Yama is good, and the little devil is difficult.
When you meet some difficult people in life, I believe that many people have a feeling of being loveless, but you can't take the other party, you can only compromise everywhere, otherwise what can you do?
You're just red-eyed
Tian Lizhu (pseudonym), who is nearly 60 years old, re-established a family with Xia Qiang (pseudonym) 5 years ago, but the good times were not long, and in 2019, Xia Qiang, who was married for three years, died in a car accident, which means that the reorganized family was completely separated.
Tian Lizhu confessed that after her husband's death, she had not yet come out of her grief and was driven out of the house by her stepson and daughter-in-law, and the stepson even replaced the wooden door with an anti-theft iron door, even the key was not given to herself, and now there is a home that cannot be returned, so after two years, Tian Lizhu came to her deceased husband's house again, and wanted to ask her stepson for an explanation.
But before entering the door, the neighbors around them found out and began to accuse and insult Tian Lizhu, got one or two hundred thousand you came, you only have money in your eyes, pension insurance also bought for you, what do you want?
Tian Lizhu did not instigate, a tongue of war, you are just red in the eyes of me, I don't want to talk to you, there is no fun at all, no one else has talked about me, just you are here to talk about me, what about you.
In Tian Lizhu's view, she married into the Xia family for 5 years, and the hukou was also moved here, her husband had a good relationship with her before she died, and the two children of the stepson were also carried by her and her husband, but after the death of the husband, the stepson took back her husband's passbook, and also found a reason to drive her out, now there is not even a place to live, the stepson is simply too ruthless.
Then, under the leadership of Tian Lizhu, we also met her stepson Xia Youzhi (pseudonym), and in the face of questioning, Xia Youzhi said that he had never rushed his stepmother, and learned from his mouth that Xia Youzhi and his wife lived on the second floor, and his father and stepmother lived on the first floor.
After the death of his father, his stepmother locked the three rooms on the first floor, which was not necessary at all in Xia Youzhi's view, because if the guests came to the family, Xia Youzhi would definitely arrange a room for the guests to stay, so he consulted with his stepmother, the stepmother's room was not moved, the other rooms should not be locked, even if it was locked, he should also give him the key.
Xia Youzhi thought that this was no longer a normal request, but the stepmother said that she would not do anything, and no one cared about calling her son, and finally because of this matter, the stepmother also sued him to the court, and what awaited Xia Youzhi was a succession of court summonses.
Speaking of this, the neighbors around them rushed over after hearing the noise, they once again accused Tian Lizhu with all their tongues, you are greedy enough to swallow the elephant, hundreds of thousands of people still have to find things, the neighbor revealed that Tian Lizhu agreed to continue to take care of the children after the death of her husband, but she lived for a month and left on her own, and she was not out of the house, and since then she has been fighting a lawsuit for money, which is incomprehensible.
Seeing that a group of people were blaming themselves, Tian Lizhu's response was only one sentence, what about you. After a while of appeasement, everyone was emotionally stable, and Xia Youzhi talked about the past.
After the father's car accident in 2019, a total of about 500,000 compensation, and finally he divided the money into three parts after removing the burial fee and the lawyer's fee, which should be taken by the stepmother, he did not give a penny less, plus the money in the father's passbook, the stepmother took a total of about 150,000 yuan, and the money for the burial subsidy was at least fifty or sixty thousand was also taken away by the stepmother, which was not counted.
The more angry Xia Youzhi became, the more angry he was, he also lost his temper in an instant, and he was okay to treat his stepmother as a stepson, but the stepmother's return to himself was a lawsuit, two lawsuits, and three lawsuits.
In this regard, Tian Lizhu did not admit or deny that she took this money, and avoided the weight and said that her hukou had been moved to the Xia family, so the house should have its own share, and it was also reasonable to move back to the Xia family.
In fact, Xia Youzhi also said, it is not to let the stepmother live here, is the wife has a mental illness, the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, not to mention that this is still a stepmother, before the father was alive when there was a father to watch over, now the father died, the contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law stimulated the wife to brew a big mistake What to do, he can not stay at home every day to guard the wife, after all, he still has to work to make money, plus the stepmother is not good at speaking, the contradiction between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is often a thing.
