As the saying goes: Talk to good people, warm as cloth. Words that hurt people hurt like knives. A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June.
Well-spoken parents are role models for their children and the luck of their children's lives.
High-level parents never say these 3 things in front of their children.
1
Don't say anything about complaining about your family
Psychologist Daniel Goleman once said, "Family life is the first school we learn about emotions." "
The parents' speech and behavior, and the way they deal with things, all directly affect the establishment of children's three views.
When parents always say things about complaining about their families in front of their children, they will make the children subconsciously prejudice against the party being said, or learn the way parents speak and complain about others.
Dad complains that Mom is nagging and strong, Mom complains that Dad is not home, not self-motivated, so that in the child will feel that parents are not in love, the family is not harmonious, Mom and Dad are not perfect.
A psychologist once said: A good husband and wife relationship is the premise of a good parent-child relationship, and it is also the foundation of a good family relationship.
Parents have a good relationship and a harmonious family atmosphere, so that the child's body and mind can be healthy.
For children, holding their father in their left hand and their mother in their right hand is the happiest thing.
Loving parents are the foundation of family happiness, if parents are cold and cold every day, then the biggest harm is only the child.
In order for children to establish the correct three views, the heart is full of sunshine and love, parents must first set a good example, do not complain about the shortcomings of either side in front of their children.
Parental love is the best gift for children.
2
Don't say demeaning things about children
In life, we often encounter greetings between two parents:
Parent A: Your children are really well-behaved and cute, smart and sensible, my children have poor academic performance, they know that they are naughty and mischievous, and I am really going to be annoyed.
Parent B: The child is a little lively, my child is good at learning, but it is a stuffy gourd, others bully her like a wood like a stupid head, hey, it's really annoying.
Parents speak freely and exchange their experiences, but they completely ignore the impact of their words on the children around them.
There is an old Chinese saying called "teach the son before the person, teach the wife behind the back".
In reality, many parents feel that teaching their children in front of people will appear to be very responsible and strict with their children, and they will have face.
I even feel that only by embarrassing and hitting the child will the child have a long memory and will not make the same mistake again.
But in fact, parents in front of people to belittle the child's words will deeply hurt the child's self-esteem, the derogatory words from the mouth of others the child will be angry, from the mouth of the parents out of the mouth is sad and helpless.
Jimmy said that the child would rather be stabbed by a cactus than hear the adults sneer at him.
Parents who can speak well are qualified parents and can cultivate happy children!
3
Don't say bad things about teachers
The ancient saying: "To learn is nothing more than to respect the teacher", respect for the teacher is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, children respect the teacher, in order to correct the learning attitude, respect knowledge, respect the classroom.
Only when parents respect teachers can they actively cooperate with teachers and do a good job in their children's education.
The attitude of parents towards their children determines the attitude of teachers towards their children.
Many parents of top students usually attach great importance to their children's education, and will also take the initiative to cooperate with the work of teachers and schools, and will not feel that their children have been wronged because the teachers are strict with their children, and they will add up to the teachers in front of the children.
On the contrary, parents with poor grades often disdain the teacher, either disobeying the teacher's arrangement or complaining about the teacher in front of the child.
Children who make mistakes at school are punished by the teacher, and parents can also move the teacher to go to the school to find the teacher theory.
In order to "protect" children, parents always feel that the teacher is not good for the child, can always pick out the fault for the teacher, complain more in front of the child, and the child's goodwill for the teacher is reduced. So they began to disrespect the teacher and did not study well.
As the saying goes, education is a quiet supportive relationship.
Parents support teachers, teachers support children, in order to really do a good job in children's education.
Teachers teach and educate people in school, parents teach by example at home, only parents respect teachers, children can believe in teachers more, respect teachers, and fall in love with learning.
The future I want is to see a sense of security
Only in this way can children study hard in school and grow up quickly.
Not saying bad things about the teacher in front of the child is responsible for the child.
Parents are a mirror of their children, and the influence of parents' words and deeds on children is crucial.
Parents always complain that their children are disobedient and unmotivated. Sometimes it's really not that children are "disobedient", in fact, as parents, we don't talk much.
Learning to speak is a compulsory course for parents, and high-level parents will not speak the above three words.