A netizen left me a message saying that when she first got married, she cleaned up her little home very warmly. After she became pregnant, her mother came to see her and sat on the edge of her bed and cried.
I asked: Crying, jealousy?
She replied: Probably thinking that my brother didn't have a good life as I did.
I have seen many such parents in real life, especially those who have both children and daughters. When the daughter is not married, the family's chores are all the daughter's, and it is right to do a good job, and if it is not done well, it is inevitable that there will be a beating, and from time to time in front of outsiders, she will orchestrate her daughter to eat and be lazy and disobedient.
The work was all done by the daughter, and the son who ate and wore a low degree did not know several grades. The opportunity to study is also given to the son first, and it is not the turn of the daughter to see luck. It was as if he wanted to take back the money of his adopted daughter by squeezing her daughter.
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The small things are biased in favor of the son, not to mention the big things. When the daughter gets married, it is common to receive only the bride price and not to give the dowry, or to take a little from the bride price to the daughter, and to the outside world, it is said how much dowry the family has prepared for the daughter.
In order to save face for the mother's family or to save face for herself (the in-laws are there), she generally does not refute it, and a person secretly cries afterwards.
There are not a few girls who earn money and save their dowries, and some girls are not stupid, in fact, she knows her position in the hearts of her parents, and she also knows that her money cannot be kept by her parents. But when you get married, you always hope that other girls can have it yourself. So before the wedding, he gave the money he had saved to his parents and let them give it to themselves in front of their in-laws.
Some parents even if they do not want to see their daughters anymore, do not covet this little money (there are always faces, afraid of passing it out is not good); some parents are strange, and if they receive their daughter's private money, it should be the daughter's filial piety to herself or deduct part of the daughter's private money.
On the day of the wedding, I did not give or give less, and in front of a group of relatives and friends, my daughter did not dare to make trouble. Afterwards, if the daughter questioned, people were right: raise you so big, what is wrong with taking a few dollars from you, you white-eyed wolf...
The married daughter returns to her mother's house, and it is good to return once in a while, and the mother's family is generally quite enthusiastic, but the daughter cannot be empty-handed (slightly better in the city, generally not so "exquisite"). This is not a New Year's festival, or I usually have to go back to my mother's house to see. This is really taking the married daughter as a relative, who has empty hands to go to the relatives?
Back to the mother's home more, if you do not eat and live in the mother's home is good, eat and live for ten days and half a month the mother's family will be unhappy, even if the time of living in the mother's home, the daughter did not pay a penny less, some girls feel that they should honor their parents, parents and their own expenses are all inclusive, and even the expenses of the brother's family are also all covered, still can not fall into a good sentence.
In the past, there was a family in my hometown that opened a restaurant, and my daughter married close and walked for 10 minutes. The girl helped in the restaurant before getting married (this kind of generally no salary, usually want to buy something, just ask the parents to ask for pocket money), after getting married, there is no other partner, or work for the mother's family, eating is also in the restaurant. At first it was a person, and then a family of three was eating at the restaurant.
The mother and father are not happy, but they can't say it clearly, and they put on a face every day. If you don't want your daughter's family to eat at the restaurant, then don't let your daughter work for her family, don't let your daughter work for yourself, you want people to do it, and you don't want people to eat it. When people around them talked about this, they were all laughing, and they didn't know what to laugh at.
The daughter is pregnant, the parents of the distressed daughter are naturally thousands of dings, ten thousand instructions, extra large bags of food sent over, some parents are not at ease, live in the daughter's home to take care of.
Parents who don't take their daughters seriously, when they know it, they don't know, and they don't react at all. Sometimes the in-laws stew some chicken soup, fish soup or send some expensive food to pregnant women (it is not a rare thing, ordinary people can afford to eat), the mother and mother do not know that it is okay, know that the acid is not slippery autumn then stubble after stubble, meaning that you are not pregnant with a baby, is it so expensive?
Daughter-in-law gives birth to children, in-laws do not give analgesic pumps to save money, refuse to give a caesarean section quite a lot, the mother's parents do this a lot. They generally don't say anything if they don't need to pay, and once they need to pay for it, they pretend to die.
Good temper let the daughter endure, bad temper direct scolding: who has not given birth to a child, on your pain, why others can endure, you can't, don't give it (analgesic pump), let her give birth by herself...
Such a mother's parents and in-laws have a fight, and which girl has the heart to meet such a mother's death. There are also in-laws who are distressed about their daughters-in-law and think about their daughters-in-law everywhere. The mother-in-law was not happy to see it, and deliberately tossed her daughter.
Most parents who are so patriarchal are not unhappy that their daughters are doing well. The reason is also simple, the daughter's good life can be squeezed by the mother's family, that is, let the daughter subsidize the son (whether the son needs help or not).
Of course, the daughter is doing well but not better than the son, and some parents are very direct (they don't think there is anything wrong with this): why does she (the daughter) live better than her brother? None of us had a good life like her.
Many parents will brainwash their daughters, and many have succeeded, such as helping their brothers and demons (once awakened, they will also be determined). Some people don't know whether the level of brainwashing (technology) of the parents is not good or the daughter has a strong sense of autonomy and has not succeeded.
Some parents know in their hearts that they have completely offended their daughters, and they also know that their eccentricity spoils their sons selfishly and will not care about themselves at all. So once he is old and afraid, he carefully looks at his face in front of his children and acts.
The poor man will have something to hate, and the sins he has created will ultimately bear himself.