It's just that no matter what Xia Youzhi says, Tian Lizhu's attitude is resolute to live here, in her opinion, her husband didn't have anything to do when he was alive, how could there be something going on when he died? Xia Youzhi roared angrily: "Then you live, and you deserve to be beaten."
The two people quarreled like this, the neighbors on the side could not look at it again, they insulted Tian Lizhu again, what qualifications do you have to live here, you obviously have your own children in Zhuzhou, why do you have to live with a mentally ill person with two children?
Neighbors said that Tian Lizhu's purpose was not pure, she worked as a nanny outside for a decade or two to find Xia Qiang's husband, from the beginning of contact with Xia Qiang is prepared, it is here to get money, will continue to ask for money for stepchildren one after another.
Hearing the neighbor say so, this time Tian Lizhu decided to fight back, she ran back to the room and moved the table, and then moved the ladder to find the wedding photo she hid at that time, she tried to prove that she and her husband Xia Qiang were stronger than Jinjian, otherwise it was impossible to take romantic wedding photos near the age, this full sense of ceremony was enough to prove the seriousness of the two people starting a family together, if the husband was alive, he would definitely not let himself be kicked out of the house.
But this move of hers makes the neighbors a little scornful, you will take this to say things, are the neighbors who do not know your business, you and Xia Qiang quarreled at both ends for three days, you called the police several times? Since Xia Qiang's death, you have been concerned with interests, you and your family have not even paid a penny of gifts, not even burned a piece of paper, this is nameless you.
In this way, in the anger of the crowd, Tian Lizhu lost the battle, this time the conversation was not happy and dispersed, after Tian Lizhu left, Xia Youzhi calmly talked about the past of his father and Tian Lizhu.
It turned out that Xia Qiang was 11 years older than Tian Lizhu, and they had told their son Xia Youzhi after they had received a license when they got married, and in the eyes of his father, Xia Qiang, his daughter-in-law was mentally ill and could not take care of the family's affairs, so he needed a Xiannei help to take care of his grandson, so he married Tian Lizhu.
However, this situation seems to be very happy, but in Xia Youzhi's view, there are too many risks, and he is also very opposed to his father's marriage, because his father did not say that the property matter was good, and if his father left first in the future, there would be more trouble, who could think that it was really troublesome now.
At that time, his father told him that he didn't want to marry this wife's house, so he proposed a condition that he would buy pension insurance for her, because the pension insurance here was cheap, so he moved Tian Lizhu's account over, but what Xia Youzhi did not expect was that it was only verbally said at the beginning, and there was no paper evidence left, and now people are looking for trouble, that is, there is no way at all.
And the father married Tian Lizhu, his life is not better than single to go there, before the father at least can go to play small cards, married is not OK, Tian Lizhu grew a tumor hospitalized, father cooked at two or three o'clock in the middle of the night to send her to the hospital, but after Tian Lizhu recovered, she said that her father had no conscience.
There is also the family's factory is the sister's, when the father was alive in order to honor the elders, the father also collected rent, more than 30,000 yuan a year, Tian Lizhu lived here for three years, the father died This money is gone, plus the father has more than a thousand pensions every month, and the savings in the passbook are almost empty.
Xia Youzhi asked himself, whether it was Tian Lizhu from entering the house to the stepmother leaving, the Xia family had never treated Tian Lizhu badly, but Tian Lizhu was always embarrassed by the Xia family, got the compensation, and now he still had to fight the idea of the house, so Xia Youzhi did not want to give in this time, nor did he want Tian Lizhu to enter the house again.
The difficult stepmother also gave her biological daughter a headache
Hearing that her mother was turned away, Tian Lizhu's daughter Huang Hui (pseudonym) took the initiative to contact her mother, she frankly said that if the mother is willing to come back, as a child will accept the mother, there must be a place for her to live, but Tian Lizhu directly refused, she will not live with her children, that is, to live in the Xia family.
Logically, living with her own biological children is definitely much more comfortable than living with her stepson's family, but why does Tian Lizhu insist on living in her stepson's house?
