship you give to your children "fake"?
We often say: companionship is the best education.
But many parents ignore the essential difference between "companionship" and "companionship.".
Although many parents get along with their children day and night, they never have a heart-to-heart conversation;
Although sitting next to the child, his eyes are still staring, but he is his own mobile phone;
Although the doors were opposite, they never said goodnight to each other.
In fact, it is not how important "accompaniment" itself is, but in the process of companionship, the patience, warmth and thoughtfulness exuded by parents can be perceived and absorbed by children, so that children can truly establish a sense of identity, intimacy and security in the parent-child relationship in their hearts.
Therefore, the key to companionship is not the length of time, but the quality.
So, how can you give your child high-quality companionship? Here are three tips that are very practical.
The first is to ensure emotional peace.
In the process of accompanying your child, try to control your volume, intonation, and expression. Let your child feel that you are also enjoying the process, not impatience.
In this process, please be convinced that education is not the goal, so that you and the child's emotions, there is an interaction is the most important.
The second is to ensure the concentration of energy.
While you're with your kids, put down your work and put down your phone. Focus on the child, care about the child's problems, and experience the child's emotions. When you're immersed in it, you'll find that companionship is also the best decompression.
The third is the reasonable use of fragmented time
Many parents will feel that work is too busy to spend time with their children, in fact, there are many fragments of time in life that can be used.
Harvard psychologists have made a list of "key hours" that can achieve high-quality companionship during these critical periods.
Pick up and drop off kids on the way
When the child comes home from school
When you get home from work
Dinner time
Bedtime time
In fact, companionship is not so grand and not so complicated.
It could be a hug on the child's way home from school, a joke at the dinner table, a bedtime story, or it could be an in-depth conversation, a hug cry, an afternoon in a daze in the park.
It is only during this hour that you and your child can feel intimate, comfortable and happy together, and can get spiritual nourishment for each other, which is high-quality companionship.
Parenting in the world is all about nurturing oneself. Accompanying children, but also accompanying yourself.
The validity period of parents is only 10 years, so why can't the child's growth be repeated?
Some people ask, is companionship really that important to children? When the child grows up, who will remember these details?
I think the meaning of companionship is precisely in:
One day, we will watch our children grow up and go away. Children will learn to love themselves and love others with cherished and considerate memories of the early days of life.
When one day, the child is injured, he will not be pessimistic and desperate, he will not give up on himself, because he knows that his parents and home will always be where they can dock.
This sense of security and self-confidence, as well as the ability to cherish oneself, will become the most precious confidence in a child's life.
Therefore, there is no work that must be busy, only the baby who grows up in the blink of an eye.
The child who grows up with you is your child.
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