I watched a video about a school in Beijing where two teachers sent a video full of criticism, blame, and boredom about a child.
It was heart-wrenching to watch.
The background of the video is that at the end of the year, the class welcomes the new year, when a child performs, a child makes a gesture of covering his ears and turning back, and the action is conspicuous and frequent, this scene is just seen and recorded by the teacher who recorded the video.
The teacher felt that the children who covered their ears and turned back did not respect the children who performed, which destroyed the overall atmosphere, so he criticized and blamed the children in front of the whole class, and during the period, he also mobilized other children to blame the child together.
From the video, it is speculated that the child covering his ears and looking back must be an instinctive response to some uncomfortable stimulus.
This instinctive reaction, not only he had, but several children also covered their ears, but the movement was not obvious.
The remaining children, on the other hand, either endured no action or felt that the stimulation was not obvious, so they did not do this action.
Under this reaction, for the children who are performing, there is indeed a suspicion of disrespect.
This is an unexpected emergency, it destroys the harmony of the whole, brings about imperfections, I think this may be the cause of the teacher's initial accusations against the child.
But because of a subconscious action of the child, without any understanding, we cannot criticize and blame the child, and at the same time, mobilize the whole class to "crusade" the child together.
This is not simply ignorance of education, but the suspicion of "evil".
Because education is not just about imparting knowledge to children, it is only its responsibility to teach, it also has a broader responsibility of "educating people", and even the responsibility and influence of the latter is far greater than the former.
Especially when facing young children, education must be a careful, cautious and long-term consideration.
A word from an adult, an action, may affect a child's life.
Some words, some actions, will make children warm for a lifetime;
Some words, some actions, will make the child chill for a lifetime.
In the face of such a sudden situation, the child who performs needs to be respected, and the child who covers his ears also needs to be respected.
It is appropriate to ask the specific reason why the child covers his ears, such as because the sound is too loud, whether it is possible to adjust the sound to a smaller size;
Or ask your child for advice and ask him to sit a little farther away from the source of the stimulus.
At the same time, we must guide children on how to respect others.
This is not only the education and guidance of one child, this is the teaching of a group of children.
Because young children, it is not clear, when someone on the stage performs, how to do is to respect others, how to do is not respect, this needs to be taught to them by adults.
And this situation occurs not only in schools, but also in interest classes and at home.
When the child's behavior is inconsistent with the expectations of parents and teachers, such as going out to play, going to the mall, going to the restaurant for dance classes, basketball lessons, similar situations may occur in the video.
Go to the mall, the child has to buy toys, buy ice cream;
Going out to play, children do not want to go, do not want to play;
Especially when several families make an appointment to go out together and have many children, such unexpected situations are very common.
In this case, it is necessary to respect the child and take care of others, which is a test of the wisdom of adults.
But as long as you do it, there is a child in your heart, and there is love for your child in your heart, and wisdom will arise.
Because education, the most important thing is to take the child as the foundation, treat the child as a "person", and respect the child.
Such an education is warm and loving.
Instead of using the child as a foil, a cold tool.
In his New Year's Eve speech, Mr. Luo Fat told a story in which a famous doctor and an assistant performed surgery on a young girl.
At the end of the operation, it is generally the assistant to suture, because this is not a key link, you can let the assistant practice his hands.
However, this time, when the assistant was ready to stitch it up, the famous doctor stopped him.
He said, "This time I'll come. The girl is young, don't let the scars be too conspicuous. ”
At that time, the assistant sighed in his heart: This time I only knew what a famous doctor was.
It turns out that famous doctors compete not only in technology;
It's not that other doctors can sew in 10 seconds, he can sew in 8 seconds.
The famous doctor can experience a scene that cannot be beaten with the eight rods in the hospital operating room, but it is very important to the patient: this patient not only has to survive, but, in the future, perhaps she will wear a bikini.
Please think about it, whether it is a parent or a teacher, do not you also need this ability of a famous doctor?
In the details, for the sake of the child, for the sake of the child's future, put the child in the heart, love the child, respect the child.
Such ability can gain the trust of children and make children feel love, which is an important prerequisite for achieving educational goals.
Any educational method or technique, once inseparable from love, is pale and insignificant.