A serial car accident occurred on the road.
A male colleague who knew the car very well said: You see, the first car was not hit because it was particularly strong; the third car did not hit the second car because its braking system was particularly good; and the other two cars were hit by the concave... You girls look at the car and think it's almost the same, but the car is expensive, the performance is not good, and you will know if there is an accident.
If you think about it carefully, this paragraph is also very appropriate to describe boys.
Considering as a marriage partner, a boy's "performance" lies precisely in his "ability to resist pressure" in the face of accidents.
Marriage is a safe haven, whether a man is willing to shield you from the wind and rain is one thing, whether you have the ability to cover the storm is another matter.
Many people firmly believe that "a bland marriage is true", which is a big mistake.
After getting married, you will immediately face the pressure of taking out a loan to buy a house and repaying the loan every month; the birth of a child and the family immediately have another money shredder, which is still within expectations.
But after middle age, what unemployment crisis, parents get sick, chicken babies are frustrated, all suddenly, and then count other probabilistic natural disasters and man-made disasters...
Life is not something you can do plainly if you want to. Expecting to lower expectations, you can be plain and clear, then you are too naïve.
There will be a lot of unhappiness and big and small bumps in life, which is absolutely inescapable as long as people are alive.
At this time, the importance of the other half's "ability to resist pressure" is highlighted.
From time to time, a news will be exposed on the Internet: employees of a certain large factory in the north, Guangzhou, and Shenzhen, who are laid off in middle age, the house still has to pay off the mortgage for 20 years, there are old and young people in the family who are waiting to be fed, all thoughts are gray, and they simply jump off the building.
Such a person may also be a small middle class with a monthly salary of tens of thousands of dollars and decent respect, but when encountering things, the ability to resist pressure is so weak, and the way of handling things is so extreme, one is not enough to expect changes in life, and the other is too much to lose.
Even if this house is sold, it will be enough for you to eat for many years. The whole family rents a house to live, and then find a way to do something else to make a living, right? Wouldn't it be a shame to jump like this and throw the old man and the child to the wife?
Echo, a female colleague of the unit, suffered from stomach cancer in the third year after marriage.
Echo's husband, who has been pampered since childhood, has never experienced any major events, and when he hears the news, he is scared like a dish and thinks like a tide. The next few days kept nagging, afraid that the mother was too old to bear the chemotherapy, afraid that the cost of treatment was too high for the family to bear, even if it was cured, there was a possibility of recurrence, afraid that there was no familiar doctor who could not arrange treatment in advance...
All in all, he was afraid of this, afraid of that, stunned that he was scared half to death, not only did his mother's affairs not handle well, but even the work of the unit also had major flaws.
When Echo took a hard time taking a vacation and handled various examinations before her mother-in-law's treatment, his husband seemed to have depression because he suddenly suffered a double blow of family and work...
Therefore, Echo, who has been known for her "princess disease" since childhood, had to turn herself into a female King Kong alive, withstanding the pressure from all directions with a thin flesh and mortal fetus, and also praised it as "feeling that I have been experienced and grown hahaha".
When we get married, we are asked, "Are you willing to live this life, regardless of whether you are rich or poor, sick and healthy?" ”
We replied with a smile, "Yes I do."
Whoever ever thought that it is one thing to not leave or abandon, but it is another thing to deal with poverty, who to fight disease, who to fight misfortune PK, who to deal with accidents.
If you compare a man to a car, you are the woman sitting in the car.
Do you hope that the car will carry you all the way to the wind, can brake in the face of danger, can be carried by heavy pressure, and protect you thoroughly, or is it scared half to death by hitting the scales and injuries all over your body?
After getting married, you may give up the driver's position in order to have children, passively sit in the back seat, who knows that at the critical moment, the driver suddenly picked up the stall, jumped out of the car and left, you hugged the family, bare-handed and looked at each other.
Therefore, when girls are looking for a partner, it is important to "examine the man's ability to resist pressure".
To put it bluntly, the psychological quality should be relatively strong, and it can calmly cope with various life changes.
This is actually not difficult to judge, from some details in daily life, you can get a glimpse or two.
First of all, this person must have a clear enough understanding of the four words "life is not easy".
He must clearly realize that a person's happy life in his twenties, young and strong, single and unmarried, and healthy parents is not a natural ease and beauty, let alone last a lifetime.
So he must have a prejudgment of the various challenges in the future, a set of precautionary plans.
If this person is just muddy, happy day is a day, you remind him to prevent trouble, he laughs at you for worrying about the world. Such a person, when encountering changes in life, is easily the first to act as a deserter, burying his head directly into the sand like an ostrich and leaving a mess for others.
Moreover, no matter what happens to a person, he can maintain emotional stability, maintain a cool head, put aside the interference of feelings and emotional problems, quickly propose solutions on the basis of facts, and implement them as quickly as possible.
When I was young, the little girls were fantasizing about Prince Charming, but the married elder sister colleague told me that the most important thing for a man is to "carry his shoulders.".
Do you think that getting married is to cultivate the right results, and from then on the two of you will live a happy and happy life hand in hand? Miss by a mile! Two people have lived a lifetime together, from marriage, childbirth, buying a house, chicken baby, investment, treatment, pension... To say the least, you have to go through a 9981 difficulty.
If he can't carry it, you can only carry it.
How many little princesses, married to men, were forced to become women alive!
Many men are full of spirit when they are proud, and they are immediately depressed when they are lost.
There are also men, when the days are smooth and you are sweet and affectionate, from time to time to take the initiative to create a sense of ceremony, but when the accident comes, immediately shrink up.
Although men are teenagers to death, but girls find a partner to marry, not to mention, or try to find a man with a personality that is not too cowardly and his shoulders are not too weak.