Fighting addiction with willpower alone is doomed to failure

The human brain is more inclined to simple, easy and fun activities, and it is also reluctant to think hard. But human consciousness can control the operation of the brain, and this control is limited. So when we want to quit a bad habit and rely only on willpower to overcome it, the probability of failure will be very large.

Psychologists did such an experiment, randomly selected ten children aged 5-6, 5 men and 5 women. The children were placed in an experimental classroom with cameras, and a plate of candy was placed on the classroom table. Before the lab staff left, they told the children that if they insisted on not stealing the candy on the table for 15 minutes, they would get a bigger reward; if they stole it, they would not get a reward. When the lab staff left, the children began to stir. Some children start to approach the table containing candy, trying to get it by hand; some children keep staring at the candy on the table; some children walk around the table... After 5 minutes, one of the children couldn't stand it, so he picked up the candy on the table and began to eat; the other children looked at him, hesitated, and all approached the table, staring directly at the candy... After 10 minutes, 60% of the children stole candy... After 15 minutes, only 1 child remained without stealing candy. In the experiment, A closer look at the child, who did not steal candy, found that she began to stare at the candy all the time, and then ran to other places to stare at the wall or ceiling. Even though so many children sat around the table stealing candy, the little girl was still staring at something else.

So, from this experiment, psychologists have come to the conclusion that strategies to fight addiction with willpower alone are doomed to failure. Diversion is a good choice.

If this conclusion is applied to the matter of lost love, what kind of effect will it have?