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There is a saying: "It is better to raise the poor and the rich than to raise their children." ”
Parenting reflects a person's character. It is not a superficial ritual, but goes deep into the inside of life, emitting a dazzling brilliance from the inside out.
Good parenting can benefit children for a lifetime.
In the subway, a mother holds her child. From the clothing point of view, the child's whole body is clean and tidy, and there is not a single piece of dirt. But in order not to let the baby kick the passenger next to her and not to stain other people's clothes, the mother gently supported the child's feet with her hands.
This position, Mom maintained all the way.
This photo has aroused the anger of countless people.
What is parenting?
Upbringing is an attitude embodied in the bones. Grasp the measure in communication, understand the boundaries in getting along, and show kindness in words and deeds. This kind of upbringing is an unconscious act, and it is even more noble that cannot be hidden.
We teach our children what to do a hundred times, so it is better to demonstrate what a role model is. Parents are the best teachers for children, and no matter how much preaching, it is better to practice them all at once.
While waiting for the subway, Dad stood straight outside the waiting line, quietly waiting for the subway to arrive.
Seeing her father's posture, the little girl also learned the appearance of her father, standing quietly behind her, without making noise or shouting.
The most expensive is upbringing.
In public, if you can think a little more about others, think a little more. Do not invade, do not cross the line, do not disturb, leave a little more space for others, but also let their own road, go wider and wider.
After the rainstorm, a pool of water and silt was left on the ground.
A schoolboy with a school bag passed by, and instead of rushing to cross the street, he looked around and picked up bricks. He carefully laid the bricks on the silt floor, one piece at a time, and one after another, until pedestrians could safely pass by with the bricks.
Give someone a rose and leave a lingering fragrance in your hand.
The boy left a clean piece of land for others, and even cultivated a pure land in his own heart. This purity will make him go wider and wider on the road of life in the future.
Grandpa went to eat hot pot, and in the face of the warm service of the store staff, he returned with a handwritten thank-you note. Although told that the meal cost money, it was right to be warmly received. But Grandpa still insisted on thanking him.
Good upbringing is knowing how to respect others. No matter who he is facing, what identity the other party is, what profession he has, I thank him for his efforts and respect the fruits of his labor.
Just a few lines, but can warm a group of people. Maybe it's this little act that can make someone's day different depending on you.
Inside the subway station, the father holds the sleeping child and waits for the arrival of the subway. To avoid the child's shoes staining the chair, Dad laid two sheets of paper at the feet of the baby.
In this way, it will not increase the workload of cleaning the aunt and avoid staining the clothes of the next passenger.
A person's upbringing is hidden in the details. It is not just lip service, but embodied in every aspect of a person.
A mother takes a bus with her baby. The car jolted back and forth on the road, and although the mother held the stroller firmly with her hands, the boy in the back seat still pressed his feet tightly on the baby wheels.
Although they never knew each other, the boy had a quiet kindness in his bones. This kind of upbringing, silently, without making noise, silently reaches out to help with only one's own heart.
On the high-speed train, the little girl accidentally spilled her snacks on the ground. Although she knew that the cleaning aunt would come and clean, the girl still squatted on the ground and picked them up one by one.
Make your own mistakes and solve them yourself. If someone else helps, be grateful and don't take it for granted. How good should such a girl, her tutor, be?
On the field of play, the opponent fell. When the child saw the situation, he immediately stopped and extended a helping hand to the other party.
There are some things that you seem to be losing, but in fact, you are having.
It's still on the subway, with my sister and brother sitting side by side, with their guitars next to them. When a passenger came in, even without the adult's signal, the sister took the initiative to pick up the guitar and put it on her body, and asked her brother to come closer to herself to make a seat for others.
In the crowded subway, the grandmother clutched the handrail tightly in order not to fall. The rickety carriage caused her head to crash into the handrail from time to time.
A boy with headphones next to him, in order not to let his grandmother's head be hit, silently raised his hand and blocked in front of his grandmother.
A person's upbringing cannot be pretended. It is revealed in words and imbued with action. Educated people can see the difficulties of others and understand the feelings and needs of others.
Parents are the best role models for their children. What kind of person you want your child to be, you have to be that person first.
No child is born a "bear child". The demonstration and education of parents' mistakes will subtly affect the character, concepts and conduct of children throughout their lives.
If a child makes a small mistake, we are reluctant to let him bear the consequences. Then, the child is likely to make bigger mistakes, and that consequence is difficult for us to accept.
Before seeing one thing on the Internet, tens of thousands of pieces of handmade by netizens were all dismantled by the children of relatives. He told his relatives, but the relatives did not care at all: "Just one hand, it is not worth a few dollars." ”
This reminds me of a little story:
The bear child sprinkled a glass of water on the master's piano, and after the mother saw it, not only did not educate the child well, but did not think so: "It doesn't matter, a little water is just a little, the piano can't be broken." ”
When the master saw this scene, he was not angry, but just pulled the child and whispered: "I want to thank you for helping me wash the piano, and I will help you wash the piano in the future." ”
The child believes it when he hears it. When visiting the mall once, the child "repeated the same trick" and sprinkled dozens of pianos in the store. When the store found her mother to ask for compensation, her mother was dumbfounded.
A child's upbringing is not innately self-contained, but acquired.
Parents pass on a small kindness to their children, and children may develop this kind nature into rivers, lakes and seas.
And if parents indulge their children's mistakes, then the children may also extend this mistake to life and cause great mistakes.
Life is a school, and parents are the best teachers for children. Behind every nurturing child stood high-ranking parents.
Educated children have a mirror inside them. They don't need to be reminded all the time, they can still maintain the kindness in their bones. This kindness, like a lamp, illuminates not only oneself, but also others.
Parenting has nothing to do with rich or poor, and has nothing to do with status, money, and honor. It is a humility that is rooted in the heart.
Because of humility, it is noble. Because of respect, so rich.
True upbringing is hidden in every detail.
The parenting of parents is the starting line of children. May our children be educated people, and may all the people they meet be cultured people.
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