Xiaoxin has two children, the children are complete, the son is younger, and the mother is very sticky; the daughter is older, and she is in high school, and she says that "the daughter is the mother's intimate little cotton jacket", but the daughter and the mother are not close at all, do not communicate with the mother much, and everything is decided by themselves, and they do not discuss with the family.
The mother sighed with some sadness, "The child is too old to help the mother!" "Not by the mother sad, the child grows up and the mother is not close, there is a reason, not the child is indifferent, in the child's childhood mother found out in time, early correction, the relationship between the mother and the child will be more intimate."
When the child grows up, "he is not close to his mother", and there are 2 signs when he is a child, and the mother finds out early and guides early:
1. I don't like to have physical contact with my mother
Like to hug and kiss with the mother, is the child and the mother of the most intimate physical contact, if there are often these actions, indicating that the child and the mother are very close.
If the child does not like to hug the mother, or even some resistance, it means that the psychological rejection of the mother, dislike of the mother, instinctive rejection.
2, rarely talk to the mother
If the child is very close to the mother, he will usually be very relaxed and natural in front of the mother, say whatever he wants, talk endlessly, and do not worry about the mother's criticism or accusation, because the child has the ability to explain.
Children who are not close to their mothers, with their mothers, talk very little, and go to their own affairs after three words and two words. The mother wanted to nag a few words, and the child waved his hand, saying that he was busy, turned and walked away.
How to bring your child and mom closer:
1. Hug your child more
Mothers need to think about whether they usually give their children little care and do not often hug their children, resulting in children being unaccustomed to intimate behavior and lacking physical communication.
Hug the child more, hand in hand, break the barriers and defense lines in the child's heart, melt the child's heart with true feelings and warmth, pay attention to the child's emotional needs, and interact more, which will slowly become intimate.
2. Encourage your child more
Mothers should pay attention to whether they are usually too harsh on their children, often accuse and criticize children, let children have no self-confidence in front of their mothers, worry about saying a few words to their mothers, do not know where to say wrong, be scolded, simply more than one thing is better than less, become silent.
Mothers should start from the child's point of view, less criticism of the child, more encouragement of the child, even if the child has done something improper, kind reminder, rather than sarcasm, destroy the child's self-esteem, so that the child can establish a sense of intimacy with the mother, so that the child feels the mother's care and love for himself.
The intimate mother-child relationship is enviable, and it is also a very natural thing, finding that the child has these two signs, the mother finds out early and guides early, first change herself, in order to change the child, so that the parent-child relationship is more harmonious, more intimate, and the family is happy.
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