1. People who are alive will have emotions
This generation of parents is very hard. Not only should we pay attention to the child's physical health, but also pay attention to the child's psychological growth. More and more people are beginning to value emotions. Compared with academic achievements, emotions are actually a person's hidden traits, but it is often these humble emotional explorations that can influence the future direction of a person's life.
When I was tutoring my children for emotional management, I took a lot of detours. On the one hand, I recognize the positive value of positive emotions in life and learning, but at the same time, I often ignore and avoid negative emotions. I do this, in fact, have a very bad effect on the child.
No one can be happy all day. When you encounter unhappy things and your mood is low, you need to be comforted. But in the initial stage, the child is not very expressive. He would express this need of his in a crying way. And because I didn't understand the child's thoughts, I mistakenly dealt with the child's crying as willful. At one time, our parent-child relationship was no longer harmonious.
Later, when I learned more about emotional management, I began to realize that negative emotions in life are the key to our emotional management.
As long as he is a living person, he will have emotions. We can't be harsh on our children and pray that they will always be happy, but we can teach our children how to express and correctly relieve their bad emotions.
In this way, after a period of practice, the number of times he cried was really reduced. Various picture books on emotional management have also helped me a lot in this regard. Many previously unspeakable troubles have easily found a way to resolve them in the process of various story explanations.
2. Picture book selection
I have several sets of mood management picture books in my home. Including "Thomas and His Friends Toddler Emotional Management Interactive Picture Book", "Children's Emotional Cognition and Management Picture Book", "Arctic Parade Magic Troupe", "Breathing Hat" these are all emotional management picture books, my son's favorite works.
The key to emotional management is, first of all, to recognize emotions.
Of all the mood management picture books I've read, The Fantastic Mood Exploration Game Book is a very special set. It's my son's new favorite, and it's the set of books that inspire me the most.
"Wonderful Emotional Exploration Game Book", its author is the famous Russian writer Yelena Ulyeva. As a teacher, she has the opportunity to get up close and personal with children to understand their emotions and changes. More than 20 years of work experience in child development centers have enabled her to achieve great success in children's education. The set of "Fantastic Emotional Exploration Game Books" that we are going to talk about today contains her method of enlightenment emotional intelligence.
Olga Agafunova illustrated this set of books, the little chameleon Ignat, so cute. Every child who has read the Fantastic Emotional Exploration Game Book cannot forget it.
The reason why I find this set of books particularly good is, first of all, because it is very natural in terms of emotional importation. The author takes the growth of the little chameleon Ignat as the story carrier, and throughout the process of growth, there are countless storylines related to emotional cognition and management. In the process of reading, children can not only appreciate the beauty of the story, but also learn more about emotional cognition and management from the special page.
This happens to be very much in line with the characteristics of children's thinking.
3. Special "Fantastic Emotional Exploration Game Book"
The Fantastic Emotional Exploration Game Book has a total of four books, namely "My Mom Is Gone", "Why Is It Different from Others", "Where Are My Friends", and "Why Are You All Bullying Me".
Each of these four books has a storyline, and from the birth of the little chameleon Ignat, he is constantly undergoing various tests. The reason why the author chose the chameleon as the protagonist of the story is also very meaningful. Studies have shown that every time a chameleon changes its body color, it is not only because of its surroundings, but also because of its own mood. Even with the eyes blindfolded, the chameleon's color is still changing. Isn't this just like the changeable children in our lives?
So, when children know that the little chameleon will change color and change with mood, they often start to get excited.
Each book, at the very beginning, has an "emotional exploration map." This is an abstract manifestation of the whole story later, and children can understand the key points of these stories and think about the problems that chameleons may encounter before reading the main text.
I enjoy exploring the emotional map with my children, which can stimulate children's imagination and expression.
Later in the story, on each page, the little chameleon Ignath will encounter a small problem, and the next page, follow the author's intimate guidance. There are not only rich emotional small lessons, but also many interesting interactive games and small suggestions. Children can read through the story of the book and then review the specific problems of each emotional branch one by one. You can also think about it while watching.
This design provides more practical space for children's reading. At the same time, we can also improve the understanding of children's emotions in the process of accompanying children to play.
These four books cover different topics, including all aspects of emotions. Especially all kinds of negative emotions, the emotional tips given by the author are very instructive.
"My Mother Is Gone", the author aims to help children to be strong in their hearts. And "Why Is It Different from Others" inspires children to recognize their own unique value. "Where Are My Friends" helps children solve the details of interpersonal communication. "Why Are You BullyIng Me" tells children that while being strong, don't be afraid of being misunderstood and bullied.
The solution to these problems cannot be achieved in two words. But the author includes the solution in the story, and through the emotional management small class, the knowledge of emotional management has been further sublimated, which makes emotional management a thing that can be seen and touched.
We only need to follow the author's thinking, to read, to explore, to interact, and we can always have our own new thinking.
It's no wonder that kids love this set of books. Probably in addition to the story content, he also prefers the process of interacting with his mother.
In the process of interacting with him, I also further understood the difficulty of growing up.