Be true to yourself

My job is as a corporate consultant, mainly to help enterprises to do two aspects of work, one is to improve the sales performance of enterprises, and the other is to help employees grow, mature and achieve achievements.

"My job is not to solve any problem, but to serve the needs of society."

"I hope that the parent-child relationship is harmonious, the intimate relationship is harmonious, and only when all kinds of relationships are harmonious, our society will be harmonious and beautiful."

Teacher Runyu said.

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In my heart, there was once a dream

When I see that in China, more and more young people who are not yet psychologically mature have gone to society, but our education system has not taught them how to enter society;

When I see that in China, many people who are about to enter the workplace do not know what is a profession, what is responsible for their own profession, and what is responsible for their own life;

When I see that in China, our education system emphasizes more on you to learn to be excellent, resulting in everyone being very indifferent to their responsibilities and their relationship with society.

When I see that in China, everyone has such a wish in their hearts, that is, they hope that they are valuable and can contribute to this society;

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So my main job is to help those who want to contribute to this society and hope that they can achieve something better; I hope that China can be strong, and China's strength is based on the mental health and maturity of every Chinese.

I also hope that Chinese enterprises can be strong, because China's economy depends on the development of Chinese enterprises, and the development of enterprises depends on the creation of responsible and psychologically mature Chinese. What I am willing to contribute to society is to help individuals grow, mature, and achieve success in the organization.

Ordinary people have touched me so much

● During the Wenchuan earthquake, I went to Wenchuan as a psychological support worker of UNICEF, and at the Deyang People's Hospital, I met their director of thoracic surgery, and his life experience gave me a great touch. For some reason, he lost the opportunity to be promoted to dean, and in the so-called administrative career, he seemed to have lost the space for upward development, so he focused on his profession.

Thoracic surgery often happens to first aid, and the daily work is often on standby; in order to improve the efficiency of emergency treatment, under the leadership of the department director, every doctor in the department is equipped with a walkie-talkie, which is very far-sighted under the medical conditions at that time, and there is a mechanism for their contact. When the earthquake suddenly happened, all the cell phone signals were gone, but his team and their walkie-talkies played a big role at this time! That night, because of the convenience of communication, they rescued a lot of people, and by the early hours of the morning, these doctors were exhausted and paralyzed!

The story of the director and his team has deeply shocked me. When life encounters setbacks, you can still insist on taking your own life path, insist on working in your own post, and use his refined professional knowledge to save many lives in a difficult environment! For me, this is the greatness of ordinary people!

● Still during the earthquake, there was a little girl, about three or four years old, very cute looking, willing to be with us every day, ask this and that, looking at the cute little life, I always forgot the situation we were in at that time; when I took them to play games together, the children said: Uncle, can we play the game of building a house? The children did not understand the destruction of the family, did not understand the reconstruction after the disaster, but their eyes were so clean and full of expectations, that kind of heartfelt happiness and hope for the future sparkled, which deeply affected me; later because of work, I needed to leave, and when I said goodbye to the children, I was reluctant to give up; when the cute little girl knew that I would not have the opportunity to come back to play games with them again, she said very sincerely: "Uncle is at home, you take care of yourself!" "My heart felt incredibly warm and touched! Between people and people, the encounter between life and life is the fate, no matter what the road ahead, with a respect and blessing for each other, this is enough.

Every ordinary person has an extraordinary dream in their hearts, and this dream supports them to do extraordinary things, whether it is the wise thoracic surgeon or the innocent and lively little girl, they have touched me and nourished me inexhaustible in my life.

Your life is different from the rest of the world

In 2010, I published a book, "The Construction of elite investment promotion systems for pharmaceutical companies". The owner of a business saw the book and invited me to be a consultant for his business; this also opened my career as a business consultant. When I went to this business, I found that their employees were unhappy. So I did two things: the first was to share with them what a career is, and the relationship between career and life. When I shared these ideas with everyone, I found that they were different, and they began to be proactive and willing to take on more responsibilities for their positions;

The second thing is to help them see the value and significance of their work, whether it is administrative logistics, human resources, sales team, research and development team, every position, every person has important value to the operation of the organization, but because no one tells them these values, no one appreciates and affirms them, so although they are working every day, they have less self-esteem in life and less of a feeling of being respected. I am pleased to find that when people see the value of their work and experience being respected, they become happy and happy. The boss of their company said to me with great emotion: "Teacher Yang, you have been here for less than three months, and I have found that the smiles on the faces of the employees have increased a lot!" ”

In organizations, I've found that when people start taking responsibility for their own lives and their careers, they are more powerful! When people start to see their worth and start respecting themselves and others, they are happier!

