Women who have not had men for a long time will have these three changes

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Author: Mo Yan

Source: Uncle Moyan (ID: moyandashu)

Recently, I saw a news that said that the willingness of young people to marry was significantly reduced, and the number of marriages in the first three seasons fell by 17.5% compared with 2 years ago. And according to the survey, women's willingness to marry is significantly lower than that of men.

After reading it, I can't help but sigh. Women are not easy to be born, if they are hurt one after another in the emotional world, the desire to fall in love and marry will naturally decrease.

According to research, women who have not loved for a long time will have the following three changes over time.

01

Suffering from gain and loss, it is easy to feel inferior

A woman who has not been pursued and loved for a long time will easily have an inferiority complex, suspecting that she is not doing well and does not deserve true love.

If there is suddenly a person of the opposite sex who cares about himself in his life, he will feel particularly uncomfortable, and even a little helpless, feeling that he is not worthy of the other party.

Cai Kangyong once mentioned in the article that one of his star friends, girls have a very good career, and people are particularly beautiful.

But when it comes to the last relationship, he says that he is not worthy of the ex. The girl said that when she was with her predecessor, she was under a lot of pressure, because he and his friends were both graduates of famous American universities, and their academic qualifications were very average, and they felt that they would be looked down upon by each other.

Cai Kangyong asked the friend if it was the other party who "suppressed" her in terms of academic qualifications. As a result, the girl denied it, saying that her predecessor had never mentioned such a topic, all of which was guessed by herself.

This is the typical inferiority complex at work. Everyone has a "perfect" self in their hearts, but everyone can't do this perfection: maybe not beautiful enough, maybe not rich enough, or maybe not enough education... More or less, there are flaws.

Finally, Cai Kangyong concluded:

"Inferiority is a stumbling block for yourself, life is only once, but don't let this stone grow bigger and bigger, and hinder yourself." 」

Remember, the ugly duckling only needs to be approved by the ugly duckling, and does not have to care about the evaluation of the white swan.

02

Easy to be moved, even deceived

Women who lack love for a long time often see through the red dust on the surface, but they are extremely eager to have a real love in their hearts.

So as soon as someone shows love, they immediately fall into the point of being moved. With less contact with the opposite sex, it will be difficult for them to distinguish between "true love" and "false intentions", so it is easy to be deceived.

Reader Xiao Yu once said when chatting with me that he felt that her boyfriend was very "good" to himself: WeChat was full of concern for her, cooled down to remind her to dress, reminded her to drink more hot water when she was sick, and promised to buy her this and buy that in the future when visiting the mall...

But in fact, after I asked, I found out that her boyfriend often "traveled", was not around when he was sick, and never bought her anything of real value.

Venus once said: "When my daughter grows up, I will tell her that if a man is upset that you squeeze the bus, complains that you do not eat on time, reminds you that drinking will hurt your body, tells you to come home from work on a rainy day to pay attention to safety, and sends funny text messages to coax you when you are sick...

Please ignore him and then be with the man who can drive you, be sick with you, take you to dinner, pick you up from work, and tell you , 'Don't do your broken job', and then really dump a bank card for you. ”

Regarding love, it is always a matter of hearing and seeing is believing.

Even after a long gap period, don't be blindly moved by some small sweet words.

03

Sensitive and fragile, whimsical

Sensitive mind is a major manifestation of long-term lack of love. This type of person tends to pay special attention to the emotions and thoughts of others, and thinks about the people around them everywhere.

They will become cautious, afraid that they will accidentally say the wrong thing and offend others, and they will often speculate about other people's preferences. This type of woman is the most sensible and painful.

Lin Daiyu in the famous book "Dream of the Red Chamber" is a typical example of a sensitive girl. Because of various circumstances, she and Baoyu fell in love at first sight and deeply loved each other. However, no matter how close Baoyu was, Dai Yu always had a "sense of uncertainty" in her heart, and when she felt a little wind and grass, she couldn't help but lose her temper and question.

From a psychological point of view, this is inextricably linked to the living environment under the fence where her parents died. Due to the long-term lack of love, the mind is becoming more and more sensitive, and more and more attention is paid to the views of the people around him.

For such a girl, what I want to say is: I hope that you will no longer be afraid of your hands and feet, no matter whether there is anyone who loves, the first thing to do is to love yourself.

In fact, everyone is a universe, an independent individual. It really doesn't matter if there is love or not, the important thing is to be yourself.

The reason why I wrote this article is to give a little reminder to female friends who have long lacked love to see if they have the above three situations.

Finally, I would like to say that the meaning of love is not to save, nor to pull, but to enjoy one's own ease and tolerate the existence of the other party.

It's best to have love, it doesn't matter if it doesn't, as long as you love yourself.

About the Author: Mo Yan, a psychology researcher and expert on millions of female emotions, uses words to speak for women.

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