On this point, Tian Lizhu also gave an explanation, it turned out that she had fought three lawsuits with the stepson family, one was to divide the property, she felt that the property had its own two-quarters, the other was to divide the factory with the stepdaughter, collecting 40,000 or 50,000 rents a year, she wanted to inherit two-thirds of the tenth of her husband's name, and the third was to mediate with the stepchildren the issue of her husband's death compensation.
Now the factory and compensation have been completed, only the house has not yet been implemented, and the court has ruled that there are indeed two-quarters of her, and the hukou has also been moved to the Xia family, so it is necessary to live in the Xia family, it is the Xia family who wants to let themselves have nothing, and they have fought a lawsuit with them.
After listening to her mother's words, her daughter Huang Hui smiled, who wants you to find it, they all said that they would not let you find you, and now it is really a headache, you are like this, you have to insist, people bought you a necklace, you have to marry this old man.
It turned out that Tian Lizhu remarried, as children, they were also opposed, but the opposition was invalid, the day was going to rain, the mother wanted to marry, this was no way to do it, and when Tian Lizhu divorced, the children were also opposed, but unfortunately Tian Lizhu still insisted on herself.
At that time, the daughter Huang Hui was still studying, the mother suddenly told her to divorce, Huang Hui thought that the mother was joking, that she had thought that the mother was playing real, of course, although the divorce was not so fast and smooth, the father maintained four or five years before leaving the mother, but the mother is too selfish, this marriage is also, suddenly said that marriage is married.
For why she wanted a divorce, Tian Lizhu also said her heart, she did not want to live in the countryside, the old man would farm and would not earn money at all, so he went out to be a nanny, and the family's expenses were almost all out of his own pocket, which had the idea of divorce.
After working hard outside for a decade or two, until I met Xia Qiang, I had the idea of getting married, because Xia Qiang was very good to himself, he called me wife, my ex-husband never called, before I got married I said I wanted a necklace, he immediately ran to the mall to buy a flower that cost more than 7,000, and also took me out to travel to buy a bracelet, went to Thailand, Yunnan, Ningxia, etc.
Mention xia qiang, Tian Lizhu can't help but blush, but squeezed for half a day tears can not squeeze down, what she wants to express is that the feelings with Xia Qiang are very good, and Xia Qiang is also very good to her, let her enjoy the warmth that has never been in three years.
Hearing her mother say this, her daughter Huang Hui still did not approve, she felt that in the eyes of outsiders, her mother seemed to have taken advantage of how much, in fact, her mother was not so good, because she went to her mother's place, and every time she went to see her mother farming, taking other people's grandchildren, and the old man was leisurely with Erlang's legs crossed.
Every time she saw this scene, Huang Hui was very angry, so she rarely went to her mother, she felt that seeing her mother would think of her father, obviously her father was farming, why did her mother have to help others, not help herself, she had also fantasized that her parents would remarry after figuring it out in her old age, but since her mother remarried, her idea was shattered.
Huang Hui also admitted that she is the eldest daughter, and a sister and brother, two have become a family, the younger brother also has mental illness, now the mother has a maintenance obligation to the younger brother, every month to take medicine is the mother's money, she has to rely on being a nanny to make money, I don't know what the mother insists on living in the Xia family is considered.
I heard that there is a levy there
Bidding farewell to her daughter, Tian Lizhu rushed to her employer's house to become a nanny, she said that she had not read a book, did not have a skill, and when she was young, she came out of her rural hometown to be a live-in nanny, which was 20 years, and she wanted to rely on her own efforts to find a bowl of stable rice and have a small home of her own.
After working hard in the big city for many years, after meeting Xia Qiang, he did not let Tian Lizhu go out to be a nanny, saying that he would accompany him more, and then Xia Qiangyi died, Tian Lizhu immediately became a nanny, she is also a capable nanny in the mouth of the employer, and the reputation is not bad.
In fact, Tian Lizhu did not bring many clothes, usually she would go to her son's house to take a bath and live for a while, but everyone felt that Tian Lizhu would definitely be better to live with her son, but she still refused, bluntly saying that she wanted to have a nest, her son still owed foreign debts, the mortgage was not paid off, and her hukou was moved away, living is the xia family's people, dead is also the ghost of the Xia family.
Finally, under repeated questioning, Tian Lizhu opened her heart, and she confessed that the neighbors around her were talking about it, this piece may be expropriated, so much effort to live in the Xia family, but also to keep their share.