Grasp every touch in life

Every speech has brought me a lot of touch; Chinese parents are the most dedicated parents in the world, on the road to educating their children, they tremble and tremble, step by step, constantly learning and exploring, afraid that which link will affect the future of children; as an educator, in the face of this kind of touch, I am willing to share what I have learned and thought with everyone, hoping to use my modest efforts to help everyone be more successful and happier!

Everyone's speech carries his understanding of the world and the dream of changing the world; as a learner and practitioner, in the long-term work and learning, it is found that parents continue to let their children learn various types of knowledge, but rarely plan their children's education from the long-term perspective of "a lifetime of growth and happiness", which leads parents to let their children learn more while worrying about what they may be doing wrong, and this inherent conflict is difficult to effectively help their children's growth.

However, for life, it is full of all kinds of possibilities, some unlearned parents, but the children are very good; some very learned parents, but the children are not cultivated satisfactorily.

We need to know such a premise: every child has its own potential, they can even surpass the parents to do a lot of things, so if parents are limited to knowledge and keep teaching children, then it is likely to be counterproductive and limit the development of children;

What is the basis for a better future? Based on the strength of the child's heart, based on whether the child has the opportunity to find his own mission in life.

So I hope in my heart that Chinese parents can become more and more powerful and confident. The more confident parents are in themselves, the more they can often help their children! The more secure the parents feel in their hearts, the safer their children will feel, and safety is an important basis and condition for growth. So that's what I hope to bring to Chinese parents. So how many ways do I share it? In fact, the core is to hope that parents can consciously and gradually return the dominance of their children's lives to their children, because in the process of growing up, everyone. Every child will aspire to be himself, and they will all aspire to contribute to society, but they need time to explore and grow.

And every parent, need to build a safe space that can be explored, steadily help your child to take over the baton of his life, rather than hindering the growth of children; when we let go to let the child take responsibility for their own life, then it is not so difficult to cultivate children with ideals and dreams, but a happy thing that can grow together with children, so we can grow up together through every challenge, every success, and every failure. To experience the profound and moving that life brings!

I hope that we can all grasp this kind of emotion, look inward, introspect, and become loving and powerful parents.

Go all out for the dreams in our hearts

We live in the world, and what kind of beliefs and values we have about this world and how we get along with people is very important, which will directly affect our happiness and success in this life. Because each of our choices and decisions is based on our beliefs and values, and the result of all these choices and decisions constitutes the encounter of our lives.

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Satya divides these beliefs and values into class models and growth models, which is to believe that people are high and low, things are right and wrong, those who have power are always right, and this relationship does not bring growth, only obedience or disobedience. The growth model is to believe that people are equal to each other, growth is always possible, and people have enough wisdom to achieve the results they want.

Then, in family relationships, whether people get along in class mode or growth mode will directly affect whether each other experience happiness and growth in the relationship. Have parents thought deeply about how they get along with each other and how they get along with their children? If our relationship is based on a growth model, then I believe that parent-child relationships and intimate relationships will be handled very well.

When parents can truly experience from their hearts that their children have an equal personality with themselves, that he is only coming into this world through you, that he is worthy of respect, that he is worthy of being heard and seen, then we will naturally have less self-righteousness, less violence, more tolerance, and more encouragement and support in the process of educating our children.

When a husband, who is the pillar of the family, truly sees the contribution of his wife as a stay-at-home mother to the family, then the relationship between husband and wife will be more harmonious.

Our ultimate dream is that the parent-child relationship is harmonious, the intimate relationship is harmonious, and the various relationships are harmonious, and we also build a harmonious and beautiful social relationship. We are constantly learning, constantly exploring, and working hard to achieve our dreams.

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