Born into a happy family, with a pair of perfect parents, how many people under this day can be so lucky?
The reality is that sometimes parents will say evil things to their children, sometimes they will not be able to control their emotions, they will either hit or scold, and some parents are very selfish. In multi-child families, some parents will unconsciously compare their children, criticize the dissatisfied one, and favor a child.
At the critical moment when children should be taught to judge right and wrong, and should be given protection and care, they may lose the correct direction of education in a moment of hesitation.
All of the above is actually the appearance of most of our parents. There are no perfect people under the heavens, and there are no perfect parents in this world.
Although parents instinctively love their children, although they are even willing to protect their children with their lives, sometimes, they will bring various inner pains to their children, and it may be because of "love" that parents have become a harmful existence for their children.
In the new year, many people will make flags, make plans, and resolve to change. But change is really difficult, and in less than half of the year, most people have "surrendered" and returned to the original mode of life.
Regarding "change", one of the most worthy practices I have ever heard of is to change yourself: don't think about changing yourself, and don't try to change others (parents), in other words - rebirth.
In the past, I was trapped in the harm caused by my original family for a long time, unable to break free, and even had the idea of theorizing with my parents and asking them to apologize. I thought that only by doing that would I be liberated. (Fortunately, I didn't do that, because I would lose both ways)
The concept of "rebirth" is good. Because you don't need to change people and things that were difficult to change before. At any moment in the present moment, if you want, you can start all over again – as the first day of a new life, and live for yourself once.
I am @Junkojie, struggling in Korea. A second-child workplace mother who focuses on sharing the knowledge of parenting and parenting. Thanks for reading, welcome to follow
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