Wouldn't it be nice to tell the truth earlier? It was really tiring to go around, and seeing this situation, I could only meet the two people at this time of consultation with the village committee to completely solve this matter.
After the two sides came to the village brigade, Tian Lizhu tried to prove that her request was very reasonable by raising the volume, and she shouted that she must live in the Xia family, but this move was disgusted by her stepson Xia Youzhi, who wanted to leave before he sat down.
But what makes people wonder is that in the morning, they also said that in order to levy, why did they change their mouths and live in the Xia family now? In the face of questioning, Tian Lizhu denied the words of expropriation, bluntly saying that she wanted to live in the Xia family, that is, to have a residence of her own, so many rooms in the family, why not give yourself a room at will, she is nearly sixty years old, is it a lifetime nanny?
This remark once again caused public anger, obviously can not come together, why do you have to live with others, people's wives have mental illness, no one is around to restrict, you live, in case of unpredictable harm who is responsible?
However, these statements are excuses in Tian Lizhu's view, and even she does not care whether others have mental disability certificates, she firmly believes that her husband lives well when he is gone, how can he not live when he is gone?
Seeing that Tian Lizhu could not turn around, the village cadre raised his voice, before your husband was there, he could look at your daughter-in-law, now your husband is gone, you obviously can't go with your daughter-in-law, stimulate people to get sick and give you a fight, now you live here, no one cares about your daughter-in-law.
At the moment, the village cadres also said that there is no expropriation here for the time being, and finally after multi-party consultation, two plans were made under the premise of not living in the Xia family, the first is to discount the house into cash to Tian Lizhu, whether it is demolished or not in the future, it has nothing to do with her, and the second is that in case of demolition in the future, Tian Lizhu still takes her own share.
Even so, Tian Lizhu still disagreed, insisted on living in the Xia family, helplessly, had to dial the phone of her daughter Huang Hui, Huang Hui said that the mother wanted to stay there may be to enjoy the policy of the village, the annual free physical examination and dividends, last year the brigade did not have dividends Mother also did not know, the mother has diabetes, free physical examination treatment may help her condition.
First of all, the village only has an annual free physical examination, which is only a regular project, there is no free treatment benefit, and second, there is no dividend last year, and if there is any later, who will be given to whom, which does not have to worry at all.
The stepson Xia Youzhi also promised that he would not worry about his stepmother's share at all, who should be whoever it was, two-quarters of the house was also yours, not to let you live, it was not impossible to live, if it was levied in the future, it should be your brigade that also hit your account.
Hearing these words, Tian Lizhu finally let go of her smiling face, she also agreed to move out, everyone was happy, just like this, after returning home, she simply packed up her things, exchanged phone calls with her stepson and said that she would have a good relationship with her stepson in the future and left.
After two years, the two finally released their former suspicions, for the sake of interests, ruined their mood, hurt their feelings, and finally ended up with both defeats, it was really not worth it, the heart was calculated, everywhere was complaining, if the heart was relaxed, it was always sunny.
Second marriage is not terrible, what is terrible is ulterior motives
A relationship is not happy, after the divorce to start a new relationship is understandable, but for the second marriage, we must be cautious, first of all, we must seek the opinions of our children, secondly, divide the property situation in advance, and finally end up with a clean life, in fact, the second marriage is not terrible, the terrible thing is that there is an ulterior motive.
For Tian Lizhu and Xia Qiang, their marriage was indeed in a hurry, and when Xia Qiang died, this only bond was broken, and there was no agreement before, which led to a series of troubles.
According to legal theory, Tian Lizhu is not wrong, after all, she has also received the support of the court, but according to reason, it is indeed a little inappropriate, obviously not to do it but to do it, which makes people quite helpless, perhaps this is the reason why she is not pleasing in the local area.
In fact, the stepson is also good to her, if there is some accident, it is also what no one wants to see, in fact, people interact with each other, there is room for words, there is more than enough to do things, there is no way to do anything, there is no afterglow in love, there is more help for those who have gained the Tao, and those who have lost their way have little help.
What do you think about this? Everyone is welcome to express their opinions and give different voices, thank you.